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I don't mind that it's questioned, so much as when people won't let it go. I used to explain that Bubba was a nickname but then I would be pestered by people wanting to know his real name and God forbid they find out, they'll call him it. Which drives him up the wall. So I finally just stopped explaining and started saying, Yes this is his real name.

Yesterday at 7-11 they guy behind the counter asked what my son's name was. (we're regulars) I told him Bubba. He paused for a sec and said, "Really?" "Is that his real name?" I looked him dead in the eye and said "Yes it is."

That is the name my son chose. If he wants people to know what his given name is, he'll tell them.

Now I know it's an unusual name. But so is my daughter's Audi. Yet no one goes around demanding to know her real name. So what gives?

by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:28 PM
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laineylarue
by Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:24 PM

haha I am so glad that I am not the only one!  Yesterday at the DDS office he was called EX ander... I just let it go & said his name correctly when I was talking to the tech.  We also gave him a fairly "normal" middle name ( Michael) in case he wanted to go by it later but so far so good :)  

Quoting XandersMomma07:

I know what you mean my family actually told me in the hospital when he was born that th nurses wrote it wrong because it should be spelled Zander. My bf's dad can't pronounce it right either he says its a wierd name but calls him Sander or Lander. The way I see it if he don't like his first name when he's older he can use the middle one which is nicholas.

Quoting laineylarue:

I have a Xander, he's 7 & I got the same thing!  They even had to make sure I was spelling it corectly LOL  Oh & to top it off my 10 yr olds name is Kaiden..gasp...I have all kinds of crazy going on here haha

Quoting XandersMomma07:

Not a problem. I understand being defensive when it comes to your kid, I'm the same way. My own family told me I was crazy for naming my son Xander.  It would be pretty funny to hear annouced though people would think I had lost my mind for giving a kid that for a name. LOL

Quoting paganbaby:

I'm sorry, you're right. I was just being a tad defensive.

Idk, I think it would be cute to hear weasel over the intercom LOL

Quoting XandersMomma07:

I wasn't saying anything about calling him Bubba that is your choice and his choice until you and your son decide differently.  My son would prefer to be called the weasel but he started school (pre k) this year and I didn't think that would go well because he is supposed to learn his name address and all that. I can just imagine him getting lost in a store and someone trying to help him and across the loudspeaker they say can the parents of the weasel please come to the courtesy desk. At least Bubba wouldn't be bad for that lol.

Quoting paganbaby:

If he wants to use his real name later that's great. In the mean time I'll continue calling him Bubba.

And totally respect your son wanting to be called Xander. My son's the exact opposite though. He'll tell you, don't call me Kaleb, call be Bubba,lol.

Quoting XandersMomma07:

Instead of saying it his real name tell people that he goes by Bubba. As he gets older he will want to use his real name. It is great that you let him have a say in what he wants to be known as but in some cases you have to be careful. For example I have a little stuffed weasel I have had since I was little whenmy son was 2 he asked what it was, I told him and he started saying I'm the weasel, our electric went out one night and he all of a sudden yells out I'm the weasel inthe dark (I couldn't help but laugh) He is 5 now and if it was up to him he would still be the Weasel so its his nickname but if someone calls him that besides family he will tell them NO my name is Xander.








talia-mom
by Gold Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:25 PM
Or telling you the reality.


Quoting lizzielouaf:

Now you're just being a responding like a petulant child.


Quoting talia-mom:

If you think Nurse Bubba is going to be in demand, okay.





Quoting laineylarue:

My brother's nickname is Bubba & he has always gone by it, yet he had a good run in the navy,  he is a city firefighter & is finishing up his pre-reqs for nursing school.   I don't think in his 27 yrs it has done him any harm.  

Quoting talia-mom:

Do you have a professional job? If not, you have no clue what you are doing to him. Allowing him to live his life as Bubba is going to hurt him.








Quoting paganbaby:

That's why he has a professional name to fall back on if he choses to use it. I myself go by my nickname and have ever since I was a baby. My mom gave me a "grown up" name as well but I haven't had the desire to use it.

Quoting talia-mom:

If he insists on Bubba, be prepared for people to think he and your family is certain way.   Many are going to look down on you.   You may not care, but when he is applying for scholarships, Bubba vs Jonathan is going to put him at a disadvantage. 










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survivorinohio
by René on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:25 PM
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My grandson is also Bubba,  He  answers to his given name fine and has no issues with it at all, they just call him Bubba.

Danyell9301
by New Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:30 PM
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I grow up with a few guys called Bubba. Only one of them Bubba was his real name. There are people out there who will always question a childs name. Not much to do, but just go with the flow. If the child wants to be clled by their given name fine, but if they want to be call by a nickname thats fine too. 

lizzielouaf
by Gold Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:31 PM
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Clearly your "reality" is not the reality for Bubba the soon to be nurse. If you legitimately can not see how your comments are venomous regarding the name of a child, then in the words of John Boehner...

