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Dad drinks while Mom is Pregnant..Fair?

Posted by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:56 PM
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My husband I use to enjoy an adult beverage togther a few times a week..sometimes it was a happy hour drink or just a glass of wine with dinner. Now WE are pregnant and he doesnt understand that even though it may have been a stressful day at work for him and a glass of wine sounds great, I had the same amount of stess and can't have the relaxing glass of wine. I've metioned this to him and it didnt get a great response. Suggestions on explaing why this isn't fair? Or should I just drop it? 

by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:56 PM
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smalltowngal
by Platinum Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:58 PM
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Drop it. I don't make my husband eat a sugar free diet and I am stuck not eating sweets for the rest of my. 

OHgirlinCA
by Platinum Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:58 PM
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Maybe it's just me, but I didn't expect my husband to give up alcohol simply because I was pregnant. The thought didn't cross my mind, and it didn't bother me either.
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maciymommieof3
by Silver Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:00 PM

drop it. (at least I would)..... I was so sick w/morning sickness the smell of alcohol made me gag and when he would drink I could not stand the smell of him!

mommajen32
by Platinum Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:00 PM
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Drop it. 

alliesaurus
by Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:03 PM
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Drop it. On the flip side it's unfair of you to restrict him. Unless you are an alcoholic and him having wine around you is a severe temptation that you just can't handle, I'd let it be.
My only cut off is that just because I am pregnant does not make me the voluntary DD every time lol.
Roo1234
by Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:04 PM
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Fair is not equal.
I would stop keeping score because you will never feel like you are winning and it will only create unfounded resentment.
Paperfishies
by Silver Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:06 PM
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Drop it. This is seriously the dumbest thing I have ever heard. If you were going to miss drinking this much to make it an issue to whine about, you shouldn't have gotten pregnant.
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lga1965
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:07 PM
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 He is not pregnant!   WHy should he stop drinking?

SaraLovesEli29
by Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:07 PM
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It doesn't bother me. Drop it. The whole WE are pregnant thing is a stupid outlook. That's like bitching because he can drink energy drinks and you can't, so you make him stop drinking those too. Pick your battles. If it bothers you that much, make him go to a friends house, drink, and make him stay the night there so you don't have to deal being around him while he is drinking. If you trust him, that is. That's what my husband does, and I like it that way. Just a suggestion.
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ms-superwoman
by Silver Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:07 PM

Drop it. Choose which battles to fight and this is one of the "not really worth it" arguments.

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