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Is this punishment too harsh?

Posted by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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Question: Do you think this punishment is too much?

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Yes. She's a teenager now not a small child. She needs to have her freedom.

This isn't punishment. Children this age need to be supervised.

I agree with it for now but she should slowly be able to earn her freedom back.


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My 13yo dd has been driving me nuts.

She snuck off and dated a boy behind my back. (That got her into a scary situation) She's hanging around kids and getting into trouble, got kicked out of the corner store, having attitude with adults. She's neglecting her chores and homework in favor of facebook and friends. And now the latest battles is clothes. Thank God her school has uniforms but outside of school I'm constantly telling her to change her clothes or add legging or an undershirt.

It comes down to the fact that I can't trust her. So I came up with a plan. I walk her to and from school. I accompany her to the park and rec center when she hangs out with her friends (her little brother and sister come too) When we leave she leaves too. I put a pass word on the computer and she's only allowed on after her homework and chores are done.

She wants to know how long this will go on. I told her until she can prove to me that she's responsible. So now I am officially the worst mother ever,lol.

by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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brookiecookie87
by Platinum Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:12 PM
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Seems like the punishment fits the situation.

pamelax3
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:12 PM

I feel your pain! My dd is 15 and has done some of these very things! IMO it makes you a good and responsible parent, do not make the mistake I made by thinking after a few days of good behavior they learned their lesson.. Keep up the good work

paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:15 PM

That's what I'm struggling with! She's been better for a couple days but I just don't know how long I should keep it up. It REALLY bothered me that she snuck a boyfriend behind my back. I just don't trust her now :-(

Quoting pamelax3:

I feel your pain! My dd is 15 and has done some of these very things! IMO it makes you a good and responsible parent, do not make the mistake I made by thinking after a few days of good behavior they learned their lesson.. Keep up the good work


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CrazyLife1996
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:15 PM
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I say you are doing what needs to be done. I would do the same thing.
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pamelax3
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:20 PM

SHe is going to be good for a few days but you have got to go with your gut instinct... My dd tried on  a couple of different occasions to be well behaved and I would fall for it, knowing she was acting, just go with your gut you will know when you can trust her again.  


Quoting paganbaby:

That's what I'm struggling with! She's been better for a couple days but I just don't know how long I should keep it up. It REALLY bothered me that she snuck a boyfriend behind my back. I just don't trust her now :-(

Quoting pamelax3:

I feel your pain! My dd is 15 and has done some of these very things! IMO it makes you a good and responsible parent, do not make the mistake I made by thinking after a few days of good behavior they learned their lesson.. Keep up the good work



 

Veni.Vidi.Vici.
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:20 PM
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I call these consequences.

FB would be gone, too.

IMO this is pretty typical behavior for early teen girls. I was hell on wheels from 13-18.

paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:27 PM

Alright... I'd much rather have a manual and a firm timetable though,lol.

Quoting pamelax3:

SHe is going to be good for a few days but you have got to go with your gut instinct... My dd tried on  a couple of different occasions to be well behaved and I would fall for it, knowing she was acting, just go with your gut you will know when you can trust her again.  


Quoting paganbaby:

That's what I'm struggling with! She's been better for a couple days but I just don't know how long I should keep it up. It REALLY bothered me that she snuck a boyfriend behind my back. I just don't trust her now :-(

Quoting pamelax3:

I feel your pain! My dd is 15 and has done some of these very things! IMO it makes you a good and responsible parent, do not make the mistake I made by thinking after a few days of good behavior they learned their lesson.. Keep up the good work





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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:27 PM

I was pretty bad too,lol.

Quoting Veni.Vidi.Vici.:

I call these consequences.

FB would be gone, too.

IMO this is pretty typical behavior for early teen girls. I was hell on wheels from 13-18.


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ms-superwoman
by Silver Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:31 PM

I agree. When she can be trusted she can have her freedoms back.

pamelax3
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:35 PM

 I wish kids game with instructions, but unfortunately they do  not..LOL!! Trust yourself as a parent that is your guarantee they will turn out good. 

I will let you know when and if my DD grows out of it, I have been battling it for a couple of years now.. LOL

Quoting paganbaby:

Alright... I'd much rather have a manual and a firm timetable though,lol.

Quoting pamelax3:

SHe is going to be good for a few days but you have got to go with your gut instinct... My dd tried on  a couple of different occasions to be well behaved and I would fall for it, knowing she was acting, just go with your gut you will know when you can trust her again.  

 

Quoting paganbaby:

That's what I'm struggling with! She's been better for a couple days but I just don't know how long I should keep it up. It REALLY bothered me that she snuck a boyfriend behind my back. I just don't trust her now :-(

Quoting pamelax3:

I feel your pain! My dd is 15 and has done some of these very things! IMO it makes you a good and responsible parent, do not make the mistake I made by thinking after a few days of good behavior they learned their lesson.. Keep up the good work


 

 



 

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