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DBL: Am I overreacting or should the dog go?

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We have a shitzu that is getting really old.  Not sure how old since he was a shelter save but I know it is old lol.

Anyway, I HATE this dog.  With a flaming passion.  Why?  Because he has ruined the house we live in.  I was so happy to move here, the house is great.  But the dog has house training issues that have never been resolved.  DH had the dog before we met and is very attached to it.  I can't stand it.  I have tried many different types of training but he always goes to the same spot at the front door when I am not looking.  If I am in the room with him he will look at me and scratch at the door.  If I am not, he just takes a piss.  

This is the area where he pisses all the time


We rent this place and this portion of the carpet will have to be replaced.  I have done all I can to save it.  

So what do you think?  DH says he won't forgive me if I make him get rid of the dog but at the same time he just pissed on the floor this morning while I was making breakfast for DD.  I can't take it anymore.

by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 1:50 PM
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armywifey1983
by Bronze Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 4:21 PM

Crate training. Seriously, it saved my sanity when we first got Cali. She was a hellion and had no manners at all, but I decided to kennel train her immediately (DH was deployed, but he agreed with the decision). Four years on, and she knows that the kennel is hers and hers alone. She also doesn't go in the house unless there is something really messing up her system. Crating does sound cruel to many, but dogs thrive in little 'caves' they can call their own. And they will NOT mess it up unless there is an emergency (yeah, it happens). Put your foot down and say that you're kenneling the dog. Cornering it in a room isn't working because now you're looking at replacing the doorframe. Write down what it will cost to replace the section of carpet plus the doorframe, and put it beside the cost for a decent kennel (wire kennels cost anywhere from $30 to $100+ depending on the size of the dog. A Shih Tzu will need the smallest kennel they have, so that won't be much out of pocket). When your DH sees what you'll be saving in the long run, he just might relent.


glitterteaz
by Ruby Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 4:31 PM

i agree adopting a pet is like adopting a kid. you dont just drop them off when you are done playing with them and it isnt fun anymore

Quoting kaylamom2004:

LMAO honey, i don't give a damn if you're a woman or a not. you've TRIED training the dog. do you know how to train dogs? apparently not. have you though to take it to the doctor to see if there's anything wrong that they can't hold it? of course it's going to go to the exact same spot. it's a fucking dog.

Yes, it's your fault. It may not be "your dog". But it's your home to care for, you're the one pissing about the dog making a mess. Then it's your responsibility to find a solution.

Your only resolution seems to be to get rid of the dog. Hmm...interesting, wonder if you'll give your kid away when it starts potty training and shit/pisses on the  carpet.

Quoting blues_pagan:

LOL, I have tried training this dog.  I have worked with it, walked it and did everything i know to do.  

No it isn't my fault.  But good job on the CM line of blaming the woman lol.

Quoting kaylamom2004:

It's YOUR FAULT that the dog isn't house-broken correctly. Nevermind that he had it prior to you being married. Either buck up and get the damn dog trained or buy a rug to cover the spot. That way, the dog will piss there & not on the carpet any longer.




lga1965
by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:22 PM

 I sympathize....we have had many dogs over the last 30 years....dogs have peed on our rugs , different dogs, different flooring, for so long and its just impossible to get rid of the stain or the odor no matter how much of that Nature's Miracle you use,etc. I haven't had a dog for a while now and it is really quite nice. I can't help it....dogs and their hair and their chewing and their barking and  their peeing just irritate me.

I would want to give the dog away. But you have a hubby who loves the dog so I don't know....I probably would keep it and give the crate training a try.

The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.”
Dr. Seuss

lga1965
by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:28 PM

 welllllll ...... I beg to differ. Dogs and kids are totally different. I really wouldn't blink an eye or shed a tear if I gave a dog away...in fact I did a couple of years ago.The dog was not a good fit, He was adopted by a big family with a huge fenced yard.HE is happy.So am I!

KIDS are human beings and they can't be compared. Dogs are way down on my list of priorities. Adopting a pet is NOT like adopting a kid. No way.

Quoting glitterteaz:

i agree adopting a pet is like adopting a kid. you dont just drop them off when you are done playing with them and it isnt fun anymore

Quoting kaylamom2004:

LMAO honey, i don't give a damn if you're a woman or a not. you've TRIED training the dog. do you know how to train dogs? apparently not. have you though to take it to the doctor to see if there's anything wrong that they can't hold it? of course it's going to go to the exact same spot. it's a fucking dog.

