follow up on baby given up for adoption without dad's consent

Utah huh? I wouldn't have guessed...I've met some odd sheep from there though! :-)
Quoting funglemuggle:
The state where this adoption occurred is known for shady adoption practices.
Quoting GraceStrickland:My husband and I have been working with a childrens home to adopt a 2 year old. Before this child was adoptable the law stated that efforts had to be made to find his father for 12 month. The Mom said he was a drug addict and wouldn't want him, but after almost a year they found him and the boy was reuinted. I would have NEVER sweet and precious as he was fought this reuinion.
I'm wondering how it got this far when we had to wait so long and go through so many hoops! Yay for Dads who are willing to fight for their kids.

I watched some interviews with both parents. I have a sneaking suspicion that the mother did this because of a domestic violence situation. The way she spoke about him was with fear in her tone of voice.
I can't prove that. That's just the feeling I got. It would also explain why she went to such lengths as she did. i honestly have no idea. But I do agree with the ruling. You cannot put a child up for adoption unless both parents agree.

Why the heck did the court approve the adoption in the first place? Is it really Utah state law, allowing a mother to give a baby up without the consent of the father?
I think it's bogus that his estranged wife could not locate him through the military. They have family resources for situations like this. Maybe she didn't try very hard. Still, a married woman giving up a baby when she knew the father would not consent makes me wonder about her mental health. And the integrity of that adoption agency. Poor child, now having to leave the only parents she's ever known. As one commenter said, the baby is young enough to make the adjustment. But not without trauma. I hope they make the transfer as painless as possible for the tot.

Personally i don't think any girl/woman should be allowed to put her child up for adoption without the childs fathers permission. While i fully agree with the woman making the decision to abort i do NOT agree that she has sole rights over adoptions choices. Once that baby is born it belongs just as much to the father as to the mother.

Hell yes! I'm so glad he got her back!

You could see that story working...if they weren't married and he weren't in the military!
The blame lies not only on the biomom, but squarely on the adoption agency that handled it as well. Even the most preliminary of investigations would have revealed this information on the father and enabled them to track him down.
Quoting GraceStrickland:My husband and I have been working with a childrens home to adopt a 2 year old. Before this child was adoptable the law stated that efforts had to be made to find his father for 12 month. The Mom said he was a drug addict and wouldn't want him, but after almost a year they found him and the boy was reuinted. I would have NEVER sweet and precious as he was fought this reuinion.
I'm wondering how it got this far when we had to wait so long and go through so many hoops! Yay for Dads who are willing to fight for their kids.

I agree with those who feel there were criminal acts committed here. Shameful:(
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How could an adoption agency not track down the woman's HUSBAND and get consent?

Utah gets away with this all the time. In fact it's so well known that adoption agencies often send their "birth mothers" to Utah because they know how hard it is for fathers to claim their children there and how the laws are stacked up against fathers.
Utah is the very worst but many states have laws against fathers. They have "putative father registries" that men have to register in if they even suspect a woman they had sex with may put his child up for adoption. And in many cases the father has to prove that he supported the pregnant woman through pregnancy regardless of how she treats him, or if he even knew she was pregnant.
Mothers of sons BEWARE!
I'm thrilled that in this case at least justice was done and Utah is getting attention for it's terrible adoption practices.
Here's a link to another shameful court case that's happening right now:
Quoting futureshock:
How could an adoption agency not track down the woman's HUSBAND and get consent?
- funglemuggle
on Jan. 27, 2013 at 5:18 PM