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Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?

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Restaurant Gives Parents Discount for 'Well-Behaved Kids' & Sets Dangerous Precedent

Posted by Julie Ryan Evans on February 4, 2013 

restaurant receiptAs any parent knows, eating out in a restaurant with children can be a bit of a dicey game. Sometimes your kids are angels, and other times you just want to crawl under the table ... if it wasn't such a horrific mess from all the food they'd thrown down there. But what if your bill depended on how well-behaved your children were?

A Reddit user recently posted a picture of a receipt from an Italian restaurant in Washington named Sogno Di Vino with a title "If only all restaurants did this for people with kids ..." On it there was a $4 discount for "well-behaved kids". A sweet gesture, and I bet those parents were pretty proud.

But the whole thing makes me kind of nervous.

Can you imagine if you were charged more for those times when your children aren't quite so good (as plenty of commenters suggested should be standard)? Or if the next time you didn't get a discount?

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Eating out with children is already filled with plenty of pressure for parents. Every raised voice, every dropped spoon can make a mom feel like all eyes in the joint are searing into her. And yes, sometimes children are out of control and should be removed from a restaurant. No one deserves for their meal to be interrupted by kids gone wild, but there also needs to be a certain amount of tolerance for families dining out without parents feeling like they're being judged even more. Most children just aren't going to be seen and not heard, and as long as mom and dad are making sure they're not heard too loudly, they deserve a little bit of a break. Having a random waitress decide what "well-behaved" is could be all sorts of problematic. I also can't imagine that restaurants really want to get into a battle over the bill with "those" parents who always deny their precious little ones ever do anything wrong.

Would it be nice to be rewarded when the planets align and you all make it through dinner delightfully? Absolutely. But I'm not sure it's worth the price you'd pay for the days when your kids act more ... like kids.

Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?

by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:28 PM
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lga1965
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:20 AM
Hey. I have three kids and eight grandkids . I would give the same advice. Make sure to set a good example for your kids and teach them be good in, public...and at home too. You don't have to allow kids to go nuts in public. Really. Mine were calm and happy unless they were sick and then we stayed home. se

Quoting wickedfiress:

No. I file this with your childless friend giving you parenting advice.
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Mommy_of_Riley
by Jes on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:24 AM
No.

Because what some consider "good behavior" is not what others consider "good behavior".

Some adults want kids to sit still and be silent in a restaurant. I find that silly. Kids can wiggle around and talk and laugh and still be well behaved. Plus, my son on his best behavior still has outbursts because that's how he is. Someone who doesn't know him wouldn't know that.
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katy_kay08
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:28 AM

A discount sure?  Paying more?  Only if I was aware that they had a rotten kid penalty before I sat down.  

FromAtoZ
by AllieCat on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:29 AM

This would never work.

One one considers misbehaving, another may not.   There are degrees as well.  Parents of kids who are brats, yet the parents don't feel they are, will go through the roof and all kinds of issues will come up.

I get the discount for the well behaved kids, it is a nice gesture and should only be some thing that management may decide to do at their leisure.

I also get that, at times, it would be nice to have the parents pay for the mess their children leave but again, that opens a whole can of worms that would take far too much to work out.

Mommy_of_Riley
by Jes on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:30 AM
Kids are kids. Kids laugh. Kids talk.

Not every child acts the same.

And a waiter doesn't have the right to judge what they deem to be "good behavior"...


Quoting lga1965:

Hey. I have three kids and eight grandkids . I would give the same advice. Make sure to set a good example for your kids and teach them be good in, public...and at home too. You don't have to allow kids to go nuts in public. Really. Mine were calm and happy unless they were sick and then we stayed home. se



Quoting wickedfiress:

No. I file this with your childless friend giving you parenting advice.
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btamilee
by Silver Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 10:43 AM

There is nothing worse than saving up for a nice night out, and then having to sit through some ones children acting like animals while you are trying to enjoy a nice meal.   There is no need of parents not controlling their children's behavior in public,  if they can't act appropriately....then they need to take the children home.  I would not put up with my own two daughters acting up while in public....there is no need for it.  I am fine with laughing, and being a kid, what I don't like is when a kids screams, kicks and is not controlled. 

talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 11:11 AM

Yes they do.  


Quoting Mommy_of_Riley:

Kids are kids. Kids laugh. Kids talk.

Not every child acts the same.

And a waiter doesn't have the right to judge what they deem to be "good behavior"...


Quoting lga1965:

Hey. I have three kids and eight grandkids . I would give the same advice. Make sure to set a good example for your kids and teach them be good in, public...and at home too. You don't have to allow kids to go nuts in public. Really. Mine were calm and happy unless they were sick and then we stayed home. se



Quoting wickedfiress:

No. I file this with your childless friend giving you parenting advice.



pamelax3
by Gold Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 11:34 AM

I do not agree with this at all. All children behave differently

Peanutx3
by Ruby Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 11:42 AM

This.  Plus I tend to only take my kids to family restaurants.

Quoting katy_kay08:

A discount sure?  Paying more?  Only if I was aware that they had a rotten kid penalty before I sat down.  


Traci_Momof2
by Silver Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 12:06 PM

 


Quoting parentalrights1:

Well there are so many people that can't stand the site of children and one persons idea of a well behaved child might not be another's.

There's just gonna be alot of pissed off parents when someone denies them the discount for some bullshit reason


 But they have no reason to be pissed off.  It's a discount.  An extra.  A bonus.  If you don't get the discount, then you just pay the regular price.  Regular price being what you should've expected to pay when you walked in the door.

Being pissed off because you didn't receive a discount shows an entitlement attitude.

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