Yes, it's your fault. It may not be "your dog". But it's your home to care for, you're the one pissing about the dog making a mess. Then it's your responsibility to find a solution.

Your only resolution seems to be to get rid of the dog. Hmm...interesting, wonder if you'll give your kid away when it starts potty training and shit/pisses on the  carpet.

Quoting blues_pagan:

LOL, I have tried training this dog.  I have worked with it, walked it and did everything i know to do.  

No it isn't my fault.  But good job on the CM line of blaming the woman lol.

Quoting kaylamom2004:

It's YOUR FAULT that the dog isn't house-broken correctly. Nevermind that he had it prior to you being married. Either buck up and get the damn dog trained or buy a rug to cover the spot. That way, the dog will piss there & not on the carpet any longer.


 


 

The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.”
Dr. Seuss

wickedfiress
by Kellie on Jan. 4, 2013 at 7:52 PM
It's a shih tzu thing. They are hard to train.

Talk to your vet about a daily dose of Cranberry Juice for your pup. A tablespoon or two daily is good for the urinary tract and will help (help, not cure) with frequency issues.

Baking soda and peroxide should remove the staining, without harming the carpet.


However I have a suspicion you and your husband are not on the same page about a lot of the things if crate training a dog, and who is responsible for its care are major disagreements for you. Might want to have a major talk to work the underlying issues out so that the dog doesn't take the blame.
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CDMelty
by Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 8:15 PM

The floor's already trashed. What would getting rid of the dog now accomplish?
Put a piddle pad at the front door, or just a rug, to catch the pee from now on. A pet is a member of the family. If you wouldn't adopt out your kid for wetting the bed, don't get rid of the dog for peeing the rug. Extreme comparison, but still. Getting a pet is a lifelong commitment to the pet. So is marrying a man with one.

alf2651
by Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 8:18 PM

Crate training.

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glitterteaz
by Ruby Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 9:13 PM

i disagree they both are a responsibility.

Quoting lga1965:

 welllllll ...... I beg to differ. Dogs and kids are totally different. I really wouldn't blink an eye or shed a tear if I gave a dog away...in fact I did a couple of years ago.The dog was not a good fit, He was adopted by a big family with a huge fenced yard.HE is happy.So am I!

KIDS are human beings and they can't be compared. Dogs are way down on my list of priorities. Adopting a pet is NOT like adopting a kid. No way.

Quoting glitterteaz:

i agree adopting a pet is like adopting a kid. you dont just drop them off when you are done playing with them and it isnt fun anymore

Quoting kaylamom2004:

LMAO honey, i don't give a damn if you're a woman or a not. you've TRIED training the dog. do you know how to train dogs? apparently not. have you though to take it to the doctor to see if there's anything wrong that they can't hold it? of course it's going to go to the exact same spot. it's a fucking dog.

Yes, it's your fault. It may not be "your dog". But it's your home to care for, you're the one pissing about the dog making a mess. Then it's your responsibility to find a solution.

Your only resolution seems to be to get rid of the dog. Hmm...interesting, wonder if you'll give your kid away when it starts potty training and shit/pisses on the  carpet.

Quoting blues_pagan:

LOL, I have tried training this dog.  I have worked with it, walked it and did everything i know to do.  

No it isn't my fault.  But good job on the CM line of blaming the woman lol.

Quoting kaylamom2004:

It's YOUR FAULT that the dog isn't house-broken correctly. Nevermind that he had it prior to you being married. Either buck up and get the damn dog trained or buy a rug to cover the spot. That way, the dog will piss there & not on the carpet any longer.




 


LindaClement
by Thatwoman on Jan. 5, 2013 at 3:43 AM

If he's not willing to take care of the dog, what does he think he has it for?

Quoting blues_pagan:

I have tried to absolve myself of responsibility letting him know the HE wants the dog, not me.  Needless to say this causes more issues than it helps.


Quoting LindaClement:

Dhs who do not see to it that the dogs are properly trained and walked often enough to avoid making carpet messes are demonstrating that they cannot be reponsible dog owners.

I would absolve myself of any responsibility in the zone: it's his dog, he is the one who 'needs' the dog to pee where it's supposed to --unless he doesn't REALLY want the dog.

A lot of people prefer the idea of wanting dogs to actually being responsible for them. They should get stuffed or porcelain dogs.



supercarp
by Silver Member on Jan. 5, 2013 at 9:46 AM

I won't own a dog that is not housebroken. Keep him outside or in an area with one of those doggy potties in it.

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