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Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?

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Restaurant Gives Parents Discount for 'Well-Behaved Kids' & Sets Dangerous Precedent

Posted by Julie Ryan Evans on February 4, 2013 

restaurant receiptAs any parent knows, eating out in a restaurant with children can be a bit of a dicey game. Sometimes your kids are angels, and other times you just want to crawl under the table ... if it wasn't such a horrific mess from all the food they'd thrown down there. But what if your bill depended on how well-behaved your children were?

A Reddit user recently posted a picture of a receipt from an Italian restaurant in Washington named Sogno Di Vino with a title "If only all restaurants did this for people with kids ..." On it there was a $4 discount for "well-behaved kids". A sweet gesture, and I bet those parents were pretty proud.

But the whole thing makes me kind of nervous.

Can you imagine if you were charged more for those times when your children aren't quite so good (as plenty of commenters suggested should be standard)? Or if the next time you didn't get a discount?

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Eating out with children is already filled with plenty of pressure for parents. Every raised voice, every dropped spoon can make a mom feel like all eyes in the joint are searing into her. And yes, sometimes children are out of control and should be removed from a restaurant. No one deserves for their meal to be interrupted by kids gone wild, but there also needs to be a certain amount of tolerance for families dining out without parents feeling like they're being judged even more. Most children just aren't going to be seen and not heard, and as long as mom and dad are making sure they're not heard too loudly, they deserve a little bit of a break. Having a random waitress decide what "well-behaved" is could be all sorts of problematic. I also can't imagine that restaurants really want to get into a battle over the bill with "those" parents who always deny their precious little ones ever do anything wrong.

Would it be nice to be rewarded when the planets align and you all make it through dinner delightfully? Absolutely. But I'm not sure it's worth the price you'd pay for the days when your kids act more ... like kids.

Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?

by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:28 PM
Replies (11-20):
Clairwil
by Ruby Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:34 PM
Quoting Cafe Steph:

Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?

I think restaurants would be foolish to place themselves in the position of judge.  People don't like judges.

I also think judging fairly the behaviour of someone with tourette's, for example, would be rather difficult if you didn't know the child well.


LittleBirdFly
by Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 6:36 PM

would be ok with me because they behave very well

talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 7:24 PM

I would be better with charging extra for screaming, whining kids whose parents don't take them outside though.

somuchlove4U
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 7:26 PM
No. I wouldn't welcome a policy like that.
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AutymsMommy
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 7:27 PM

No. Too much gray area.

What about infants? Are we now calling an infant crying and babbling loudly a "behaviour problem"? Special needs?

Hey, it's a private business. They can do as they choose and I will support them in that. I will not, however, frequent an establishment that does.

I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff: we have traditional gender roles, we're Catholic, I'm Libertarian, he's Republican, we're both conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol).             Aimee














Euphoric
by Bazinga! on Feb. 6, 2013 at 7:33 PM
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 This.

Quoting Veni.Vidi.Vici.:

I would because my children are typically well behaved and respectful.

 

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Ziva65
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 7:35 PM

Absolutely-

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Ziva65
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 7:36 PM

 


Quoting talia-mom:

I would be better with charging extra for screaming, whining kids whose parents don't take them outside though.

I was hoping the policy went both ways- a discount for well behaved kids, and a hefty surcharge for those who are disruptive.

 

PestPatti
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 7:44 PM
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Hmm I think a majority of people with or with out kids know what "well behaved" means.  

 

Quoting parentalrights1:

Plus if its a server with no kids, they likely won't know what the hell a well behaved kid is. Non parents generally know diddly squat


talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 7:47 PM
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They do, but parents who don't care if their kids disturb other people think that everyone should just deal with it.


Quoting PestPatti:

Hmm I think a majority of people with or with out kids know what "well behaved" means.  

 

Quoting parentalrights1:

Plus if its a server with no kids, they likely won't know what the hell a well behaved kid is. Non parents generally know diddly squat




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