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Jada Pinkett Smith Speaks Out

Posted by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:27 AM
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Jada Pinkett Smith: Lay Off Willow’s Hair!

11/28/2012 AT 06:00 PM ET

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Whether daughter Willow is whipping it back and forth orcutting it all offJada Pinkett Smith is committed to allowing her  daughter wear her hair any way she chooses.

The actress and mom of two took to her Facebook page to address critics of her parenting style, particularly those who questioned why she “let” her 12-year-old chop off her locks and sport a super-short style a few months ago.

“This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination,” she writes.

Pinkett Smith, also mother to Jaden, 14, continues: “Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair.”

She also added that “even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires.”

And it sounds like she has husband Will Smith‘s full support. “When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you teach her that you’re in control of her body?” the actor told Parade earlier this year.

“If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world.”

– Shakthi Jothianandan


by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:27 AM
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momnivorous
by New Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:28 AM
I love this.
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lilblu399
by Bronze Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:30 AM
Way to go mom! My 5yo can grow or cut his hair whenever and when my DD gets old enough I will let her pick her hair styles, it's just hair.
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PortiaRose
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:33 AM
Its true.
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masonmomma
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:33 AM
Well said
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Arroree
by Ruby Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:37 AM
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Quoting lilblu399:

Way to go mom! My 5yo can grow or cut his hair whenever and when my DD gets old enough I will let her pick her hair styles, it's just hair.

Same here, my 5yr old son informed me last month that he didn't want his hair cut anymore because he wanted it to get long like mine. Now a month later he's standing strong on the no hair cut thing. Meanwhile my 4yo told me today that his bangs are too long and he needs it all cut, so tomorrow is haircut day for little brother. Funny how they're such opposites about this stuff.  As you say, it's just hair, they can do whatever they want with it, if they change their minds it can always be cut or grow back. It's an easy way to let them have a bit of personal freedom and like the Smiths said "control over their own body"

Goodwoman614
by Satan on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:39 AM

Braaaaaavo!

mama3814
by Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:41 AM

I've always allowed my children to express themselves through their choice of hairstyle. My son sported a really out of control Afro for a while, and my daughter sported a really tall Mohawk for a while. It's just hair. Why not allow children to express their own personalities?

GotSomeKids
by Silver Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:41 AM

clapping

queenanne
by Silver Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:45 AM

 

“If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world.”

 

 pure brilliance

terpmama
by Silver Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:05 AM
Our rule (same as my parents) is nothing permanent until you're 18 without discussing it with us (doesn't mean no just means we have some questions for you to think about)
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