Abusive men....(PIOG)

[JP-StrongForTwo]

Do you believe he can change? 

This debate really interests me. Mainly because i have such an unpopular opinion :P 

I believe ANYONE can change. 

I do believe there are people out there who will not and cannot change. 

But I dont agree when i see people say 'Abusive men cant change' 

Because that is not true, they can and have. not all certainly. And probably not even most. 

but to say that ALL abusive men are doomed to escalate and become a killer, is just extremist, and not true IMO

What are your thoughts? 

[Bieg9093]

OY!   I wonder if I replied already.  If I did, I wonder if I said the same thing.

Quoting JP-StrongForTwo:

This post is almost 4 months old! 

Quoting Bieg9093:

 It's a pointless question to debate.  In all practicality, the only question that matters is "why bother with an abusive man?" 

 

[JP-StrongForTwo]

LOL 

Quoting Bieg9093:

OY!   I wonder if I replied already.  If I did, I wonder if I said the same thing.

Quoting JP-StrongForTwo:

This post is almost 4 months old! 

Quoting Bieg9093:

 It's a pointless question to debate.  In all practicality, the only question that matters is "why bother with an abusive man?" 

 

[Arroree]

I've never known a man with abusive tendencies to change, they either stay at the level of violence they're already at or they escalate.  I've known some to go years without being violent but in the end they always revert to the violence and after going so long without they tend to be more extreme.