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Question: Was what I said so offensive?

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No, I don't think it was offensive at all.

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It turns out many of the other kids had phones. The other lady in charge was shocked that Bob would react that way. She understood how important it is for parents to be able to contact their kids and that she felt cell phones were a great idea. She then apologised and said if I allow Savannah to go to the camp this summer she'll make sure she brings her phone. I feel slightly better,lol.

My 13yo dd is going to camp with the church. They'll be gone for three days and she is soo excited :-) I'm sure she'll have a great time but there's just one problem. No cell phones are allowed. I told her no problem, as long as she's able to borrow one and give me a call at night it'll be fine.

So when I dropped her off yesterday I sought out her youth leader to confirm that she'll be able to call me.

Me: Hey Bob, I understand that no cell phones are allowed but I need to make sure that Savannah call call me at night to check in.

Bob: Well...I hope that there are some pay phones near by.

Me: *Raises eyebrow* Why can't she borrow an adults cell phone?

Bob: Well you see we discourage phone calls because we want the kids to focus on God.

Savannah: I'm just going to be calling her at night.

Bob: Isn't God with you at night?

Me: I don't care where God is. There's no way I'm going to go three days without speaking to my daughter. Can she use a phone or not?

At this point Bob looks like I kicked his dog. The whole group goes silent.

Bob murmurs: Interesting... Okay she can she my phone.

I leave the shocked silence of the group.

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:20 AM
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talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:30 AM
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it is their rules.   Simply because you don't like them doesn't mean your child shouldn't follow them.

But you know that.   This is obviously a thread for you to show how much disdain you have for what your child believes but you can pretend to be open minded about it.



Quoting paganbaby:

I use this Church because my child identifies as a Christian. And I don't see how a 30 sec phone call to her mother at night is going to detract from her relationship with God.

Quoting talia-mom:

You were offensive.   You use this church for me time and then get mad because she has to concentrate on God?  Let her go and follow the rules or keep her at home.





paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:31 AM

I agree with no cell phones. But as far as me being rude, this man had no issue with making her find a pay phone somewhere in the mountains to call me but balked at the idea of her using his own cell phone to check in with me.

Quoting MommaGreenhalge:

I understand both sides of this. As a leader on trips like this, kids having cell phones is absolutely damaging to the purpose of the trip. But in this era, it makes sense to make sure they're able to call home at night. Before cell phones, my mom used to give me a phone card and I used the pay phones acouple of times during the week to let her know i was still alive. But you were kind of rude about it.


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Peanutx3
by Ruby Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:32 AM
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It's 3 days!!!!  Your daughter is 13.  Why can't she go without talking to you for a few days?  It may be time to let your daughter have a little space.

Quoting paganbaby:

The rules were no cell phones. I agreed. What I don't agree with is no contact with with her parents for the entire trip. And no, if she wasn't allowed to call me then she wasn't allowed to go.

Quoting Peanutx3:

If those are the rules of the camp why shouldn't your daughter follow the rules if she wants to go?



paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:33 AM

No, if I don't like them then my child doesn't have to particiapte. He compromised so she was able to go.

As for the rest, I call reaching.

Quoting talia-mom:

it is their rules.   Simply because you don't like them doesn't mean your child shouldn't follow them.

But you know that.   This is obviously a thread for you to show how much disdain you have for what your child believes but you can pretend to be open minded about it.



Quoting paganbaby:

I use this Church because my child identifies as a Christian. And I don't see how a 30 sec phone call to her mother at night is going to detract from her relationship with God.

Quoting talia-mom:

You were offensive.   You use this church for me time and then get mad because she has to concentrate on God?  Let her go and follow the rules or keep her at home.






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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:34 AM

Not giving her space would be me insisting on coming along like some parents did,lol.

Quoting Peanutx3:

It's 3 days!!!!  Your daughter is 13.  Why can't she go without talking to you for a few days?  It may be time to let your daughter have a little space.

Quoting paganbaby:

The rules were no cell phones. I agreed. What I don't agree with is no contact with with her parents for the entire trip. And no, if she wasn't allowed to call me then she wasn't allowed to go.

Quoting Peanutx3:

If those are the rules of the camp why shouldn't your daughter follow the rules if she wants to go?




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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:35 AM

Thank you :=-) I didn't think a phone call at night was asking for too much.

Quoting kaffedrikke:

I can understand where you're coming from.  I'd probably feel the same way. 


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talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:37 AM

Then don't let her go.

Do you whine about everything?


Quoting paganbaby:

Thank you :=-) I didn't think a phone call at night was asking for too much.

Quoting kaffedrikke:

I can understand where you're coming from.  I'd probably feel the same way. 




Peanutx3
by Ruby Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:38 AM
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o.O

Hmm I guess I don't have an issue with letting my children grow their wings.  My 10 year old went to camp for a week and she didn't call me once and had an amazing time.  She was able to focus on making new friends and learning about her relationship with God.  I was happy to give her that time to disconnect from electronics and be herself without worrying about what mom thinks.

Quoting paganbaby:

Not giving her space would be me insisting on coming along like some parents did,lol.

Quoting Peanutx3:

It's 3 days!!!!  Your daughter is 13.  Why can't she go without talking to you for a few days?  It may be time to let your daughter have a little space.

Quoting paganbaby:

The rules were no cell phones. I agreed. What I don't agree with is no contact with with her parents for the entire trip. And no, if she wasn't allowed to call me then she wasn't allowed to go.

Quoting Peanutx3:

If those are the rules of the camp why shouldn't your daughter follow the rules if she wants to go?





LuvingMy3Girls
by Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:38 AM
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Nope you are fine. I on the other hand would have packed her phone told her to keep it off and text me as needed. That's what we did at 6th grade camp and Girl Scout camp. It's a crazy world and I refuse to leave my kids without a way to contact me
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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:38 AM

Why should I keep her at home? He agreed to let her call me.

Quoting talia-mom:

Then don't let her go.

Do you whine about everything?


Quoting paganbaby:

Thank you :=-) I didn't think a phone call at night was asking for too much.

Quoting kaffedrikke:

I can understand where you're coming from.  I'd probably feel the same way. 





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