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Question: Do you think this punishment is too much?

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Yes. She's a teenager now not a small child. She needs to have her freedom.

This isn't punishment. Children this age need to be supervised.

I agree with it for now but she should slowly be able to earn her freedom back.


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My 13yo dd has been driving me nuts.

She snuck off and dated a boy behind my back. (That got her into a scary situation) She's hanging around kids and getting into trouble, got kicked out of the corner store, having attitude with adults. She's neglecting her chores and homework in favor of facebook and friends. And now the latest battles is clothes. Thank God her school has uniforms but outside of school I'm constantly telling her to change her clothes or add legging or an undershirt.

It comes down to the fact that I can't trust her. So I came up with a plan. I walk her to and from school. I accompany her to the park and rec center when she hangs out with her friends (her little brother and sister come too) When we leave she leaves too. I put a pass word on the computer and she's only allowed on after her homework and chores are done.

She wants to know how long this will go on. I told her until she can prove to me that she's responsible. So now I am officially the worst mother ever,lol.

by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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viv212
by Gold Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:08 PM
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Yeah, I have a 13 year old so I just started. My bf thinks his 3 girls will "never be like that!" lol!!!

Quoting survivorinohio:


Quoting viv212:

Maybe because you didn't get her that crucifix?







(that's a joke)

LOL

All I can think of is the exorcist lol  Teen girls are scary scary scary!

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daughteroftruth
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:12 PM

I don't think that is too harsh at all.  We called it "group movement" as teens.  Couldn't go anywhere unsupervised.  


As far as the password goes, I think that untill she is older, that its a good idea. 

ausomezombie2.0
by Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:14 PM
Agreed


Quoting Veni.Vidi.Vici.:

I call these consequences.

FB would be gone, too.

IMO this is pretty typical behavior for early teen girls. I was hell on wheels from 13-18.


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glitterteaz
by Ruby Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:22 PM

If your not hated and unfair a few times through out mommydom... you have failed as a parent. So you are right on target you are not on earth to be your kids friends. That comes after being the mean mommy and them being the mean one too.

fnpdocgrrl
by Boudica on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:34 PM

Totally agree with it :)

Pink.Frosting
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 4:41 AM

Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with it.  There is nothing wrong with you accompanying her to and from places - she's only 13 for heaven's sake - that is normal!  A password on the computer and computer time limited to after homework and chores - again, normal.  I don't even see these things as "punishment."  It just seems like normal family life.  I would hope you don't stop any of these things any time soon!

Leslie.d.green
by New Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 8:56 AM
I am so scared for when my boys hit this age.
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Whaaaaaa....O.o
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 9:34 AM
Meh. This will be the norm when my kids get that age. Just because you turn 13 does not mean you get to run off willy nilly. My mom did the same for me, and I turned out great (as in never in trouble. Ever. No really never. Didn't even have sex until I was married. Never even touched drugs, and had my first real drink at 28. Some say I'm boring. I say I was spared a lifetime of bad decisions.) so I say if it worked for me, I'll give it a go on my kids.
Woodbabe
by Woodie on Jan. 26, 2013 at 9:43 AM
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If she's getting into trouble like that, may I suggest a trip to Amish Paradise? I found a week of not being allowed anything that required electricity, other than a lightswitch and kitchen appliances to be very effective. :)

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survivorinohio
by René on Jan. 26, 2013 at 9:57 AM


Quoting Woodbabe:

If she's getting into trouble like that, may I suggest a trip to Amish Paradise? I found a week of not being allowed anything that required electricity, other than a lightswitch and kitchen appliances to be very effective. :)

I totally remember telling my kids "Youre Amish"  LOL.  It can be very motivational :)

How far you go in life depends on your being: tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of both the weak and strong.  Because someday in life you would have been one or all of these.  GeorgeWashingtonCarver


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