Quoting talia-mom:

Or telling you the reality.


Quoting lizzielouaf:

Now you're just being a responding like a petulant child.


Quoting talia-mom:

If you think Nurse Bubba is going to be in demand, okay.





Quoting laineylarue:

My brother's nickname is Bubba & he has always gone by it, yet he had a good run in the navy,  he is a city firefighter & is finishing up his pre-reqs for nursing school.   I don't think in his 27 yrs it has done him any harm.  

Quoting talia-mom:

Do you have a professional job? If not, you have no clue what you are doing to him. Allowing him to live his life as Bubba is going to hurt him.








Quoting paganbaby:

That's why he has a professional name to fall back on if he choses to use it. I myself go by my nickname and have ever since I was a baby. My mom gave me a "grown up" name as well but I haven't had the desire to use it.

Quoting talia-mom:

If he insists on Bubba, be prepared for people to think he and your family is certain way.   Many are going to look down on you.   You may not care, but when he is applying for scholarships, Bubba vs Jonathan is going to put him at a disadvantage. 











XandersMomma07
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:34 PM
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I have gotten that one too but I don't even have to correct it cause I guess my 5 year old likes his name because he will say No my name is Xander. He corrects them himself His grandad (bfs dad) calls him pee wee because he was a preemie and so small. He will correct him to he hates to be called pee wee.

Quoting laineylarue:

haha I am so glad that I am not the only one!  Yesterday at the DDS office he was called EX ander... I just let it go & said his name correctly when I was talking to the tech.  We also gave him a fairly "normal" middle name ( Michael) in case he wanted to go by it later but so far so good :)  

Quoting XandersMomma07:

I know what you mean my family actually told me in the hospital when he was born that th nurses wrote it wrong because it should be spelled Zander. My bf's dad can't pronounce it right either he says its a wierd name but calls him Sander or Lander. The way I see it if he don't like his first name when he's older he can use the middle one which is nicholas.

Quoting laineylarue:

I have a Xander, he's 7 & I got the same thing!  They even had to make sure I was spelling it corectly LOL  Oh & to top it off my 10 yr olds name is Kaiden..gasp...I have all kinds of crazy going on here haha

Quoting XandersMomma07:

Not a problem. I understand being defensive when it comes to your kid, I'm the same way. My own family told me I was crazy for naming my son Xander.  It would be pretty funny to hear annouced though people would think I had lost my mind for giving a kid that for a name. LOL

Quoting paganbaby:

I'm sorry, you're right. I was just being a tad defensive.

Idk, I think it would be cute to hear weasel over the intercom LOL

Quoting XandersMomma07:

I wasn't saying anything about calling him Bubba that is your choice and his choice until you and your son decide differently.  My son would prefer to be called the weasel but he started school (pre k) this year and I didn't think that would go well because he is supposed to learn his name address and all that. I can just imagine him getting lost in a store and someone trying to help him and across the loudspeaker they say can the parents of the weasel please come to the courtesy desk. At least Bubba wouldn't be bad for that lol.

Quoting paganbaby:

If he wants to use his real name later that's great. In the mean time I'll continue calling him Bubba.

And totally respect your son wanting to be called Xander. My son's the exact opposite though. He'll tell you, don't call me Kaleb, call be Bubba,lol.

Quoting XandersMomma07:

Instead of saying it his real name tell people that he goes by Bubba. As he gets older he will want to use his real name. It is great that you let him have a say in what he wants to be known as but in some cases you have to be careful. For example I have a little stuffed weasel I have had since I was little whenmy son was 2 he asked what it was, I told him and he started saying I'm the weasel, our electric went out one night and he all of a sudden yells out I'm the weasel inthe dark (I couldn't help but laugh) He is 5 now and if it was up to him he would still be the Weasel so its his nickname but if someone calls him that besides family he will tell them NO my name is Xander.


 


 


 



talia-mom
by Gold Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:34 PM
You didn't burst any bubble.
The reality is that people will associate the name with certain things and he will have to work harder to break those assumptions.


Quoting laineylarue:

It's ok, just let her be.  She's just mad that I busted her bubble :)  

Quoting lizzielouaf:

Now you're just being a responding like a petulant child.


Quoting talia-mom:

If you think Nurse Bubba is going to be in demand, okay.





Quoting laineylarue:

My brother's nickname is Bubba & he has always gone by it, yet he had a good run in the navy,  he is a city firefighter & is finishing up his pre-reqs for nursing school.   I don't think in his 27 yrs it has done him any harm.  

Quoting talia-mom:

Do you have a professional job? If not, you have no clue what you are doing to him. Allowing him to live his life as Bubba is going to hurt him.








Quoting paganbaby:

That's why he has a professional name to fall back on if he choses to use it. I myself go by my nickname and have ever since I was a baby. My mom gave me a "grown up" name as well but I haven't had the desire to use it.

