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Question: Are Unisex bathrooms in schools a good idea?

Options:

Yes. This way no one is made to feel segragated.

No. I will explain.

Only if they have seperate stall and no urinials.

Other. I will explain.


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Total Votes: 33

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 It was mentioned in another post(the transgender post) that perhaps unisex bathrooms would be a good idea

 Would you be ok with your children/teens going to school with unisex bathrooms. Urinals and stall bathrooms available to both girls and boys?

 Adding a poll.

by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 12:24 PM
Replies (21-30):
stormcris
by Christy on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:28 PM

That would be the mystic I was referring to.

Quoting lizzielouaf:

I will march for LGBT rights, I will donate my legal services, I'll picket...whatever you want but please don't ask me to pee next to a guy I don't know. I've been with my husband for nearly 20 years and we still keep our "bathroom ritual" a mystery. I AM a prude! There I said it. I don't care. Can't we keep something a mystery??


Quoting lga1965:

 

Quoting Aamy:


Quoting lga1965:

 

Quoting stormcris:

I put yes but it has less to do with segregated and more to do with the fact in this day and age people should not fear the opposite sex. Let's think about this for a moment. In schools you are not there to have some mystic and primp in the bathroom. You are supposed to go in do your business, wash and leave. As one teacher puts it "two shakes is all you need". There are already males in the female restroom and there are already females in the male restroom. If the idea is to prevent rape it does not work. IF the idea is to prevent some other sort of crime it still does not work. If the idea is to keep the mystic of being one sex or the other, it has been pointed out by many parents school is for learning not to prowl for a date. We are supposed to be a progressive society that is one of the top in the world and we cannot get past being in stalls next to each other? It seems really unprogressive considering Europe and Asia already do this in many places. 

 Uh uh. Its just a matter of privacy, not "the mystic of being one sex" thing.

 I also needed privacy in my Gym class in junior high and high school, not wanting to take showers with all the other girls and changing clothes,etc. by the lockers.

Lets allow some of us to remain who we are and not force us to let it all hang out for everyone. It's called modesty and privacy and needing our own space.

There is a point of letting it all hang out and then being a prude. We didnt have stalls to change in for gym, and belive me i didnt like it either, but you just did it. And same goes for showers. You would def hated basic training for the Air Force, i got a huge wake up call. You walk into this room, there are 6 shower heads. And thats it. You ALL shower together. about 3 girls per shower head. Sorry but you get over it pretty quick. There are times in life that you have to do things you dont really like. 

 That is exactly how we had to do it in our GYM class in our school. I hated it. A huge shower room with a bunch of naked girls....ugh. I never got over it. If I am a Prude...as you slyly suggest ....then I admit it and I am proud of it.   :-)




desertlvn
by Silver Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:37 PM


Do you feel that way about a transgendered person?

I understand what your are saying completely. I just don't have a problem with a person who IS female using the female restroom.... even if she happens to have a penis.

I have also had to use the restroom SOOOO badly at a public event and the lines for the ladies room was way to long. I would have gladly used a unisex bathroom out of necessity probably 15 times in my life. 

Quoting lizzielouaf:

I will march for LGBT rights, I will donate my legal services, I'll picket...whatever you want but please don't ask me to pee next to a guy I don't know. I've been with my husband for nearly 20 years and we still keep our "bathroom ritual" a mystery. I AM a prude! There I said it. I don't care. Can't we keep something a mystery??


Quoting lga1965:

 

Quoting Aamy:


Quoting lga1965:

 

Quoting stormcris:

I put yes but it has less to do with segregated and more to do with the fact in this day and age people should not fear the opposite sex. Let's think about this for a moment. In schools you are not there to have some mystic and primp in the bathroom. You are supposed to go in do your business, wash and leave. As one teacher puts it "two shakes is all you need". There are already males in the female restroom and there are already females in the male restroom. If the idea is to prevent rape it does not work. IF the idea is to prevent some other sort of crime it still does not work. If the idea is to keep the mystic of being one sex or the other, it has been pointed out by many parents school is for learning not to prowl for a date. We are supposed to be a progressive society that is one of the top in the world and we cannot get past being in stalls next to each other? It seems really unprogressive considering Europe and Asia already do this in many places. 

