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I'm basically a pretty calm & joyful indiviual.  I don't get upset that much.  But, I notice there are a few things that do get to me.  What things get to you the most?  Mine are:

1.  Driving & noticing someone's on their cell talking/texting.  Then on top of that, they are driving so crappy.  I want to honk or drive-by & wave my hand.  (signal to get off the phone).  But, I don't, I came close today though.

2.  Kids running around, playing with the toys in a store.  Once I saw this woman, she was talking to a couple of her friends/family.  Her child was throwing a fit.  I was standing nearby, & he just came up to me from the back & hit me. ?  The parent didn't do anything!  Not even a "I'm sorry".  OR make their child say "sorry".  The child continue throwing a fit, the mom continue talking.  Or when I see kids playing with a ball in the store or a toy.  Or kids alone in the toy section, while the parents aren't there. 

These 2 things is what really gets to me the most.  I guess, I could more.  So, I guess I'm glad it's only 2 lol.  Sometimes, I try to just ignore.  But, lately I find myself not being able to 'ignore' it. 

by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 5:48 PM
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Naturewoman4
by Platinum Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:19 AM

Lol.  Well it sounds like they really rely on you.  Personally, I think it's kinda a tough situation sometimes.  Especially, when our love ones get older.  It must be hard enough having 1 need you so much for things, but 2!  I thinking there must be no one else that can or will help.  So, it lies on you.  I don't know if you live with them, that would make it harder.  Because, I would say sometimes don't answer the phone when they call. 

 Or sit down your mom & have a  heart to heart talk with her.  I don't know what I would do.  Because, it's hard to say no for me.  It's probably the 'caregiver' in me.  I would probably break down & crack lol.  Which is helping no one.  Sometimes, I think we just need to say something, BEFORE we crack or carry around this resentment.

Quoting glitterteaz:

could be cause both my mom and my grandfather (her dad) are driving me freaking insane with all the I can'ts...I told them if they can't I sure can't do it for them. Pisses them off but guess what they manage to get it done. This is stupid stuff that they are saying it for too. I mean hello lazy bite your tongue take a deep breath and do it.

Quoting Naturewoman4:

Oh sorry.  Yeah, well adults it's even worse.  Usually, I hear it from kids though.  Perhaps, they used that a lot when they were kids?  Then they got away with it?

Quoting glitterteaz:

I am talk about adults not children

Quoting Naturewoman4:

I think a parent can help their children by having them choose a different word then "I can't"... Maybe, use "I need help"....

Quoting glitterteaz:

the words "I can't" when it is clear that they can but they do not want to put forth extra effort. People who do not ask but assume I will do something for them. Being took for granted sucks


 


 



glitterteaz
by Ruby Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:25 AM

I live next door to my grandparents I have my gma crying to me all the time. My gfather is just not all there anymore and I have to chauffeur them. My mom just injured her back they have tossed her around so much doing nothing that she is immune to the pain pills and the muscle relaxers. She whines and moans all the time I get it she hurts but now she is just laying there not trying at all. She yells at me and acts like a bratty teenager when I need her to get up and help me to help her. And since her back is out Gma moved her in next door too. I mean KILL ME NOW!!!

Quoting Naturewoman4:

Lol.  Well it sounds like they really rely on you.  Personally, I think it's kinda a tough situation sometimes.  Especially, when our love ones get older.  It must be hard enough having 1 need you so much for things, but 2!  I thinking there must be no one else that can or will help.  So, it lies on you.  I don't know if you live with them, that would make it harder.  Because, I would say sometimes don't answer the phone when they call. 

 Or sit down your mom & have a  heart to heart talk with her.  I don't know what I would do.  Because, it's hard to say no for me.  It's probably the 'caregiver' in me.  I would probably break down & crack lol.  Which is helping no one.  Sometimes, I think we just need to say something, BEFORE we crack or carry around this resentment.

Quoting glitterteaz:

could be cause both my mom and my grandfather (her dad) are driving me freaking insane with all the I can'ts...I told them if they can't I sure can't do it for them. Pisses them off but guess what they manage to get it done. This is stupid stuff that they are saying it for too. I mean hello lazy bite your tongue take a deep breath and do it.

