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Question: Do you think this punishment is too much?

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Yes. She's a teenager now not a small child. She needs to have her freedom.

This isn't punishment. Children this age need to be supervised.

I agree with it for now but she should slowly be able to earn her freedom back.


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My 13yo dd has been driving me nuts.

She snuck off and dated a boy behind my back. (That got her into a scary situation) She's hanging around kids and getting into trouble, got kicked out of the corner store, having attitude with adults. She's neglecting her chores and homework in favor of facebook and friends. And now the latest battles is clothes. Thank God her school has uniforms but outside of school I'm constantly telling her to change her clothes or add legging or an undershirt.

It comes down to the fact that I can't trust her. So I came up with a plan. I walk her to and from school. I accompany her to the park and rec center when she hangs out with her friends (her little brother and sister come too) When we leave she leaves too. I put a pass word on the computer and she's only allowed on after her homework and chores are done.

She wants to know how long this will go on. I told her until she can prove to me that she's responsible. So now I am officially the worst mother ever,lol.

by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:21 PM

Well the kids get snack at the rec center so that's mainly why we go.

Removing everything from her room...that's a thought,lol. She can't seem to keep it clean but then again she does share with her sister.

Quoting FromAtoZ:

My daughter, who is 13, would not be going to rec center for quite a while.

No computer at all, outside of school necessary work.  

I'm a hard ass and I don't mess around.  Just recently, every thing in her room, outside of her bed and dresser, was removed.  She wants to be lazy and not take her responsibilities seriously, there are consequences.

I would be mortified if my daughter was disrespectful to adults and carried her attitude outside of this house.  Thankfully she has not yet taken that step and if she does, it will be a step she will regret.



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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:22 PM

She begged to go back to public school this year.

Quoting talia-mom:

I thought you homeschooled?


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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:23 PM
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Well she did have the freedom to hangout at her friends houses, go to the park and the store without me. I've taken all of that away right now.

Quoting FromAtoZ:

People are saying she needs to earn her freedom back?  She hasn't lost any freedom. *shrug*


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FromAtoZ
by AllieCat on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:24 PM


Quoting paganbaby:

Well the kids get snack at the rec center so that's mainly why we go.

Removing everything from her room...that's a thought,lol. She can't seem to keep it clean but then again she does share with her sister.

Quoting FromAtoZ:

My daughter, who is 13, would not be going to rec center for quite a while.

No computer at all, outside of school necessary work.  

I'm a hard ass and I don't mess around.  Just recently, every thing in her room, outside of her bed and dresser, was removed.  She wants to be lazy and not take her responsibilities seriously, there are consequences.

I would be mortified if my daughter was disrespectful to adults and carried her attitude outside of this house.  Thankfully she has not yet taken that step and if she does, it will be a step she will regret.



You send your kids so they can eat there?  

I did not remove every thing because she can't keep her room clean.  lol  Hell, none of my girls would have ever had any thing in their rooms.  Although, I will say that I have removed quite a bit from their rooms when it comes to leaving dirty clothes, food and such around.  That is not acceptable, at any time.

It certainly got her attention.  She has no computer, she has no phone, no music, which is HUGE, nothing in her room.  Well, she does have books she can read but what she wants to read is removed.  No friends over and she goes no where.  Well, let me back up a step.  She has improved so she was allowed to go to her school's basketball game yesterday, which was directly after school.  She had a time to be home.  Had she missed it by a minute, she would have been back at square one.

paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:25 PM

She dated a boy behind my back. She told me they were just friends. Whenever she went to his house it was always as a group, or so I thought :-/

Quoting FromAtoZ:

 I did not vote, by the way.  There is not an option that I completely agree with.

Also, what do you mean she snuck a boyfriend?  


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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:28 PM


Quoting FromAtoZ:


Quoting paganbaby:

Well the kids get snack at the rec center so that's mainly why we go.

Removing everything from her room...that's a thought,lol. She can't seem to keep it clean but then again she does share with her sister.

Quoting FromAtoZ:

My daughter, who is 13, would not be going to rec center for quite a while.

No computer at all, outside of school necessary work.  

I'm a hard ass and I don't mess around.  Just recently, every thing in her room, outside of her bed and dresser, was removed.  She wants to be lazy and not take her responsibilities seriously, there are consequences.

I would be mortified if my daughter was disrespectful to adults and carried her attitude outside of this house.  Thankfully she has not yet taken that step and if she does, it will be a step she will regret.



You send your kids so they can eat there?  

I did not remove every thing because she can't keep her room clean.  lol  Hell, none of my girls would have ever had any thing in their rooms.  Although, I will say that I have removed quite a bit from their rooms when it comes to leaving dirty clothes, food and such around.  That is not acceptable, at any time.

It certainly got her attention.  She has no computer, she has no phone, no music, which is HUGE, nothing in her room.  Well, she does have books she can read but what she wants to read is removed.  No friends over and she goes no where.  Well, let me back up a step.  She has improved so she was allowed to go to her school's basketball game yesterday, which was directly after school.  She had a time to be home.  Had she missed it by a minute, she would have been back at square one.

Yeah, they offer free snack for anyone under 18. It's nice.

And that's what I mean. Trash, dishes, food, dirty clothes. Those kinds of things are laying all over the place.

And hey, I like it! I haven't gone that far yet but it is definitely a possibility.

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Goodwoman614
by Satan on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:29 PM

Well join the crowd.

if you aren't ruining their lives(according to them) you aren't doing your job.

try saying this, in as dramatic a way possible: "You'll thank me for this later!!" 

You could even get the younger sibs to join in as chorus!

(She knows you are doing this b/c you love her)

P.S. A sense of humor is your greatest ally.

woodswalker
by New Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:31 PM

I think you are doing absolutely the right thing.   I dont understand the moms who say their kid is sneaking around doing shit and they dont know what to do about it.  Ummmm....you dont let them out of your sight for a while.  Thats what.  Be the worst mom ever .  She will thank you some day.

paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:34 PM

Lmao! I am so doing that now ;-)

Quoting Goodwoman614:

Well join the crowd.

if you aren't ruining their lives(according to them) you aren't doing your job.

try saying this, in as dramatic a way possible: "You'll thank me for this later!!" 

You could even get the younger sibs to join in as chorus!

(She knows you are doing this b/c you love her)

P.S. A sense of humor is your greatest ally.


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acrogodess
by Silver Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 2:35 PM
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Sounds reasonable to me, both as a mom and a former teen :)
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