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Question: Was what I said so offensive?

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No, I don't think it was offensive at all.

Hmm...it was a little innapropriate.

Yes it was wrong. You shouldn't have said that about God.


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It turns out many of the other kids had phones. The other lady in charge was shocked that Bob would react that way. She understood how important it is for parents to be able to contact their kids and that she felt cell phones were a great idea. She then apologised and said if I allow Savannah to go to the camp this summer she'll make sure she brings her phone. I feel slightly better,lol.

My 13yo dd is going to camp with the church. They'll be gone for three days and she is soo excited :-) I'm sure she'll have a great time but there's just one problem. No cell phones are allowed. I told her no problem, as long as she's able to borrow one and give me a call at night it'll be fine.

So when I dropped her off yesterday I sought out her youth leader to confirm that she'll be able to call me.

Me: Hey Bob, I understand that no cell phones are allowed but I need to make sure that Savannah call call me at night to check in.

Bob: Well...I hope that there are some pay phones near by.

Me: *Raises eyebrow* Why can't she borrow an adults cell phone?

Bob: Well you see we discourage phone calls because we want the kids to focus on God.

Savannah: I'm just going to be calling her at night.

Bob: Isn't God with you at night?

Me: I don't care where God is. There's no way I'm going to go three days without speaking to my daughter. Can she use a phone or not?

At this point Bob looks like I kicked his dog. The whole group goes silent.

Bob murmurs: Interesting... Okay she can she my phone.

I leave the shocked silence of the group.

by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:20 AM
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TTC2Long
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:45 AM
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Honestly, I think you were inappropriate. She's 13. Not 5. And they have those rules for a reason. Don't like it, don't send her, which would be pretty cruel, imo.
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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:46 AM

According to who?

Quoting talia-mom:

because you believe you are above the rules.

This is a trip to help her grow closer to God.   She is actually able to be away from you for 3 days with no contact if she is 13. 


Quoting paganbaby:

Why should I keep her at home? He agreed to let her call me.

Quoting talia-mom:

Then don't let her go.

Do you whine about everything?


Quoting paganbaby:

Thank you :=-) I didn't think a phone call at night was asking for too much.

Quoting kaffedrikke:

I can understand where you're coming from.  I'd probably feel the same way. 








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SweetChild63
by Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:47 AM
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Bob was an idiot for pushing it. 

12hellokitty
by Ruby Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:47 AM

Calls to home from camp are not  usually encouraged because it can cause a child to become home sick.  It was nice of Bob to agree to let your daughter call home.  I'm curious as to if you thanked Bob?  


Quoting paganbaby:

The rules were no cell phones. I agreed. What I don't agree with is no contact with with her parents for the entire trip. And no, if she wasn't allowed to call me then she wasn't allowed to go.

Quoting Peanutx3:

If those are the rules of the camp why shouldn't your daughter follow the rules if she wants to go?




paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:47 AM
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Such a releif to see that I'm not the only crazy one,lol.

And yes that exactly what I planned on doing if I didn't get that phone call last night!

Quoting Veni.Vidi.Vici.:

It is not unreasonable for you to expect a phone call or that an adult would allow her to call you. If night one went by and I didn't receive a call I would be up there by day break, or perhaps 1:00 A.M. to pick up my kid. If I even let her go.


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Veni.Vidi.Vici.
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:48 AM

IMO cell phones can be a distraction and I get the no cell phone rule.

Was your daughter distraught by not being able to speak to you or were you distraught because she might not be able to call?

Alliemad_3
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:48 AM
I don't know. My almost 8 year old has gone to a three day/two night church camp for the past two summers. I didn't expect a call from her at night. I had the children's pastor's number and she has mine...I knew I would be notified if I needed to be.

I don't think you were rude, but I guess I just don't see the huge issue.
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daughteroftruth
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:48 AM
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I don't see why a quick phone call would distract her from "God".  But I dont' think it was offensive.  You asked a question, and there was a compromise.  

talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:48 AM

Obvously not you, but millions and millions of parents who allow their kids trips like this.

I just find it sad you make her have to be 'special" compare to the other kids because you are needy.


Quoting paganbaby:

According to who?

Quoting talia-mom:

because you believe you are above the rules.

This is a trip to help her grow closer to God.   She is actually able to be away from you for 3 days with no contact if she is 13. 


Quoting paganbaby:

Why should I keep her at home? He agreed to let her call me.

Quoting talia-mom:

Then don't let her go.

Do you whine about everything?


Quoting paganbaby:

Thank you :=-) I didn't think a phone call at night was asking for too much.

Quoting kaffedrikke:

I can understand where you're coming from.  I'd probably feel the same way. 










thecoffeefairy
by Bronze Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:49 AM
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It's crazy to not allow phone calls. Keeping the lines of communication open between child and parent is important. I'm sure god will understand.
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