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Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?

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Restaurant Gives Parents Discount for 'Well-Behaved Kids' & Sets Dangerous Precedent

Posted by Julie Ryan Evans on February 4, 2013 

restaurant receiptAs any parent knows, eating out in a restaurant with children can be a bit of a dicey game. Sometimes your kids are angels, and other times you just want to crawl under the table ... if it wasn't such a horrific mess from all the food they'd thrown down there. But what if your bill depended on how well-behaved your children were?

A Reddit user recently posted a picture of a receipt from an Italian restaurant in Washington named Sogno Di Vino with a title "If only all restaurants did this for people with kids ..." On it there was a $4 discount for "well-behaved kids". A sweet gesture, and I bet those parents were pretty proud.

But the whole thing makes me kind of nervous.

Can you imagine if you were charged more for those times when your children aren't quite so good (as plenty of commenters suggested should be standard)? Or if the next time you didn't get a discount?

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Eating out with children is already filled with plenty of pressure for parents. Every raised voice, every dropped spoon can make a mom feel like all eyes in the joint are searing into her. And yes, sometimes children are out of control and should be removed from a restaurant. No one deserves for their meal to be interrupted by kids gone wild, but there also needs to be a certain amount of tolerance for families dining out without parents feeling like they're being judged even more. Most children just aren't going to be seen and not heard, and as long as mom and dad are making sure they're not heard too loudly, they deserve a little bit of a break. Having a random waitress decide what "well-behaved" is could be all sorts of problematic. I also can't imagine that restaurants really want to get into a battle over the bill with "those" parents who always deny their precious little ones ever do anything wrong.

Would it be nice to be rewarded when the planets align and you all make it through dinner delightfully? Absolutely. But I'm not sure it's worth the price you'd pay for the days when your kids act more ... like kids.

Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?

by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:28 PM
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poietes
by Bronze Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 8:45 AM
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So do they charge more for ill mannered obnoxious adults that talk and laugh way to loud or swear up a storm right next to my cnildren? Of course they wouldnt. Lets always pick on the kids. Sigh.
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MeAndTommyLee
by Gold Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 9:33 AM

Normal development and stages of  toddlers lcan easily be  misconstrued as bad behaviors.  For this reason alone, I don't like this idea.

talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 9:36 AM


How are children being picked on?  No one is being charged more for loud kids,

Quoting poietes:

So do they charge more for ill mannered obnoxious adults that talk and laugh way to loud or swear up a storm right next to my cnildren? Of course they wouldnt. Lets always pick on the kids. Sigh.



ReadWriteLuv
by Silver Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 9:40 AM

I'd jump at the chance to go to an establishment with such a policy. Then again, I'd also pay more for a seat on a plane that didn't allow children either.

If I go to a place like Red Robin, I expect unruly kids. If I am going for fine dining or a date night out, the last thing in the world I want is unruly kids around me. If this policy would turn people off to the point that people with kids wouldn't bother to go, then fantastic. 

poietes
by Bronze Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 9:43 AM
Meh, guess I read it wrong. It was in one of the replies that said they should do it that way.

Quoting talia-mom:


How are children being picked on?  No one is being charged more for loud kids,


Quoting poietes:

So do they charge more for ill mannered obnoxious adults that talk and laugh way to loud or swear up a storm right next to my cnildren? Of course they wouldnt. Lets always pick on the kids. Sigh.




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wickedfiress
by Kellie on Feb. 7, 2013 at 9:53 AM
No. I file this with your childless friend giving you parenting advice.
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wickedfiress
by Kellie on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:00 AM
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To add to this. Size is not a good indicator of age either. My son has always been in the 95% for his height and weight. He's now 7, and BIGGER than his 9 year old sister, and has been at least her size for the past several years.

Quoting MeAndTommyLee:

Normal development and stages of  toddlers lcan easily be  misconstrued as bad behaviors.  For this reason alone, I don't like this idea.

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lga1965
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:04 AM
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I agree. I notice that the parents also have bad manners and behavior issues.... :)
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mommy2boys03
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:10 AM
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I say yes only if the have the same type of policy for adults that cause distrubances.  I have been places where adults have been worse behaved than children at times.  It's a nice idea but people's standards of what good behavior is in children is so varied that it would be hard to be consistent.

MeAndTommyLee
by Gold Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:11 AM

Don't you love that!   


Quoting wickedfiress:

No. I file this with your childless friend giving you parenting advice.


 

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