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New bill would extend divorce waiting period.

Posted by on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:07 PM
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New bill would extend divorce waiting period



by HEATHER GRAF / KING 5 News

 

Posted on February 11, 2013 at 11:25 PM

Updated Tuesday, Feb 12 at 6:09 AM

 

SEATTLE -- Just in time for Valentine's Day, there's new legislation that seeks to make it more difficult to get a divorce in Washington state.

Senate Bill 5614 would extend the waiting period for divorces from the current 90 days to a full year.  It's been dubbed the "Family Second Chances Act."

The bill, sponsored by Senator Don Benton and nine others, states in part:

"Divorce causes poverty, juvenile delinquency and lower scholastic achievement among children of our state.  Even a modest reduction of divorce in our state could be beneficial to children. 

The idea is that increasing the waiting period for a divorce will empower couples to think long and hard about their decision and possibly find ways to reconcile.

"I think maybe it's not such a good idea.  I think sometimes it's best to move on," said Rachel Martin, who owns Ballard Blossom.  "If you know it's not right, then why make someone drag it out for a year, you know?"

Martin and her staff are in the business of keeping couples together.  They also witness the impulsive decision often made in relationships, day in and day out.

"The other day we did. We had someone call who wanted to send dead flowers," a staffer said.  "He was really upset with his ex. His ex, I think, wanted to get a divorce or something like that."

In that regard, they understand why people might need a bit more time to contemplate a life-changing decision.

"That might not be such a a bad idea, because they might change their minds six months from now," said customer Daniel Turner.

Seattle divorce attorney Bruce Becker said the current 90 day waiting period seems like a reasonable cooling off period for couples. He's curious to see how the bill does in Olympia.

It's set to go before a senate committee Friday -- the day after Valentine's Day.

 

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FromAtoZ
by AllieCat on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:08 PM

Hit submit too soon.

The actual bill is HERE.

Your thoughts.............

Now, try to take your own perfect marriage out of the equation.  This isn't about you or your moral code.  This is for the good of all, including those who come from all walks of life and circumstances that differ from yours.


LauraKW
by "Dude!" on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:10 PM
Does anyone happen to know the party of those behind the bill? Is it bi-partisan?
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KelliansMom
by Bronze Member on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:12 PM
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In Virginia if you have children you have to legally separated for a year before the divorce is final. Six month if you don't have children. (Or at least it was that way eight years ago)
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FromAtoZ
by AllieCat on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:14 PM


Quoting LauraKW:

Does anyone happen to know the party of those behind the bill? Is it bi-partisan?

I read, earlier, that it is a bi-partisan bill.  Let me see if I can find where I read that.

However, on the news, just a few moments ago, who ever it was speaking stated that while children will benefit, and parents, so will tax payers.  His tone.............the 'tax payers' being the most important aspect of this, was more than evident.

sherry132
by Silver Member on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:21 PM
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If I had had to stay married to my ex for another year, one of us would be dead. Divorce doesn't happen to most people on a spur of the moment decision. It's something that dies slowly and painfully. That is not good for kids. Being poor may not give a child all the material items they think (or society) thinks they need, but if the relationship between parents is healthy, even kids who are poor and in divorce situations turn out fine. 

Making people wait a year won't do shit. Help them learn how to coparent together if you want to help kids. 

FromAtoZ
by AllieCat on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:25 PM


Quoting sherry132:

If I had had to stay married to my ex for another year, one of us would be dead. Divorce doesn't happen to most people on a spur of the moment decision. It's something that dies slowly and painfully. That is not good for kids. Being poor may not give a child all the material items they think (or society) thinks they need, but if the relationship between parents is healthy, even kids who are poor and in divorce situations turn out fine. 

Making people wait a year won't do shit. Help them learn how to coparent together if you want to help kids. 

In the case of abuse, if there is a TRO or a felony charge, the waiting period can be waived.

This can be dangerous for many, however.  

If my ex and I had had to wait, it would have been fine under the circumstances, considering he left the country and it took 11 months any way.  However, had he not left the country..............that would have been a hell of a long wait.

Military, it won't work out so well for most having to wait a year.  More along the lines of technicalities.


FrogSalad
by Sooze on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:41 PM
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I don't think most people are so cavalier about ending their marriages that a waiting period would save a significant portion of them.

Instead of trying to keep people in failing marriages, they should make it harder to get married.  Required pre-marriage counseling, for example, wherein couples have to explore what each expects in terms of delegation of responsibilities, children, religion, finances,  sex, "deal breakers", etc. 


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invisibleme
by Member on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:43 PM
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NC already requires a year long separation.


Quoting FromAtoZ:

Hit submit too soon.

The actual bill is HERE.

Your thoughts.............

Now, try to take your own perfect marriage out of the equation.  This isn't about you or your moral code.  This is for the good of all, including those who come from all walks of life and circumstances that differ from yours.



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eema.gray
by on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:44 PM
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Because, you know, those battered wives (and husbands) really just need to sit down with their abusive spouses and think this decision over long and hard.  SMDH

invisibleme
by Member on Feb. 14, 2013 at 9:45 PM
It might make some think twice if the relationship is already having issues.


Quoting FrogSalad:

I
don't think most people are so cavalier about ending their marriages
that a waiting period would save a significant portion of them.

Instead of trying to keep people in failing marriages, they should make it harder to get married.  Required pre-marriage counseling, for example, wherein couples have to explore what each expects in terms of delegation of responsibilities, children, religion, finances,  sex, "deal breakers", etc. 


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