"It's the thought that counts": A most UN-Grateful Post
I have taught my children the old adage "It's the thought that counts" when it comes to gracious gift receiving. HOWEVER- at a certain point in time, even "I" know how little thought goes into a gift given. My mil for the past 10 years is a horrible gift-giver. It's not about quantity. It's a quality thing. No thought goes into her gifts to her 3 grandchildren (her son's children- my dh and mine). For her other grand-daughter thats another story.
For 10 yars, my children get a check or cash between $25-$50. They usually get stickers to go along with this. Mind you, they are now 17 and 15. This year, ds got a mp3 player (he has an ipod and mil knows this); dd got notecards. My 10yo got a few boxes of ornanments. He's 10 years old.
I know, I sound most un-grateful. It seems to me, my mil does not take the time to know her grandchildren. She does not take the time to ask them what they like. She does not ask even her son what the kids would like. The stickers and notecards , they sit in a drwaer and eventually make their way to the garbage. The mp3 player will be passed along to the next toy drive or garage sale. I find it is a waste of my mil money to spend on such stuff the kids will never use. If only she took the time. I think that is what hurts my chidlren. That she does not know them. My children recognize that their grandmother fails to take the time. They feel they are not loved because she does not take the time to know who they are and what interests them or who they are as people.
It's not always the thought that counts. Sometimes it 's not even a thought worth counting.