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Why does everyone question my sons name?? Edit

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I don't mind that it's questioned, so much as when people won't let it go. I used to explain that Bubba was a nickname but then I would be pestered by people wanting to know his real name and God forbid they find out, they'll call him it. Which drives him up the wall. So I finally just stopped explaining and started saying, Yes this is his real name.

Yesterday at 7-11 they guy behind the counter asked what my son's name was. (we're regulars) I told him Bubba. He paused for a sec and said, "Really?" "Is that his real name?" I looked him dead in the eye and said "Yes it is."

That is the name my son chose. If he wants people to know what his given name is, he'll tell them.

Now I know it's an unusual name. But so is my daughter's Audi. Yet no one goes around demanding to know her real name. So what gives?

by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:28 PM
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terpmama
by Bronze Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:37 PM
Because its an odd name to be a legal name... It tends to be a nick name. So I would be surprised if that were someone's given/ real name...
TrouserMouse
by Bronze Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:37 PM
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 Maybe because Bubba is typically a nickname for many families.  So, when you answer them as if it is his real name, I think it just naturally causes them to be surprised.  We call all little boys Bubba in my family, but I do not know anyone with that as a real name.  If you just said, "He goes by Bubba." they wouldn't even think twice about it.

LauraKW
by "Dude!" on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:38 PM

 The name is very often used as a negative stereotype.

dmarie2101
by Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:39 PM

bc its a nickname, not a "real" name to most. all you had to say was "he goes by" instead of his real, sacred, secret name.

talia-mom
by Gold Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:39 PM
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Do you have a banjo?

paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:39 PM

That thing is, I introcuced him as Bubba. If someone tells me their name, that's what I assume they want to be called. For instance, I know a Loo loo (Yes that's how she spells it,lol) I never asked what her given name is, I just call her her Loo loo out of respect.

I just expected everyone else to do the same. But I can see where you're coming from.

Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 Maybe because for a lot of people, at least around here, Bubba is a name only family or close friends call a young boy. Not strangers!! I would be a irked if someone I didn't know called my son by his nickname. Maybe the person was trying to be respectful? 


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rfurlongg
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:42 PM
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Wow, he really must not like his given name. I will generally call people whatever they introduce themselves as. If he prefers to be called Bubba, he should probably get use odd looks now and then. 

Quoting paganbaby:

I asked him if I could say and he said NO! It's Bubba! LOL

Quoting rfurlongg:

Since we don't interact with your son, can you tell us his real name ;-)?



paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:44 PM

I may be odd but about this. He chose this name when he was 2 and demanded to be called it ever since. So if anyone's odd, it's him,lol.

Quoting katy_kay08:

because they make the mistake of thinking you aren't odd.  


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talia-mom
by Gold Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:44 PM

If he insists on Bubba, be prepared for people to think he and your family is certain way.   Many are going to look down on you.   You may not care, but when he is applying for scholarships, Bubba vs Jonathan is going to put him at a disadvantage. 

TruthSeeker.
by Milami on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:45 PM

 I guess that makes sense. I don't introduce my son by his nickname, but if I called him by his nickname and someone repeated it, I would be none too happy about it.

 Incidently, I'm sure your sons given name is a good one regardless of whether he likes it or not. My son has a very different name that I don't share with strangers either. Actually, I don't think my son shares his name with any other person in the entire US :)

Quoting paganbaby:

That thing is, I introcuced him as Bubba. If someone tells me their name, that's what I assume they want to be called. For instance, I know a Loo loo (Yes that's how she spells it,lol) I never asked what her given name is, I just call her her Loo loo out of respect.

I just expected everyone else to do the same. But I can see where you're coming from.

Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 Maybe because for a lot of people, at least around here, Bubba is a name only family or close friends call a young boy. Not strangers!! I would be a irked if someone I didn't know called my son by his nickname. Maybe the person was trying to be respectful? 


 

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