As we age and succumb to illness people deteriorate. I had done elder care and seen people get really mean . My own grandmother never hurt a fly and got pretty mean as she slipped away.
Do you hold people who are altered responsible for their behavior even if its your spouse?
How far you go in life depends on your being: tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of both the weak and strong. Because someday in life you would have been one or all of these. GeorgeWashingtonCarver