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follow up on baby given up for adoption without dad's consent

Posted by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 4:10 PM
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http://news.yahoo.com/sgt-reunited-baby-given-adoption-181449034--abc-news-topstories.html

An army drill sergeant whose estranged wife put his daughter up for adoption without his knowledge or permission while he was stationed in another state, has been reunited with the little girl, following a nearly two-year battle to get her back.

"I'm just happy right now. I'm with my daughter," Sgt. Terry Achane said. "It's about time."

The Utah Supreme Court earlier this month overturned a request by the toddler's adoptive parents to stay a lower court's December order that the child be returned to Achane, her father.

On Friday the original trial judge, Darold McDade who ruled in Achane's favor, held a transfer hearing that resulted in the little girl and her father being united this weekend for the first time since she was born 22 months ago.

"This is the first known case where the Utah State Supreme Court has removed a child from an [adoptive parent's] home and returned the child to the ... legal father," said Achane's lawyer Mark Wiser.

Wiser called the Supreme Court's ruling a "huge victory" for "equal parental rights," meaning one parent can't put a child up for adoption without the other's permission, and decried the adoption practice in Utah.

"Terry Achane believes that justice is finally taking place," Wiser said, adding that his client remains "heartbroken that he has missed 22 months of his daughter's life because of what happened. This is time that he and his daughter can never replace."

Achane, 31, was stationed in South Carolina on March 21, 2011, when his estranged wife, Tira Bland, gave birth in Utah and turned the baby over for adoption just two days later.

He initially believed that his pregnant wife had followed through on a threat to have an abortion. It was several weeks after the baby, whom he calls Teleah, was born that he learned the child had been adopted and was in Utah.

When Achane contacted the adoption agency that had facilitated the baby's placement with the couple, Jared and Kristi Frei, he was stonewalled, denied information and ignored when he told them he had not consented to the adoption, according to his lawyer.

In his ruling to restore Achane's custody, Judge McDade said he was "astonished and deeply troubled" by the actions of the agency, the Adoption Center of Choice, calling its treatment of Achane "utterly indefensible."

According to Achane, Bland gave the agency Achane's old address in Texas where he lived prior to being stationed in South Carolina, and suggested he would not consent to the adoption. The agency attempted to contact him once in Texas, but seems not to have made any other efforts to receive his consent, Wiser said.

The agency would not comment.

Achane knew Bland was pregnant and had taken her to prenatal doctor appointments in Texas, but Bland cut off all contact with him following his deployment to South Carolina and made arrangements for the adoption in secret, he lawyer claims in court documents.

Calls to the Freis were not returned. In an emails to ABCNews.com, their lawyer Larry Jenkins wrote: "The Freis have asked us not to comment publicly about the case."

The Freis, however, have maintained a blog about the case where they claim that Achane "left [Bland] without any money, a car, or details of his whereabouts. Needing to act quickly for the best interest of her unborn child, and with incredible faith, fortitude, and courage, she put her child up for adoption."

In 2008, Kristi Frei was diagnosed with endometriosis and told she would not be able to conceive, according to the blog.

The Freis insist that it was they who tracked down Achane "several months" after adopting the baby, whom they call Leah, but to "our great shock and dismay" he refused to consent to the adoption.

The judge said in his ruling, however, that the couple knew that Achane had never been consulted and "acknowledged this risk but decided they wanted to proceed forward with the adoptive placement anyway."


so glad the Judge had the common sense to give this little girl back to her father. sad for the adoptive parents but they knew what they were doing was wrong but did it anyways. sad, but I'm glad the dad won

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katy_kay08
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 4:13 PM
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good.  Personally I would like to see the "adoptive" family black listed from future adoptions.  They appear ready and willing to steal children for their own agenda.  

jllcali
by LoyalAndCute on Jan. 27, 2013 at 4:40 PM
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This bland person sounds like a disgrace to women.
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yourspecialkid
by Platinum Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 5:02 PM
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 IMO, this was child theft from the beginning.  The father is military for God's sake...he is NOT hard to find.  As far as him leaving the mom high and dry....he is military for God's sake...not hard to find and not hard to make pay.

I think the mom should face some kind of charges...surely they can dig up something.  The adoption agency and adoptive parents too.  At the very least ALL of them should have to pay his legal fees.

 

funglemuggle
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 5:06 PM
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Sounds like the fathers story is more legit than the adoptive family's since they were made to give her back.

I think Bio mom should face some charges for what she did and the adoptive family shouldn't be left off easy either. They are just as guilty in the theft of this child as Bio mom was.
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IntactivistMama
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 5:06 PM
I am glad he got his daughter back from those selfish jerk-faces.
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GraceStrickland
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 5:11 PM
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My husband and I have been working with a childrens home to adopt a 2 year old. Before this child was adoptable the law stated that efforts had to be made to find his father for 12 month.  The Mom said he was a drug addict and wouldn't want him, but after almost a year they found him and the boy was reuinted.  I would have NEVER sweet and precious as he was fought this reuinion.

I'm wondering how it got this far when we had to wait so long and go through so many hoops!  Yay for Dads who are willing to fight for their kids.

minnesotamommie
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 5:11 PM
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So glad he got her back but its so unfair he had to miss those first months of bonding and she lived with those people thinking they were her parents so not fair to the dad or the little girl
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GoddessNDaRuff
by Silver Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 5:13 PM
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YAY! He has her!!!!!!!! I'm so happy.

Fuck that adoptive family. Their evil asses should have given the baby back as soon as they knew the father was looking for her. Instead they tried to keep her from her real family. I hope they can NEVER adopt again.

LoveMyBoyK
by Ruby Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 5:14 PM
Good for him!!
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GoddessNDaRuff
by Silver Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 5:16 PM

I agree. I think that kidnapping charges would have been appropriate since they knew the father wanted his child back and they blocked contact. The Agency should face some penalty as well. The mother should be charged with something but I don't know what.

Quoting funglemuggle:

Sounds like the fathers story is more legit than the adoptive family's since they were made to give her back.

I think Bio mom should face some charges for what she did and the adoptive family shouldn't be left off easy either. They are just as guilty in the theft of this child as Bio mom was.


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