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Sadistic methods of raising children absolutely normal in US

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Sadistic methods of raising children absolutely normal in US

30.01.2013
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More than strange methods of "education" (more like tortures), which became known to the general public during the trials of adoptive parents in the United States, should not be regarded as the fruit of sick imagination of mentally challenged individuals. As it turns out, this "therapy" is recommended in the United States to suppress the will of foster children and make them attach to their foster parents. The followers of such practice already actively support and promote it in Russia.

Jessica Bigley became famous overnight not only in her state of Alaska, but also far beyond its borders. All thanks to a home video, which she sent to a popular TV show. The footage shows the woman making her adoptive boy from Russia rinse his mouth with hot pepper sauce, forbidding him to spit it out. Afterwards, she made the child stand under a cold shower. The boy can be heard screaming and begging the woman to stop the tortures. Click here to see the video.

While watching this video, many women in the studio were crying. The Commissioner for Children's Rights of the Russian Federation Pavel Astakhov compared the scenes in the video with "tortures of prisoners in Guantanamo." Jessica was very surprised when, instead of appraisals for her methods of "education," she was condemned. She said that she was doing the things that experts recommended her to do. The court took those factors into consideration and sentenced the foster mother to only six months on probation and a $ 2,500 fine.

The Leszczynskis also got off with a probation punishment for abusing their three daughters, whom they adopted from Russia. They forced them to run for tens of kilometers, push up from a board, so that the girls had their fists deformed. They also made the children stand on their heads for a long time and exposed them to cold showers. For a slightest offense, the parents would send the girls to sleep in a doghouse. One of the girls nearly suffocated in water: when being punished for slow mowing, the parents aimed a water hose at her.

Finally, the Cravers were sentenced to only a few months in prison, although their adopted son Ivan (Vanya) Skorobogatov was hospitalized with serious head injuries incompatible with life.

All of the above cases (in fact, there are a lot more of such stories) have something in common. They depict wild and downright savage attitude exercised towards foster children, as well as soft punishments that seem to be incomparable to committed offense. According to US-based human rights organization Parents Against Domestic Violence, incidents of child abuse entail a punishment of at least three years in prison. However, when it comes to children from Russia, the terms turn to probational ones.

This phenomenon has an explanation. It is called the lack-of-attachment syndrome. This diagnosis, along with fetal alcohol syndrome, is attributed in the United States to adopted children, especially to those adopted from Russia.

The above-mentioned horrific stories are published on the website of the Advocates for Children in Therapy - an American human rights organization founded by leading U.S. experts in the field of child psychology and psychiatry with a purpose to fight pseudo-scientific theories, dangerous to children's life and health.

One of the most common theories of this kind is known as Attachment Therapy. The videos on the website of the Advocates for Children in Therapy demonstrate the methods of this "therapy." One of the videos shows a little girl of about seven, who is forced to lie down on a mat. A big woman (weighing about 100 kilos) lies on top of her. The girl screams in pain, she can hardly breathe. The woman is heard yelling at her: "Will you stop behaving like that?"

When discussing the ban on the adoption of Russian orphans by Americans, the psychologists, who criticize the methods of AT, wrote on discussion boards that the majority of injuries and deaths among children adopted from Russia were connected with the use of this "therapy."

The fact is that the followers of this practice insist that all foster children suffer from the attachment disorder syndrome - no matter at what age they found themselves in an orphanage. This means that parents are not to blame for not being able to establish a contact with such children. Children are always to blame.

Bigley, the Cravers, and the Leszczynskis - all of them asked for advice and help from the psychologists practicing AT. One can say that those parents are not actually guilty, because they learned of such sadistic methods from specialists.

It is also recommended to starve foster children, wrap them up in a carpet and sit on top (such videos can be found on the website of the Advocates for Children in Therapy).

"These activities have no scientific basis. The described methods of this" therapy" are beyond the humane attitude to a human being, they are associated with violence, both physical and moral). The results of this work led to several deaths - six children aged from 3 to 13 years died. In this case we are talking about the methods to break children's personality brutally," psychologist Tatiana Kuzmishina told Pravda.Ru.