Quoting Naturewoman4:

Oh sorry.  Yeah, well adults it's even worse.  Usually, I hear it from kids though.  Perhaps, they used that a lot when they were kids?  Then they got away with it?

Quoting glitterteaz:

I am talk about adults not children

Quoting Naturewoman4:

I think a parent can help their children by having them choose a different word then "I can't"... Maybe, use "I need help"....

Quoting glitterteaz:

the words "I can't" when it is clear that they can but they do not want to put forth extra effort. People who do not ask but assume I will do something for them. Being took for granted sucks








Naturewoman4
by Platinum Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:27 AM

That's really horrible about your brother/sil.  I just hate that too!  I think people uses their kids to their advantage.  Like, 'oh they won't shut me down, because they want to see their child'.  Grandkids especially.  I feel a lot of kids, take advantage of their parents in this way.  It's so sad when I hear it happening. 

 I want to help them to see they are being taken advantage of.  All while being disrespected, & they put up with this.  Because, they couldn't handle NOT seeing their grandkids.  It's hard for me, but I guess it's up to them to figure that out.

Quoting ginnyk87:

I can't stand freeloaders! My sil is married, has a 3 year old and they both make really good money, but live with mil. They're always out buying flashy items, drive brand new cars, iPhones, top of the line everything, they're little brat of a son gets whatever he wants and owns the nicest, most expensive toys. They pay mil no rent, don't help with any bills or groceries. Mil has asked them many times to help, but they get all pissed off and threaten to go look at apartments, but never do. This happens every 6 months or so... They come to visit every now and then and the last two times they've brought these large trash bags full of laundry. I'm putting an end to that the next time they ask. I'm not a freaking laundromat!

I can't stand laziness!!!

I can't stand teens that play video games from the time they get up until the time they go to bed.

I hate wastefulness too!!


Naturewoman4
by Platinum Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:33 AM

Wow, that's a tough situation to be in.  Isn't there any other people in the family that can help?  Sounds so stressful what you are under.  I suppose that your mom or grandparents can't get a "Hospice" worker to come help out?  I don't do well when I am helping out other people, doing the best I can.  Then they are short or if they would ever yell at me.  I would just blow it & say I'm had it! 

Quoting glitterteaz:

I live next door to my grandparents I have my gma crying to me all the time. My gfather is just not all there anymore and I have to chauffeur them. My mom just injured her back they have tossed her around so much doing nothing that she is immune to the pain pills and the muscle relaxers. She whines and moans all the time I get it she hurts but now she is just laying there not trying at all. She yells at me and acts like a bratty teenager when I need her to get up and help me to help her. And since her back is out Gma moved her in next door too. I mean KILL ME NOW!!!

Quoting Naturewoman4:

Lol.  Well it sounds like they really rely on you.  Personally, I think it's kinda a tough situation sometimes.  Especially, when our love ones get older.  It must be hard enough having 1 need you so much for things, but 2!  I thinking there must be no one else that can or will help.  So, it lies on you.  I don't know if you live with them, that would make it harder.  Because, I would say sometimes don't answer the phone when they call. 

 Or sit down your mom & have a  heart to heart talk with her.  I don't know what I would do.  Because, it's hard to say no for me.  It's probably the 'caregiver' in me.  I would probably break down & crack lol.  Which is helping no one.  Sometimes, I think we just need to say something, BEFORE we crack or carry around this resentment.

Quoting glitterteaz:

could be cause both my mom and my grandfather (her dad) are driving me freaking insane with all the I can'ts...I told them if they can't I sure can't do it for them. Pisses them off but guess what they manage to get it done. This is stupid stuff that they are saying it for too. I mean hello lazy bite your tongue take a deep breath and do it.

Quoting Naturewoman4:

Oh sorry.  Yeah, well adults it's even worse.  Usually, I hear it from kids though.  Perhaps, they used that a lot when they were kids?  Then they got away with it?

Quoting glitterteaz:

I am talk about adults not children

Quoting Naturewoman4:

I think a parent can help their children by having them choose a different word then "I can't"... Maybe, use "I need help"....

Quoting glitterteaz:

the words "I can't" when it is clear that they can but they do not want to put forth extra effort. People who do not ask but assume I will do something for them. Being took for granted sucks


 


 


 



Friday
by HRH of MJ on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:37 AM

Phonies, people who are two faced and willful ignorance. Nothing ticks me off more than people who can have the facts in front of their face and still stick to their BS.

