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Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?

Posted by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:28 PM
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Restaurant Gives Parents Discount for 'Well-Behaved Kids' & Sets Dangerous Precedent

Posted by Julie Ryan Evans on February 4, 2013 

restaurant receiptAs any parent knows, eating out in a restaurant with children can be a bit of a dicey game. Sometimes your kids are angels, and other times you just want to crawl under the table ... if it wasn't such a horrific mess from all the food they'd thrown down there. But what if your bill depended on how well-behaved your children were?

A Reddit user recently posted a picture of a receipt from an Italian restaurant in Washington named Sogno Di Vino with a title "If only all restaurants did this for people with kids ..." On it there was a $4 discount for "well-behaved kids". A sweet gesture, and I bet those parents were pretty proud.

But the whole thing makes me kind of nervous.

Can you imagine if you were charged more for those times when your children aren't quite so good (as plenty of commenters suggested should be standard)? Or if the next time you didn't get a discount?

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Eating out with children is already filled with plenty of pressure for parents. Every raised voice, every dropped spoon can make a mom feel like all eyes in the joint are searing into her. And yes, sometimes children are out of control and should be removed from a restaurant. No one deserves for their meal to be interrupted by kids gone wild, but there also needs to be a certain amount of tolerance for families dining out without parents feeling like they're being judged even more. Most children just aren't going to be seen and not heard, and as long as mom and dad are making sure they're not heard too loudly, they deserve a little bit of a break. Having a random waitress decide what "well-behaved" is could be all sorts of problematic. I also can't imagine that restaurants really want to get into a battle over the bill with "those" parents who always deny their precious little ones ever do anything wrong.

Would it be nice to be rewarded when the planets align and you all make it through dinner delightfully? Absolutely. But I'm not sure it's worth the price you'd pay for the days when your kids act more ... like kids.

Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?

by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:28 PM
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talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:40 PM
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Yep.  Completely.

parentalrights1
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:58 PM
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Well there are so many people that can't stand the site of children and one persons idea of a well behaved child might not be another's.

There's just gonna be alot of pissed off parents when someone denies them the discount for some bullshit reason
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parentalrights1
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 4:00 PM
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Plus if its a server with no kids, they likely won't know what the hell a well behaved kid is. Non parents generally know diddly squat
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LIMom1105
by Bronze Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 4:17 PM

I don't think this is fair at all, though maybe this is the restaurants way of dealing with children.  Probably they really don't want anyone with very young children or children with special needs dining at their establishment. But they can't very well say that, so they give this good child discount instead.

Our son can have some really challenging behavior, however he's usually very well-behaved at restaurants. That said, I still wouldn't patronize this restaurant.

UpSheRises
by Platinum Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 4:35 PM

I wouldn't want someone with no knowledge of child development deciding the difference between good behavior and bad behavior. Aside from the fact that a stranger has no business placing a value judgement on a child, behavior isn't good or bad, it's developmentally appropriate or developmentally inappropriate.

CrazyLife1996
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 4:37 PM
This is exactly what I was thinking.


Quoting parentalrights1:

Well there are so many people that can't stand the site of children and one persons idea of a well behaved child might not be another's.



There's just gonna be alot of pissed off parents when someone denies them the discount for some bullshit reason

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talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 5:24 PM
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So a server simply can't determine that a family didn't disturb his other customers and give that family a discount?

No one ever seems to realize how disrupting kids can be.

momtoscott
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 5:28 PM

 No, I think that kind of policy is foolish.  My kid has lots of restaurant experience and was always well-behaved, so we would have qualified, but no.  

Veni.Vidi.Vici.
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:06 PM
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I would because my children are typically well behaved and respectful.

gammie
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:14 PM
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I would love it my kids were always will behaved :)


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