The website of the Advocates for Children in Therapy writes that Attachment Therapy today represents the most dangerous form of fraud in the United States. For most defenseless and vulnerable children, who live in custody institutions, with foster families, this pseudo-therapy caries nothing but unbearable suffering. How on Earth the suggestion of fear, hunger, pain and humiliation can lead to attachment, faith, love? How can it all make a child happy?

A year ago, one of the most ardent supporters of this "therapy" - Nancy Thomas - lectured in Russia's Yekaterinburg. On the website of a local public organization, she was touted as "one of the leading experts in the field of early attachment and family therapy." Foster parents and employees of child services were invited to attend the lecture.

Advocates for Children in Therapy said that before developing the fondness for AT methods, Nancy Thomas was fond of breeding dogs. Not surprisingly, she recommends, for example, the following in one of her lectures: "The child may get completely out of control at times. Then we sit down on top of the child. Before that, I used to do that to dogs, and it was much more dangerous with their fangs and claws than it is with a child . I take a good book and read it while sitting on a child."

The "expert" also said that the majority of foster children "work for the devil and pray to the devil."

AT practitioners also claim that without the "therapy" children will become psychopathic killers and "Hitlers."

One of such foster mothers, who received recommendations from AT "specialists," called the police and handed her adopted five-year-old child to an orphanage after she saw a kitchen knife in the child's hands. The woman assumed that the child was going to kill her.

Many countries that "supplied" their children to the adoption market have started to introduce restrictions in this area.

In 2007, there were 4,726 children exported from Guatemala to the United States. In 2009, the number reduced to 754, in 2011 - to only 32. Vietnam also banned the "export" of its children. In 2007, U.S. citizens adopted 828 Vietnamese children, in 2010 - 9, in 2011 - 0. Even the Chinese export of children to the U.S. has decreased by 50% over the past five years.

It is worth mentioning that in 2010, well-known American expert in the field of child psychology and psychiatry, Professor Jean Mercer, wrote in an open letter to the Russian Ombudsman for Children's Rights about the need for a moratorium on adoptions of Russian orphans by U.S. citizens. The reason - too many traumas and deaths among foster children from the use of AT.

As they say, time has come.

Svetlana Smetanina

Pravda.Ru

by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:52 AM
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BrookieCookie1
by Bronze Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 2:11 PM

 

Quoting Clairwil:

Quoting BrookieCookie1:

Russia in general is all fucked up. Most of it's common women are alcoholic and drug addicted prostitutes

That's got to be the most outrageous national stereotype I've ever seen on CafeMom.

Both alcoholism and prostitution are serious problems in Russia (though they're not the worst in Europe).

But "most" ?

eye rolling

 Yeah, that was pretty stupid. In my defense, however, I will say that  I've read that as many as 3/4 of the female population of Russia have or will work in some avenue of the sex industry (i.e. prostitution). I am uncertain if the 'mail-order' bride was figured into that figure, but nonetheless, Russia is a pretty rough country. OT, but when prisoners make escape plans, especially those that will have to travel through Siberia, they almost always take what's referred to as a 'cow'- a person that they plan on eating if it comes down to it. You do not hear of American prisoners ever planning or intending upon any whack shit like that....As I said, off topic, I know, but I'm just saying....

Woodbabe
by Woodie on Feb. 3, 2013 at 2:16 PM

If the child is that messed up, then the therapists need to be the ones doing hands on therapy under the direct supervision of medical staff...I don't care how appropriate anyone thinks this is, parent's shouldn't be led to think its okay.

Clairwil
by Ruby Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 2:39 PM
Quoting BrookieCookie1:

I've read that as many as 3/4 of the female population of Russia have or will work in some avenue of the sex industry (i.e. prostitution). I am uncertain if the 'mail-order' bride was figured into that figure

Source?


Clairwil
by Ruby Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 2:44 PM

J Vandepitte, R Lyerla, G Dallabetta, F Crabbé, M Alary, and A Buvé [2006] "Estimates of the number of female sex workers in different regions of the world" Sex Transm Infect. 2006 June; 82(Suppl 3): iii18–iii25. doi:  10.1136/sti.2006.020081


Results

In sub‐Saharan Africa, the FSW prevalence in the capitals ranged between 0.7% and 4.3% and in other urban areas between 0.4% and 4.3%. Population surveys from this same region yielded even higher proportions of women involved in transactional sex. The national FSW prevalence in Asia ranged between 0.2% and 2.6%; in the ex‐Russian Federation between 0.1% and 1.5%; in East Europe between 0.4% and 1.4%; in West Europe between 0.1% and 1.4%; and in Latin America between 0.2% and 7.4%. Estimates from rural areas were only available from one country.