 


Thank God......it's Friday!!!

Naturewoman4
by Platinum Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:39 AM

Well it sounds like you need your family members to finally take over, giving you a break.  But, from the sounds of it, they won't do a thing.  You can only do so much, you have to take care of yourself.  Because, most of the time others don't look out for you.  It probably would be great for you to work, because then it won't be all up to you.  They will have to start taking care of themselves too. 

Quoting glitterteaz:

Ya I am constantly doing for them and when I hit a wall I have family talking bad about me behind my back for not doing enough. Sadly my grandmother heaps my plate pretty full and everyone just wants more and more of me. Gma says she stands up for me and I hope she is cause the rest of the family does nothing at all. I hate to see what happens when I finally find a job my grandparents and mom are going to be SOL. I have took the guilt so long we are about to lose everything.

Quoting Naturewoman4:

I do understand what you're saying though.  Sounds like maybe you are the type of person that has always helped others.  They look upon you as the stronger person, person that never says no maybe?  That would get to me too, because I'm kinda like that.  It's like if I don't do it, I feel guilty. 

Quoting glitterteaz:

I am talk about adults not children

Quoting Naturewoman4:

I think a parent can help their children by having them choose a different word then "I can't"... Maybe, use "I need help"....

Quoting glitterteaz:

the words "I can't" when it is clear that they can but they do not want to put forth extra effort. People who do not ask but assume I will do something for them. Being took for granted sucks


 


 



Naturewoman4
by Platinum Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:44 AM

Ok Friday, I do see what you're saying.  But, I just don't think things are quite black & white.  By that I mean, how do we know those 'facts' are true?  I just don't feel people can say it's just 'BS' by sticking to what THEY believe in.   Who's to judge, what is true facts or not?  Really? 

Quoting Friday:

Phonies, people who are two faced and willful ignorance. Nothing ticks me off more than people who can have the facts in front of their face and still stick to their BS.


Mama_Of_Two2012
by Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:44 AM
No i make her werar 2 coats hat scarf and gloves. Her classroom isn't.SUPER cold but.


Quoting Naturewoman4:

Does that bother you that she wears 2 coats?  I hate to be cold.  Especially, with how cold it is lately.  I probably go overboard.  Because, I would bring a hat, gloves, scarf, coat AND sometimes a hoodie underneath.  I usually am the person that is dressed the warmest.  So much so, I get comments from other people in a store lol.  I think that's terrible that a classroom would be cold like that.


Quoting Mama_Of_Two2012:

This is prob over doing it however my daughter always wears 2 jackets to school...a light weight.one and a thick one..its cold in her class sometimes.



Quoting Naturewoman4:


AtoZ are you sick?  Did you catch the flu that's going around?  What type of pain meds. are you taking?  I worked for the school system for over 10 yrs.  We always kept extra sweaters/coats for that reason.  It's unbelievable how parents can put their kids on the school bus on a cold day, without a coat or sweater.  That's shocking though, no shoes!  Wow! 



 To me IF I knew anyone, that I KNOW FOR SURE is doing this like a neighbor, I wouldn't hesitate to call CPS.  I would probably talk to them first, to make sure I knew their situation.  Maybe, offer to go out & buy their kids clothes or shoes.  But, if the parent got really rude with me....then I would call.



Quoting FromAtoZ:



I agree with you on the driving and talking/texting. 



When I see little ones not dressed properly for the weather.  Yesterday, while leaving the dentist, a mom and her little one were making their way up the stairs to the office.   He was probably about 3.  No jacket on, only a short sleeve t-shirt.  No jacket in her hand either.  It was all of 20 degrees.  Then, I noticed he had no shoes on, only socks.   He was telling mom he was cold.  She told him to shush and get moving.



Now, I realize that i did not know the situation and I merely judged on what I did see.  Even so, I cringe when I see children who are not dressed appropriately for the weather.



Teens, or any one really, walking and texting or otherwise on their phones and not paying any damn attention to where they are going.



Rude people.  There is never any reason to be rude for the sake of being rude.



Anyone smacking gum.  Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrr



Kids running wild in any store.  



People eating in stores.  Meaning, grabbing some thing off the shelve while shopping and eating it.



