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Dad drinks while Mom is Pregnant..Fair?

My husband I use to enjoy an adult beverage togther a few times a week..sometimes it was a happy hour drink or just a glass of wine with dinner. Now WE are pregnant and he doesnt understand that even though it may have been a stressful day at work for him and a glass of wine sounds great, I had the same amount of stess and can't have the relaxing glass of wine. I've metioned this to him and it didnt get a great response. Suggestions on explaing why this isn't fair? Or should I just drop it? 

by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 9:56 PM
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by Bronze Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:48 PM
How often does he drink at home?
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by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:01 PM
I was more upset about giving up sushi than alcohol.
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by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:31 PM

You're pregnant he is not so he should be able to enjoy a glass or two of wine/beer whatever adult beverage. When I was expecting I didn't tell my husband he couldn't have band practice and not enjoy a beer. Same thing when we went out to eat, I didn't pitch a fit because I couldn't drink.  You shouldn't have gotten pregnant if you didn't like the fact you weren't able to drink and others are still able to.

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by Bronze Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:31 PM
"We" aren't pregnant. You are pregnant and expecting him to stop drinking because you can't is childish and ridiculous.
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by Wenchy on Jan. 3, 2013 at 4:02 PM

My bigger concern would be if either (or both) of you NEED a drink at the end of the day. I would be the last person to say don't drink (hell, some people still have a sip or two while pregnant), but telling him he can't drink because you can't drink is unfair.

And unless he's about to pass a 7-something pound life through his unmentionables, he is NOT pregnant. 

by Thatwoman on Jan. 3, 2013 at 4:06 PM

Fair? I'd say 'drop it.'

He also doesn't get to revel in the joy of personally creating and sustaining a whole new life.

You get to feel smug about living a healthy lifestyle for a new life (and yourself).

by New Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 4:21 PM

Drop it. I never expected SO to give up drinking because I'm pregnant. Just seems a little silly.

by Silver Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 4:23 PM

 I never really understood this. So my husband drank when I was pregnant. Heck, my baby shower turned into a frat party. lol Maybe if I was not vomiting constantly and actually wanted a drink, I would have felt differently? Of course, different strokes for different folks. I understand your point.

by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 4:24 PM

If it bothers you that he drinks, I would hope he would be considerate enough to quit for you. Me and my husband occasionally have drinks together but if he wanted to quit or I wanted to quit, we would do it together. Seems more meaningful that way.

by Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 4:25 PM

Drop it.  YOU are carrying a child, not him.  Is life equal?  No!

My DH is diabetic.  Does he expect/request/demand me to never eat candy again?  No.

I am on medication that does not react well to alcohol.  There for I have not had more than a sip or two here and there since I was 13(30+ years).  Even at our wedding I only had a sip of champagne at the toast.  I would never request him not to drink(not that he drinks that much anyway).

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