Quoting talia-mom:

If he insists on Bubba, be prepared for people to think he and your family is certain way.   Many are going to look down on you.   You may not care, but when he is applying for scholarships, Bubba vs Jonathan is going to put him at a disadvantage. 











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talia-mom
by Gold Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:36 PM
He can get through school. But I bet a proper name goes on the applications. Bubba isn't getting many call backs.



Quoting lizzielouaf:

Clearly your "reality" is not the reality for Bubba the soon to be nurse. If you legitimately can not see how your comments are venomous regarding the name of a child, then in the words of John Boehner...



Quoting talia-mom:

Or telling you the reality.








Quoting lizzielouaf:

Now you're just being a responding like a petulant child.




Quoting talia-mom:

If you think Nurse Bubba is going to be in demand, okay.











Quoting laineylarue:

My brother's nickname is Bubba & he has always gone by it, yet he had a good run in the navy,  he is a city firefighter & is finishing up his pre-reqs for nursing school.   I don't think in his 27 yrs it has done him any harm.  

Quoting talia-mom:

Do you have a professional job? If not, you have no clue what you are doing to him. Allowing him to live his life as Bubba is going to hurt him.














Quoting paganbaby:

That's why he has a professional name to fall back on if he choses to use it. I myself go by my nickname and have ever since I was a baby. My mom gave me a "grown up" name as well but I haven't had the desire to use it.

Quoting talia-mom:

If he insists on Bubba, be prepared for people to think he and your family is certain way.   Many are going to look down on you.   You may not care, but when he is applying for scholarships, Bubba vs Jonathan is going to put him at a disadvantage. 



















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laineylarue
by Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:42 PM
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The way you say it makes it seem like there is something wrong with working hard for what you want.  My point is that no matter what your name is, you are going to have to work hard for what you want out of life. That's just how it is, a name doesn't always make it harder, it may in some cases but not always.

Quoting talia-mom:

You didn't burst any bubble.
The reality is that people will associate the name with certain things and he will have to work harder to break those assumptions.


Quoting laineylarue:

It's ok, just let her be.  She's just mad that I busted her bubble :)  

Quoting lizzielouaf:

Now you're just being a responding like a petulant child.


Quoting talia-mom:

If you think Nurse Bubba is going to be in demand, okay.





Quoting laineylarue:

My brother's nickname is Bubba & he has always gone by it, yet he had a good run in the navy,  he is a city firefighter & is finishing up his pre-reqs for nursing school.   I don't think in his 27 yrs it has done him any harm.  

Quoting talia-mom:

Do you have a professional job? If not, you have no clue what you are doing to him. Allowing him to live his life as Bubba is going to hurt him.








Quoting paganbaby:

That's why he has a professional name to fall back on if he choses to use it. I myself go by my nickname and have ever since I was a baby. My mom gave me a "grown up" name as well but I haven't had the desire to use it.

Quoting talia-mom:

If he insists on Bubba, be prepared for people to think he and your family is certain way.   Many are going to look down on you.   You may not care, but when he is applying for scholarships, Bubba vs Jonathan is going to put him at a disadvantage. 












laineylarue
by Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:52 PM
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HAHA of course his real name goes on applications, just as mine does since I go by my middle name not my 1st & I'm sure OP's sons name will go on his, it helps prospective employers do their background checks & such...I'm sorry but your arguments aren't really valid at this point,  you are arguing for the sake of arguing.  

Quoting talia-mom:

He can get through school. But I bet a proper name goes on the applications. Bubba isn't getting many call backs.



Quoting lizzielouaf:

Clearly your "reality" is not the reality for Bubba the soon to be nurse. If you legitimately can not see how your comments are venomous regarding the name of a child, then in the words of John Boehner...



Quoting talia-mom:

Or telling you the reality.








Quoting lizzielouaf:

Now you're just being a responding like a petulant child.




Quoting talia-mom:

If you think Nurse Bubba is going to be in demand, okay.











Quoting laineylarue:

My brother's nickname is Bubba & he has always gone by it, yet he had a good run in the navy,  he is a city firefighter & is finishing up his pre-reqs for nursing school.   I don't think in his 27 yrs it has done him any harm.  

Quoting talia-mom:

Do you have a professional job? If not, you have no clue what you are doing to him. Allowing him to live his life as Bubba is going to hurt him.














Quoting paganbaby:

That's why he has a professional name to fall back on if he choses to use it. I myself go by my nickname and have ever since I was a baby. My mom gave me a "grown up" name as well but I haven't had the desire to use it.

Quoting talia-mom:

If he insists on Bubba, be prepared for people to think he and your family is certain way.   Many are going to look down on you.   You may not care, but when he is applying for scholarships, Bubba vs Jonathan is going to put him at a disadvantage. 




















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