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UW study: Men who don't do dishes have more sex

Posted by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:01 PM
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UW study: Men who don't do dishes have more sex

UW study: Men who don't do dishes have more sex
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SEATTLE -- Married and want to have more sex? Then ladies, do the cooking and cleaning, and guys, mow the lawn and pay the bills.

Sounds straight out of the '50s, but it's the finding of a new University of Washington study published this month on sex and chores.

Researchers found that married couples who divvy up housework along traditional gender lines have more sex than couples who share so-called men's and women's work.

"The results show that gender still organizes quite a bit of everyday life in marriage," said co-author Julie Brines, a UW associate sociology professor.

She said the "gender identities" of a couple expressed in chores also "help structure sexual behavior."

Other studies have found that husbands who do more housework have more sex, with an implication that sex is a bargaining chip for chores, researchers said.

But UW's study, published in February's American Sociological Review, didn't focus on sex and amount of chores done, but rather type of chores done.

Couples in the study said they have sex about five times a month. When the wife did all the traditional "female" tasks - cooking, cleaning, shopping - couples had sex 1.6 times more a month than couples in which the man did all the women's work.

So should guys take this as incentive to ignore dishes and laundry? No, researchers warned.

"Men who refuse to help around the house could increase conflict in their marriage and lower their wives' marital satisfaction," said lead author Sabino Kornrich, a former UW graduate student.

Housework for couples totaled 51 hours a week, with women doing much of it more than men, the study found. Women also did more of the "men's chores" than guys did of the "women's chores." Child care wasn't included in the research.

So after doing all that housework - and the apparent uneven division of labor - women weren't too tired and grumpy for sex? Apparently, not.

"Sex and housework are still key aspects of sharing a life, and both are related to marital satisfaction and how spouses express their gender identity," researcher Brines said.

Data comes from an early '90s survey of 4,500 of straight, married couples. Gay marrieds, you're on your own here.

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Woodbabe
by Woodie on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:05 PM
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And THIS is why I don't jump on every study as fact. 

We consider his doing the dishes as foreplay around HERE.

stormcris
by Christy on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:06 PM

LOL it really doesn't work that way in my house. We tried that once and it was not a good plan. 

Perhaps though there are a lot of women who want traditional roles and those traditional roles give the individuals in those marriages better organization and thus result in more time for sex.

UpSheRises
by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:08 PM

We have pretty traditional sex roles in our domestic life.

The only time he washes a dish is if i declare it "too yucky" for me. Like if i pan fry fish...there is no way i'm touching that smelly, greasy pan.

furbabymum
by Gold Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:09 PM
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 My DH is the only one in our house that does dishes. Seeing him with a sponge makes me want to jump his bones. Nothing sexier than a man willing to help out his woman.

NWP
by guerrilla girl on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:15 PM
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My dishwashing husband might agree with the study....He things folks should have daily sex. LOL.

Peanutx3
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:15 PM
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I loved it when I would come home from work to find that Matt had cleaned my kitchen and did laundry. 

Quoting Woodbabe:

And THIS is why I don't jump on every study as fact. 

We consider his doing the dishes as foreplay around HERE.


mandaday
by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 5:21 PM
Not so in my house. DH is a SAHD, does most of the housework. And we're like rabbits. Five times a month? Only if the flu is making its rounds through the house.
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jesusismyfriend
by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 6:11 PM

Not in this house. I love to cook hate to do the dishes. Dh hates to cook. So our agreement is he does the dishes and if he doesn't well then I get mad because he has several days off during the week to do them.

Citygirlk
by Gold Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 6:56 PM
So I.

Quoting NWP:

My dishwashing husband might agree with the study....He things folks should have daily sex. LOL.

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stacymomof2
by Ruby Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 6:57 PM

Pssshhhhht.  Not in my house.  For real.

The best way to get laid around here is to help me with house chores and kids so I have time to relax.

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