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Should churches, pastors, or judges be sued for not wanting to perform a wedding ceremony?

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Apply any reason why this person chooses not do it.

Should people be able to force them to perform a ceremony?

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:18 PM
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prenatalRN
by Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:54 PM

Churches and Pastors - No

Judges - Yes, if they provide that service

NWP
by guerrilla girl on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:55 PM
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Religious officials should be able to refuse to perform a ceremony on whatever reasons they have. Civil officials should be required to perform the legal ceremony regardless of their feelings.

UpSheRises
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:55 PM

Judges...yeah. They are public employees, thier personal opinions are irrelevant.

Anyone else, nope.

Aslen
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:55 PM
If state law makes ssm legal, then judges have to perform them


Quoting talia-mom:

That doesn't answer the question of should they have to perform one if they aren't required by state law to do that.



Quoting Aslen:

Because the laws of the state supercede personal feelings. When a judge becomes a judge, they swear to uphold the laws of their state.





Quoting talia-mom:

That doesn't answer the question I asked.   If a judge is not required to perform the ceremony but can choose to perform it, should the judge be sued if they turn down the ceremony for whatever reason they want?




Quoting IntactivistMama:

Judges should follow the law. Period.








Quoting talia-mom:

Even if they are not required to do it.?






Quoting IntactivistMama:

Bible thumpers: no







Judges should get into trouble though.



















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TCgirlatheart
by TC on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:56 PM
I thought they all could refuse to marry anyone they want.
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talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:57 PM

You don't seem to get that not all states require judges to perform ceremonies.   They can do it at their discretion.

if they state doesn't not require them to perform the ceremony, should they have to perform it?


Quoting Aslen:

If state law makes ssm legal, then judges have to perform them


Quoting talia-mom:

That doesn't answer the question of should they have to perform one if they aren't required by state law to do that.



Quoting Aslen:

Because the laws of the state supercede personal feelings. When a judge becomes a judge, they swear to uphold the laws of their state.





Quoting talia-mom:

That doesn't answer the question I asked.   If a judge is not required to perform the ceremony but can choose to perform it, should the judge be sued if they turn down the ceremony for whatever reason they want?




Quoting IntactivistMama:

Judges should follow the law. Period.








Quoting talia-mom:

Even if they are not required to do it.?






Quoting IntactivistMama:

Bible thumpers: no







Judges should get into trouble though.





















storkradio193
by Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:57 PM

I don't know about judges, but it doesn't make sense to force a religious organization or it's leaders to marry someone.  What would it mean to force a rabbi to marry a Christian couple or the opposite?  Marriage within a religion typically involves religious ritual and ceremony that are not appropriate for believers of other faiths (e.g. non-Catholics taking the Catholic version of communion or Non-Jews saying Jewish blessings).

krysstizzle
by DeepThought on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:57 PM
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I don't think judges should be lumped in with churches and pastors :/

talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:57 PM

They should be required to perform something the state doesn't say they have to conduct?


Quoting NWP:

Religious officials should be able to refuse to perform a ceremony on whatever reasons they have. Civil officials should be required to perform the legal ceremony regardless of their feelings.



talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:58 PM

But not all states require judges to perform these ceremonies.  They are authorized to perform them but not required.


Quoting UpSheRises:

Judges...yeah. They are public employees, thier personal opinions are irrelevant.

Anyone else, nope.



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