Like all good gifts from God, sex can be misused and perverted. Christian Post
Water is a gift of God, without which we couldnât survive. But floods and tidal waves are water out of control, and the effects are devastating. Fire is an energy-producing gift of God that gives warmth and allows us to cook. But a forest fire or a house burning to the ground or a person engulfed in flames is fire out of control-it is horrible and frightening. Water and fire are good things which, when they occur outside their God-intended boundaries, become bad.
Likewise, God designed sex to exist within certain boundaries. When exercised in line with Godâs intended purpose, it is beautiful and constructive. When out of control, violating Godâs intended purpose, it becomes ugly and destructive. Sex is a good thing which, when it occurs outside its God-designed boundaries, becomes bad.
The problem isnât sexâthe problem is us. Weâre sinners who can pervert, abuse, and rip away from their proper place the good things God created. The greater the gift from God, the more power it has both for good and bad. Inside marriage, sex has great power for good. Outside marriage it has equally great power for bad.
Chastity = Moral Cleanliness:
Anything that leads to lustful thoughts, words, or actions are in violation of God's command to be morally clean.
Sexual purity means to not have any sexual relations before being legally married including any thoughts, words, or actions that generate desire and arousal. Keeping the law of chastity means not participating in the following:
- Kissing passionately
- Necking: kissing on the neck
- Petting: touching private body parts of another person (with or without clothing)
- Lying on top of another person
- Arousing sexual emotions (in your own body or that of another person)
- Viewing pornography
- Reading/watching/listening to anything that arouses sexual feelings
- Fantasizing or dwelling on sexually arousing thoughts
Sexual Sins are Extremely Serious:
Repentance = Sexual Purity:
If you are struggling with a sexual addiction there is hope and help in overcoming addiction and other destructive habits.
Victims are Innocent:
Sex and marriage go together. Sexual union is intended as an expression of a lifelong commitment, a symbol of the spiritual union that exists only within the unconditional commitment of marriage. Apart from marriage, the lasting commitment is absent and the sex act becomes a false expression, a lie.
Every act of sex outside of marriage cheapens both sex and marriage. Sex is a privilege inseparable from the responsibilities of the sacred marriage covenant. To exercise the privilege apart from the responsibility perverts Godâs intention for sex.
Sex is designed to be the joining of two persons, of two spirits, not just two bodies. Sex should be giving to someone to whom Iâm 100% committed (as measured by the state of legal marriage), not taking from someone to whom Iâm uncommitted or partially committed.
âBut we really love each otherâ has no bearing on the ethics of sexual intimacyâsex does not become permissible through subjective feelings, but through the objective lifelong commitment of marriage.
Sexual purity is not an option for an obedient Christian, itâs a requirement. Godâs will is centered on our character and moral purity much more than on our circumstances, such as job, housing and schooling. You want to know Godâs will? You donât have to wonder. Here it is: âIt is Godâs will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immoralityâ (1 Thessalonians 4:3). There is no sense seeking Godâs will in other areas when you are choosing to live in sexual impurity in your mind or body.
âWho may ascend the hill of the LORD? Who may stand in his holy place?
He who has clean hands and a pure heart.â (Psalm 24:3-4) a and 24:3-4)
âIf I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.â (Psalm 66:18)
âIf anyone turns a deaf ear to the law, even his prayers are detestable.â (Proverbs 28:9)
ââWhen I called, they did not listen; so when they called, I would not listen,â says the LORD Almighty.â (Zechariah 7:13)
Sexual purity is inseparable from a committed Christian life. If you are not living in sexual purity, God will not hear your other prayers until you offer the prayer of confession and repentance and commit yourself to a life of holiness (1 John 1:9).
âAs a man thinks in his heart, so is heâ (Proverbs 23:7).
âFor out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality . . .â (Matthew 15:19-20).
âBut I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heartâ (Matthew 5:28).
You will inevitably adopt the morality of the programs, movies, books, magazines, music, Internet sites and conversations you participate in. GIGOâGarbage in, garbage out; Godliness in, godliness out. The cognitive is basic to the behavioralâyou become what you choose to feed your mind on.
Sow a thought, reap an action;
Sow an action, reap a habit.
Sow a habit, reap a character.
Sow a character, reap a destiny.
Your future can be accurately predicted by what you allow your mind to dwell on. Sinful actions donât come out of nowhereâthey are the cumulative product of little moral compromises made over time, which ultimately culminate in ungodly behavior.
Thereâs nothing new about sexual temptationâwhatâs new is how it has invaded our homes. In first century Corinth there were prostitutes all over the streets, but when you entered your home you had a sanctuary from the temptation. We live in a technological Corinth, where immorality can come into the privacy of our home through airwaves (television) and modems (the Internet). Most of us are only a few pushbuttons away from sexual immorality of the mind. Every choice we make to view and contemplate immorality desensitizes us to its evil.
Actions, habits, character and destiny all start with a thought, and thoughts are fostered by what we choose to take into our minds. Therefore we should take extreme care about what we feed our minds on.
âAbove all else, guard your heart [mind, inner being], for it is the wellspring of lifeâ (Proverbs 4:23).
If someone wants to pollute water, he pollutes it at its source. If he wants to purify water, he purifies it at its source. Our thoughts are the source of our lives. All our lives flow from our mind, and through the choices we make every day we program our minds, either for godliness or ungodliness.
âTurn my eyes away from worthless things; preserve my life according to your wordâ (Psalm 119:37)
Our minds are not a vacuumâthey will be filled with something. It is necessary to turn our minds from the worthless, but itâs not sufficient. We also must fill our minds with good thoughts that crowd out and combat the bad ones. Itâs not enough to say âdonât think about anything bad.â (If I say, âdonât think about spiders,â what do you think about?) We must also choose to think about the good. (If I say âthink about your favorite dessert,â pretty soon you stop thinking about spiders.) Time in the Word, in prayer, and in conversations with Christ-centered friends reinforces our commitment to purity.
âWhatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure . . . think about such thingsâ (Philippians 4:8).
We canât avoid every temptation, but we can avoid many of them, and we can certainly resist their attempts to take hold of us. Martin Luther said, âYou canât keep the birds from flying over your head, but you can keep them from making a nest in your hair.â
Be careful what you expose your mind to. If youâre on a diet, donât go to Baskin & Robinâs. If you do, your resistance will break down. If you want to abstain from lust you donât go places and watch movies and programs and read things that stimulate lust.
Your body will go where your mind allows it to. When it comes to your sexual purity, the ultimate battle is in your mind. Donât give your mind junk food. Be sure youâre getting spiritual nutrition.