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The War on Men

Posted by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 7:52 AM
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The war on men

By Suzanne Venker

Published November 24, 2012

FoxNews.com

The battle of the sexes is alive and well. According to Pew Research Center, the share of women ages eighteen to thirty-four that say having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in their lives rose nine percentage points since 1997 - from 28 percent to 37 percent. For men, the opposite occurred. The share voicing this opinion dropped, from 35 percent to 29 percent.

Believe it or not, modern women want to get married. Trouble is, men don't.

The so-called dearth of good men (read: marriageable men) has been a hot subject in the media as of late. Much of the coverage has been in response to the fact that for the first time in history, women have become the majority of the U.S. workforce. They're also getting most of the college degrees. The problem? This new phenomenon has changed the dance between men and women.  

As the author of three books on the American family and its intersection with pop culture, I've spent thirteen years examining social agendas as they pertain to sex, parenting, and gender roles. During this time, I've spoken with hundreds, if not thousands, of men and women. And in doing so, I've accidentally stumbled upon a subculture of men who've told me, in no uncertain terms, that they're never getting married. When I ask them why, the answer is always the same.

Women aren't women anymore.

To say gender relations have changed dramatically is an understatement. Ever since the sexual revolution, there has been a profound overhaul in the way men and women interact. Men haven't changed much - they had no revolution that demanded it - but women have changed dramatically.

In a nutshell, women are angry. They're also defensive, though often unknowingly. That's because they've been raised to think of men as the enemy. Armed with this new attitude, women pushed men off their pedestal (women had their own pedestal, but feminists convinced them otherwise) and climbed up to take what they were taught to believe was rightfully theirs.

Now the men have nowhere to go.

It is precisely this dynamic - women good/men bad - that has destroyed the relationship between the sexes. Yet somehow, men are still to blame when love goes awry. Heck, men have been to blame since feminists first took to the streets in the 1970s.

But what if the dearth of good men, and ongoing battle of the sexes, is - hold on to your seats - women's fault?

You'll never hear that in the media. All the articles and books (and television programs, for that matter) put women front and center, while men and children sit in the back seat. But after decades of browbeating the American male, men are tired. Tired of being told there's something fundamentally wrong with them. Tired of being told that if women aren't happy, it's men's fault.

Contrary to what feminists like Hanna Rosin, author of The End of Men, say, the so-called rise of women has not threatened men. It has pissed them off. It has also undermined their ability to become self-sufficient in the hopes of someday supporting a family. Men want to love women, not compete with them. They want to provide for and protect their families - it's in their DNA. But modern women won't let them.

It's all so unfortunate - for women, not men. Feminism serves men very well: they can have sex at hello and even live with their girlfriends with no responsibilities whatsoever.

It's the women who lose. Not only are they saddled with the consequences of sex, by dismissing male nature they're forever seeking a balanced life. The fact is, women need men's linear career goals - they need men to pick up the slack at the office - in order to live the balanced life they seek.

So if men today are slackers, and if they're retreating from marriage en masse, women should look in the mirror and ask themselves what role they've played to bring about this transformation.

Fortunately, there is good news: women have the power to turn everything around. All they have to do is surrender to their nature - their femininity - and let men surrender to theirs.

If they do, marriageable men will come out of the woodwork.

Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2012/11/24/war-on-men/#ixzz2DKfURhjE

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romalove
by Roma on Nov. 26, 2012 at 7:55 AM
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 What a bunch of hooey.  It's the women's fault that the men don't want to get married?  Because they can take care of themselves and their families?

Women have to "surrender to their nature - their femininity - and let men surrender to theirs"?  What the heck does that mean?  Fainting onto couches, asking for smelling salts, gazing adoringly up at men and asking them to open pickle jars because we don't have the strength?

GIANT eyeroll

mikiemom
by Ruby Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 8:00 AM
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Ugh, this is disgusting. what the hell is wrong with people.

rfurlongg
by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 8:01 AM
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Cultural roles change over time. They always have. It is human nature to resist change, but ultimately most people adapt. I have no doubt men will adapt and redefine their role as men.
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GLWerth
by Gina on Nov. 26, 2012 at 8:01 AM
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So, if women would just leave the workforce and stay at home, everything would be just fine.

Stuff like this just makes me sad, sad that there are people out there who believe this crap.

GLWerth
by Gina on Nov. 26, 2012 at 8:03 AM
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I must confess to having my husband open pickle jars at times.

He is also the designated bat removal specialist in our home, during our annual bat invasions. But, I kill my own spiders and centipedes these days!

Quoting romalove:

 What a bunch of hooey.  It's the women's fault that the men don't want to get married?  Because they can take care of themselves and their families?

Women have to "surrender to their nature - their femininity - and let men surrender to theirs"?  What the heck does that mean?  Fainting onto couches, asking for smelling salts, gazing adoringly up at men and asking them to open pickle jars because we don't have the strength?

GIANT eyeroll


AmberRose1122
by Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 8:04 AM
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Fucking Fox news.
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DieselsMom
by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 8:05 AM
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I completely agree with this!! So many women grow old searching for one of the "good guys" but those guys are looking for GOOD WOMEN...not egotystical partners that are constantly competing and trying to grey the lines of responsibility...

momtoscott
by Platinum Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 8:16 AM

 Bullshit. 

MagicTemptation
by Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 8:18 AM
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We are the problem with men? Huh... I thought it was their addiction to video games, blaring music that degrade women, pants saggin to their knees. 

Men have changed as well and those things have nothing to do with the way women are now. In many homes now women are the bread winners. A lot of times they wouldn't have to be if they took the initiative and drive that they used to. 

punky3175
by Punky on Nov. 26, 2012 at 8:20 AM
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Ya know - I've tried gazing up at them adoringly while twirling my hair and telling them how smart they are and they laugh at me while slowly backing awa.  I don't get it.  Guess I'm destined to be a single mom forever...

Quoting romalove:

 What a bunch of hooey.  It's the women's fault that the men don't want to get married?  Because they can take care of themselves and their families?

Women have to "surrender to their nature - their femininity - and let men surrender to theirs"?  What the heck does that mean?  Fainting onto couches, asking for smelling salts, gazing adoringly up at men and asking them to open pickle jars because we don't have the strength?

GIANT eyeroll

 

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