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Would you support condom dispensers in your local high school?

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Condom Dispensers Could Be Coming to a High School Near You

Posted by Jeanne Sager on December 27, 2012

condomsReady for a twist in the old "should teenagers have access to birth control" debate? Some 22 high schools in Philadelphia will be welcoming students back in the new year with brand new condom dispensers. So is this a matter of schools overstepping their bounds and infringing on parents rights? Or is this just one way the schools fulfill their role in kids' lives?

After all, Philadelphia's deputy mayor of health was questioned about the condom dispensers, and he explained that schools are partners with parents in raising kids. Put it that way, and schools giving our kids condoms is really the responsible thing to do, right?

Let's just think about this for a minute.

It's ultimately a parent's responsibility to keep kids safe. That's why most parents who really think things through would side with preventing STDs over pretending their precious little snowflake will never ever ever have sex.

But parents have already ceded a significant amount of control over the welfare of our kids to the schools. We more or less have to, considering our kids typically spend more of their waking hours on a school campus than they do with us.

We already expect the schools to help us prepare our kids for the real world, expanding classes beyond mere reading, writing, and 'rithmetic to life skills' training in the likes of driving and often basic parenting skills. In many places, sex ed is even part of the curriculum (and rightly so).

So why not? Why shouldn't schools be as proactive as parents are or at least as parents should be? Why shouldn't they help us prepare kids for safe sex?

Would you support condom dispensers in your local high school?

by on Dec. 27, 2012 at 10:02 AM
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Bieg9093
by Bronze Member on Dec. 27, 2012 at 5:42 PM
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Quoting queenanne:

 

Quoting nuclear_sugar:

I'd actually prefer they have to get them FROM someone- nurse, counselor, whatever. So that someone knows they are making these choices and can keep an eye on them. I do support them being available for free though.

Also, maybe it's the middle school teacher in me, but I can see them being wasted on tricks in class...kids getting them just to spit in them and put them on someone's chair, flick them at each other like rubber bands, etc

 having to get them from someone will most likely keep a number of kids from accessing them.  An example of a boy or girl who would NOT ask a counselor/nurse/whatever for condoms would be those high-achieving, honors, always "good" students. Often times, kids like that will have unprotected sex before they ever let on that they're having sex. There's a lot of pressure put on these kids from parents, teachers, coaches, etc. They don't want to disappoint anyone.

 That would have been me.  Not in a bajillion years would I have asked a person I knew for them.  A machine in the locker room would have met my needs.

As it was, the 7-11 met my needs too.  I only bought them from female cashiers though.

 

queenanne
by Silver Member on Dec. 27, 2012 at 6:23 PM

 I like the idea of having both options available. Good thinking!

Probably none of them should be having sex anyway....but they do. The more options for safe, protected sex...the better.

Quoting nuclear_sugar:

I know; I was one of those kids. Most embarrassed kids will get someone else to procure them, though. I'd still rather have SOME kind of accountability, so that the rest of the students know they would have someone to turn to who already knows that they have sex. It opens a door.



And I think that if someone is too embarrassed to get a condom from a nurse or counselor, they likely shouldn't be having sex anyway.



I would think that having a for-pay dispenser would discourage at LEAST the same amount of students from getting condoms as would handing them out FREE from a nurse. What if you're horny and don't have any change?    hahahahaha



Now, if both options were available in a school, I could handle that.



Quoting queenanne:

 



Quoting nuclear_sugar:

I'd actually prefer they have to get them FROM someone- nurse, counselor, whatever. So that someone knows they are making these choices and can keep an eye on them. I do support them being available for free though.

Also, maybe it's the middle school teacher in me, but I can see them being wasted on tricks in class...kids getting them just to spit in them and put them on someone's chair, flick them at each other like rubber bands, etc


 having to get them from someone will most likely keep a number of kids from accessing them.  An example of a boy or girl who would NOT ask a counselor/nurse/whatever for condoms would be those high-achieving, honors, always "good" students. Often times, kids like that will have unprotected sex before they ever let on that they're having sex. There's a lot of pressure put on these kids from parents, teachers, coaches, etc. They don't want to disappoint anyone.



 

catrig
by Member on Dec. 27, 2012 at 6:29 PM
yes
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Stephanie329
by Platinum Member on Dec. 27, 2012 at 6:53 PM
Sure
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ShadowLark
by Bronze Member on Dec. 27, 2012 at 6:58 PM
Definitely!
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nuclear_sugar
by Jaye on Dec. 27, 2012 at 7:09 PM
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* hangs head*

I used to swipe them from Wal-Mart until the self-checkout line made its way to my town. But I got them.