Geesh, I could go on. lol  I am blaming it on the pain I am in, the headache I have and the pain meds.  



So there! 



*raspberry*



 





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Naturewoman4
by Platinum Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:48 AM

Oh ok, sorry about that.  I think it's kinda cute though :)  I'm like that too, I was always a mother hubbard.  baby in sling

Quoting Mama_Of_Two2012:

No i make her werar 2 coats hat scarf and gloves. Her classroom isn't.SUPER cold but.


Quoting Naturewoman4:

Does that bother you that she wears 2 coats?  I hate to be cold.  Especially, with how cold it is lately.  I probably go overboard.  Because, I would bring a hat, gloves, scarf, coat AND sometimes a hoodie underneath.  I usually am the person that is dressed the warmest.  So much so, I get comments from other people in a store lol.  I think that's terrible that a classroom would be cold like that.


Quoting Mama_Of_Two2012:

This is prob over doing it however my daughter always wears 2 jackets to school...a light weight.one and a thick one..its cold in her class sometimes.



Quoting Naturewoman4:


AtoZ are you sick?  Did you catch the flu that's going around?  What type of pain meds. are you taking?  I worked for the school system for over 10 yrs.  We always kept extra sweaters/coats for that reason.  It's unbelievable how parents can put their kids on the school bus on a cold day, without a coat or sweater.  That's shocking though, no shoes!  Wow! 



 To me IF I knew anyone, that I KNOW FOR SURE is doing this like a neighbor, I wouldn't hesitate to call CPS.  I would probably talk to them first, to make sure I knew their situation.  Maybe, offer to go out & buy their kids clothes or shoes.  But, if the parent got really rude with me....then I would call.



Quoting FromAtoZ:



I agree with you on the driving and talking/texting. 



When I see little ones not dressed properly for the weather.  Yesterday, while leaving the dentist, a mom and her little one were making their way up the stairs to the office.   He was probably about 3.  No jacket on, only a short sleeve t-shirt.  No jacket in her hand either.  It was all of 20 degrees.  Then, I noticed he had no shoes on, only socks.   He was telling mom he was cold.  She told him to shush and get moving.



Now, I realize that i did not know the situation and I merely judged on what I did see.  Even so, I cringe when I see children who are not dressed appropriately for the weather.



Teens, or any one really, walking and texting or otherwise on their phones and not paying any damn attention to where they are going.



Rude people.  There is never any reason to be rude for the sake of being rude.



Anyone smacking gum.  Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrr



Kids running wild in any store.  



People eating in stores.  Meaning, grabbing some thing off the shelve while shopping and eating it.



Geesh, I could go on. lol  I am blaming it on the pain I am in, the headache I have and the pain meds.  



So there! 



*raspberry*



 



 



glitterteaz
by Ruby Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:51 AM

Yes they do need to step up they do very lil and expect the world of me. It is crazy

Quoting Naturewoman4:

Well it sounds like you need your family members to finally take over, giving you a break.  But, from the sounds of it, they won't do a thing.  You can only do so much, you have to take care of yourself.  Because, most of the time others don't look out for you.  It probably would be great for you to work, because then it won't be all up to you.  They will have to start taking care of themselves too. 

Quoting glitterteaz:

Ya I am constantly doing for them and when I hit a wall I have family talking bad about me behind my back for not doing enough. Sadly my grandmother heaps my plate pretty full and everyone just wants more and more of me. Gma says she stands up for me and I hope she is cause the rest of the family does nothing at all. I hate to see what happens when I finally find a job my grandparents and mom are going to be SOL. I have took the guilt so long we are about to lose everything.

Quoting Naturewoman4:

I do understand what you're saying though.  Sounds like maybe you are the type of person that has always helped others.  They look upon you as the stronger person, person that never says no maybe?  That would get to me too, because I'm kinda like that.  It's like if I don't do it, I feel guilty. 

Quoting glitterteaz:

I am talk about adults not children

Quoting Naturewoman4:

I think a parent can help their children by having them choose a different word then "I can't"... Maybe, use "I need help"....

Quoting glitterteaz:

the words "I can't" when it is clear that they can but they do not want to put forth extra effort. People who do not ask but assume I will do something for them. Being took for granted sucks








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