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Why does everyone question my sons name?? Edit

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I don't mind that it's questioned, so much as when people won't let it go. I used to explain that Bubba was a nickname but then I would be pestered by people wanting to know his real name and God forbid they find out, they'll call him it. Which drives him up the wall. So I finally just stopped explaining and started saying, Yes this is his real name.

Yesterday at 7-11 they guy behind the counter asked what my son's name was. (we're regulars) I told him Bubba. He paused for a sec and said, "Really?" "Is that his real name?" I looked him dead in the eye and said "Yes it is."

That is the name my son chose. If he wants people to know what his given name is, he'll tell them.

Now I know it's an unusual name. But so is my daughter's Audi. Yet no one goes around demanding to know her real name. So what gives?

by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:28 PM
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Veni.Vidi.Vici.
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:56 PM
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Quoting talia-mom:

Only?   Not at all.

She has a child she calls Bubba.   He didn't pull that name out of thin air at 2.

I just wondered if she had one and how backwoods she is if she thinks Bubba is actually a name that is going to help her child in life.

Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 

Quoting talia-mom:

Do you have a banjo?

 Just curious, but what is that suppose to mean? Only uncouth inbred male rapists call their kids Bubba? 


We call our son Bubba or Bubby. It's a term of endearment for brother.


talia-mom
by Gold Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:01 PM
I can get it at home. Out in the world, she is setting her child up for issues and problems later.

It may not be right, but it is the reality she is allowing to develop.


Quoting Veni.Vidi.Vici.:


Quoting talia-mom:

Only?   Not at all.

She has a child she calls Bubba.   He didn't pull that name out of thin air at 2.

I just wondered if she had one and how backwoods she is if she thinks Bubba is actually a name that is going to help her child in life.


Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 


Quoting talia-mom:


Do you have a banjo?


 Just curious, but what is that suppose to mean? Only uncouth inbred male rapists call their kids Bubba? 


We call our son Bubba or Bubby. It's a term of endearment for brother.


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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:04 PM

I've tried that but then I get bugged to reveal his real name so they can call him that.

Quoting TrouserMouse:

 Maybe because Bubba is typically a nickname for many families.  So, when you answer them as if it is his real name, I think it just naturally causes them to be surprised.  We call all little boys Bubba in my family, but I do not know anyone with that as a real name.  If you just said, "He goes by Bubba." they wouldn't even think twice about it.


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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:07 PM

Doesn't work.

Quoting dmarie2101:

bc its a nickname, not a "real" name to most. all you had to say was "he goes by" instead of his real, sacred, secret name.


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12hellokitty
by Platinum Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:08 PM
Quoting paganbaby:






If your son is old enough to pick his own name let him answer people when they ask his real name...
paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:10 PM

Oh absolutely. I wouldn't call someone something unless they told me that was thier name. Now I have a question, does your son go by his given name? Or another name other than what you call him?

Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 I guess that makes sense. I don't introduce my son by his nickname, but if I called him by his nickname and someone repeated it, I would be none too happy about it.

 Incidently, I'm sure your sons given name is a good one regardless of whether he likes it or not. My son has a very different name that I don't share with strangers either. Actually, I don't think my son shares his name with any other person in the entire US :)

Quoting paganbaby:

That thing is, I introcuced him as Bubba. If someone tells me their name, that's what I assume they want to be called. For instance, I know a Loo loo (Yes that's how she spells it,lol) I never asked what her given name is, I just call her her Loo loo out of respect.

I just expected everyone else to do the same. But I can see where you're coming from.

Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 Maybe because for a lot of people, at least around here, Bubba is a name only family or close friends call a young boy. Not strangers!! I would be a irked if someone I didn't know called my son by his nickname. Maybe the person was trying to be respectful? 


 


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sweet-a-kins
by Emerald Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:11 PM
I think he's being over sensitive and you are fostering that

So someone asks his real name and you tell them or he does and what?

He says I prefer bubba


My son is a JR, his name is Richard, he goes by RJ and has since birth

If someone asks his name he says RJ, and when they ask what it's short for he tells them...no big deal

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TruthSeeker.
by Milami on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:11 PM

 

Quoting katy_kay08:


Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 

Quoting talia-mom:

Do you have a banjo?

 Just curious, but what is that suppose to mean? Only uncouth inbred male rapists call their kids Bubba? 

only inbred male rapists have banjos?  

 I assumed the banjo comment was a Deliverance reference and I believe it was a correct assumption.

TruthSeeker.
by Milami on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:12 PM

  He goes by his given name. The only people that call him by his nicknames are family and his therapists.

Quoting paganbaby:

Oh absolutely. I wouldn't call someone something unless they told me that was thier name. Now I have a question, does your son go by his given name? Or another name other than what you call him?

Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 I guess that makes sense. I don't introduce my son by his nickname, but if I called him by his nickname and someone repeated it, I would be none too happy about it.

 Incidently, I'm sure your sons given name is a good one regardless of whether he likes it or not. My son has a very different name that I don't share with strangers either. Actually, I don't think my son shares his name with any other person in the entire US :)

paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:13 PM

That's why he has a professional name to fall back on if he choses to use it. I myself go by my nickname and have ever since I was a baby. My mom gave me a "grown up" name as well but I haven't had the desire to use it.

Quoting talia-mom:

If he insists on Bubba, be prepared for people to think he and your family is certain way.   Many are going to look down on you.   You may not care, but when he is applying for scholarships, Bubba vs Jonathan is going to put him at a disadvantage. 


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