LadySaphira
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 2:47 PM

I agree, I do not know anyone who would concider that type of treatment normal or acceptable.

Quoting JakeandEmmasMom:

 I take issue with the idea that it is "absolutely normal."  I do not know many people who think these methods are okay when they hear about them.


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autodidact
by Platinum Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 2:55 PM
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it's disgusting what people will stoop to under the guise of authority. this is the Milgram experiment all over again, except for real, and the victims are kids. fucking sick. 

"they told me to" is no excuse. 

lga1965
by Ruby Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 2:58 PM
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 WHO said it was "normal" ? And who said that this is known by the general public? Are they lying?

This is the most horrible article I have ever read. It actually made me cry and that is saying something. I have never heard of this before. No wonder Russia wants to ban adoptions by Americans. These people in Alaska are torturing children. Why are they not in jail?And why would anyone follow their teachings? This is evil.

Quoting Clairwil:

Quoting IhartU:

Sadistic methods of raising children absolutely normal in US

As they say, time has come.

Svetlana Smetanina

Pravda.Ru

What's sad is that it took a Russian paper to point this out.   Where were the American journalists?

Here's the WikiPedia article on it.

( Ok, that's just one of the many things that is sad and outragous about this. :-(   )

 

lady-J-Rock
by Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 2:59 PM
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Well I'm really glad my parents took me to awesome doctors who didn't promote that crap. One doctor said get her some pets, give her space, but enforce family time.

I was adopted when I was five and then diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder. I don't think that treatment is normal or acceptable to most Doctors
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lga1965
by Ruby Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 3:05 PM

 

Quoting BrookieCookie1:

 

Quoting Clairwil:

Quoting BrookieCookie1:

Russia in general is all fucked up. Most of it's common women are alcoholic and drug addicted prostitutes

That's got to be the most outrageous national stereotype I've ever seen on CafeMom.

Both alcoholism and prostitution are serious problems in Russia (though they're not the worst in Europe).

But "most" ?

eye rolling

 Yeah, that was pretty stupid. In my defense, however, I will say that  I've read that as many as 3/4 of the female population of Russia have or will work in some avenue of the sex industry (i.e. prostitution). I am uncertain if the 'mail-order' bride was figured into that figure, but nonetheless, Russia is a pretty rough country. OT, but when prisoners make escape plans, especially those that will have to travel through Siberia, they almost always take what's referred to as a 'cow'- a person that they plan on eating if it comes down to it. You do not hear of American prisoners ever planning or intending upon any whack shit like that....As I said, off topic, I know, but I'm just saying....

 The orphanges keep kids until they are 18 if they haven't been adopted . Then they are out and on their own. Most girls end up being prostitutes. This is what they told my daughter and son in law and this is why I am so happy their little girl is now here in a happy home with all of us to love her She has bonded with us , grins when I show up at their home  and giggles with her cousins and loves her mommy and daddy.

Russia seems a little hypocritical when Russians are discussing their ban on adoptions. But maybe this bunch in Alaska that tortures kids are one reason for the ban.Also, it is political.

I am still really upset about this ....torture.

mehamil1
by Platinum Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 3:10 PM

It's not "normal". This is poorly written article with unnecessary adjectives, hyperbole, and exaggeration. I tend to read a lot of academic studies and articles so that's probably coming from being used to and preferring more straight forward language to describe what is going on, not trying to elicit knee jerk emotional responses in the reader. 

Russia has a lot of problems. With the ban on American adoptions I hope that propels them to change how orphanages are run, get better treatment for addicts, and push/subsidize pre natal care for pregnant women. The children did not ask for this to happen to them. 

Also, I understand the power dynamics between supposed "professionals" like therapists and parents who are at their wits end trying to help a child that is out of control. If we are told to do something by someone who is in a legitimate position of power, we are more likely to do what they tell us to do. That is just who we are as a species. Despite this, you would think that some of these parents would realize that the "therapy" these people were proposing would be considered abuse. I don't know since I have never been in that kind of situation. 

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