Quoting Bieg9093:

 


Quoting queenanne:


 


Quoting nuclear_sugar:

I'd actually prefer they have to get them FROM someone- nurse, counselor, whatever. So that someone knows they are making these choices and can keep an eye on them. I do support them being available for free though.

Also, maybe it's the middle school teacher in me, but I can see them being wasted on tricks in class...kids getting them just to spit in them and put them on someone's chair, flick them at each other like rubber bands, etc

 having to get them from someone will most likely keep a number of kids from accessing them.  An example of a boy or girl who would NOT ask a counselor/nurse/whatever for condoms would be those high-achieving, honors, always "good" students. Often times, kids like that will have unprotected sex before they ever let on that they're having sex. There's a lot of pressure put on these kids from parents, teachers, coaches, etc. They don't want to disappoint anyone.


 That would have been me.  Not in a bajillion years would I have asked a person I knew for them.  A machine in the locker room would have met my needs.


As it was, the 7-11 met my needs too.  I only bought them from female cashiers though.


 


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boshs1andonly
by on Dec. 27, 2012 at 7:12 PM
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When I was in high school, they opened up a health care center, which had access to doctors and social workers. Because of them, I was able to get my first pap smear, and they gave me the resources to get on bc. Maybe some people would say thats overstepping their boundaries, but if it hadn't been for them, i doubt those things would have happened. And not that I advocate teen sex, but realistically, not having these will not reduce the likelihood of them doing it. 

nuclear_sugar
by Jaye on Dec. 27, 2012 at 7:15 PM
See, I support the idea of getting them from a nurse, but I didn't say anything about a lecture. What about a pamphlet on pregnancy and STDs? No lecture, just information as needed, and maybe the nurse or counselor's number or email address.

I look at condoms kind of like car keys. All teenagers want to drive... if you give them car keys, it doesn't mean they WILL drive, but there's a much higher possibility now that they have access to necessary components of driving. But would I send them on the road without instructing them first? Hell no. I'd make sure I knew they knew how to drive safely...I wouldn't just hand them my keys and say Bon voyage!

I just think kids need reminders...information is power and all that jazz.


Quoting pixie92:

yes a houndred times over yes. Every school needs a way kids can get condoms. Also im glad they arent making it a big issue where kids have to go talk to a nurse that may give a bad look or lecture that will keep them from getting the protection.

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nuclear_sugar
by Jaye on Dec. 27, 2012 at 7:17 PM
I would even compromise to say that I'd be ok with the dispenser if the condoms came with an info pamphlet and the number of a nurse/ counselor, maybe with the dispenser in clear view of the counselor's door so she/ he can monitor for repeat visitors.



Quoting queenanne:

 I like the idea of having both options available. Good thinking!



Probably none of them should be having sex anyway....but they do. The more options for safe, protected sex...the better.



Quoting nuclear_sugar:

I know; I was one of those kids. Most embarrassed kids will get someone else to procure them, though. I'd still rather have SOME kind of accountability, so that the rest of the students know they would have someone to turn to who already knows that they have sex. It opens a door.



And I think that if someone is too embarrassed to get a condom from a nurse or counselor, they likely shouldn't be having sex anyway.



I would think that having a for-pay dispenser would discourage at LEAST the same amount of students from getting condoms as would handing them out FREE from a nurse. What if you're horny and don't have any change?    hahahahaha



Now, if both options were available in a school, I could handle that.





Quoting queenanne:



 





Quoting nuclear_sugar:

I'd actually prefer they have to get them FROM someone- nurse, counselor, whatever. So that someone knows they are making these choices and can keep an eye on them. I do support them being available for free though.

Also, maybe it's the middle school teacher in me, but I can see them being wasted on tricks in class...kids getting them just to spit in them and put them on someone's chair, flick them at each other like rubber bands, etc




 having to get them from someone will most likely keep a number of kids from accessing them.  An example of a boy or girl who would NOT ask a counselor/nurse/whatever for condoms would be those high-achieving, honors, always "good" students. Often times, kids like that will have unprotected sex before they ever let on that they're having sex. There's a lot of pressure put on these kids from parents, teachers, coaches, etc. They don't want to disappoint anyone.





 



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UpSheRises
by Platinum Member on Dec. 27, 2012 at 7:20 PM
Without a doubt.
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