I've about had all one person can take.....long...sorry...venting and asking a question! :)
Ok I am 33 years old....3 kids...happily married sahm for about 9 years....married for 12..nice home.....and my mother is driving me to the looney bin!
I am only posting to see if I am wrong or she is....
She is what you might call overprotective, worrier, OCD possibly. I have always let her have to much control over my life...its easier than fighting her I guess.
But lately...its just been hell trying to deal with it.
Two nights ago...she volunteered to come over after work to help me with the kids..my hubby was working very late and I was SICK! (flu and running a high temp)
I was very grateful.....been taking care of them all day....needed a break and time to get over this flu!
So she comes over and begins her list of what I need to do......stupid me.....I thought I could just relax for a min while she was here.
First I needed to have separate towels....for everyone in the house...to try not to spread germs....good idea...but I am sick...in survival mode....just trying to keep the kids fed and diapers changed. ANd she doesnt just say it once..like a zillion times till my head explodes
THEN! Heaven forbid....our downstairs door wasnt LOCKED!!!!! ANd it doesnt matter that its NOT AN OUTSIDE DOOR!!!! It leads to our storage area which has another door to the outside that was locked...heard about that till my head was going to explode!
THEN....she told me she thought all the rooms in the house needed a fire extinguisher......WHY? if the house is on fire...I am going to get my kids OUT OF THE HOUSE!!!! Not fumble around with an extinguisher....so she talked about that until my head was going to explode.
Then the straw that broke the camels back....she decided the kids all needed an extra blanket on their bed.....I said..."they are fine" I would rather them not get too hot.....I said this 4 to 5 different times. I walk into their bedrooms a few min later....guess what BLANKETS ON THEIR BEDS ANYWAYS!!!!! My head DID EXPLODE!
I yelled I stomped my feet until she left....
So much for the help!!!!!! I felt worse after she left...physically and mentally b/c i had gotten so angry!
And this is NOT the only time these things happen...this type of conversation happens everytime she is around.
She is OCD and controlling! Clean freak.....and her way is the ONLY way to do things...and if you dont do it...she will talk and gripe until you give in....or just do it herself.
Am I crazy....did she overstep her bounds....how do I handle this. I love my mother I want to ENJOY her company...not dread her!!!!!