 Uh uh. Its just a matter of privacy, not "the mystic of being one sex" thing.

 I also needed privacy in my Gym class in junior high and high school, not wanting to take showers with all the other girls and changing clothes,etc. by the lockers.

Lets allow some of us to remain who we are and not force us to let it all hang out for everyone. It's called modesty and privacy and needing our own space.

There is a point of letting it all hang out and then being a prude. We didnt have stalls to change in for gym, and belive me i didnt like it either, but you just did it. And same goes for showers. You would def hated basic training for the Air Force, i got a huge wake up call. You walk into this room, there are 6 shower heads. And thats it. You ALL shower together. about 3 girls per shower head. Sorry but you get over it pretty quick. There are times in life that you have to do things you dont really like. 

 That is exactly how we had to do it in our GYM class in our school. I hated it. A huge shower room with a bunch of naked girls....ugh. I never got over it. If I am a Prude...as you slyly suggest ....then I admit it and I am proud of it.   :-)





Lullababy
by Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:40 PM

I'm not ok with it. I would prefer a small individual bathroom versus a shared room with stalls, but that is probably not going to happen.

Veni.Vidi.Vici.
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:41 PM

Other: Not because of segregtion issues but I don't see the riot with unisex bathrooms. I would have voted yes. Urinals can be placed in stalls.

talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:42 PM
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I like being a female.   I just don't get the idea that somehow modesty or uncomfortableness with peeing or changing around someone with a penis you don't intimately know is bullying or homophobic or not educated.


Sometimes you are just allowed to be uncomfortable with stuff without it being a major issue.

desertlvn
by Silver Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:44 PM



Quoting talia-mom:

I like being a female.   I just don't get the idea that somehow modesty or uncomfortableness with peeing or changing around someone with a penis you don't intimately know is bullying or homophobic or not educated.


Sometimes you are just allowed to be uncomfortable with stuff without it being a major issue.


I'm curious.... Do you know any transgendered people? (That you are aware of.)

stormcris
by Christy on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:46 PM

I am glad someone asked this I was thinking of asking it myself. 

Quoting desertlvn:



Quoting talia-mom:

I like being a female.   I just don't get the idea that somehow modesty or uncomfortableness with peeing or changing around someone with a penis you don't intimately know is bullying or homophobic or not educated.


Sometimes you are just allowed to be uncomfortable with stuff without it being a major issue.


I'm curious.... Do you know any transgendered people? (That you are aware of.)


talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:51 PM

Yes.  One of my employees.

And I would still feel uncomfortable peeing or changing next to her because she has a penis.

There is nothing wrong with this.   I don't berate the person, but neither do have to pretend I am not uncomfortable.


Quoting desertlvn:



Quoting talia-mom:

I like being a female.   I just don't get the idea that somehow modesty or uncomfortableness with peeing or changing around someone with a penis you don't intimately know is bullying or homophobic or not educated.


Sometimes you are just allowed to be uncomfortable with stuff without it being a major issue.


I'm curious.... Do you know any transgendered people? (That you are aware of.)



talia-mom
by Gold Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:52 PM

Because of course the natural assumption is you can't possibly know anyone if you are uncomfortable changing around them.


Quoting stormcris:

I am glad someone asked this I was thinking of asking it myself. 

Quoting desertlvn:



Quoting talia-mom:

I like being a female.   I just don't get the idea that somehow modesty or uncomfortableness with peeing or changing around someone with a penis you don't intimately know is bullying or homophobic or not educated.


Sometimes you are just allowed to be uncomfortable with stuff without it being a major issue.


I'm curious.... Do you know any transgendered people? (That you are aware of.)




lizzielouaf
by Gold Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:53 PM

In all likelihood I wouldn't even know if a transgendered person were in a woman's bathroom. I'm referring to standard public bathrooms not bathrooms in a public school where you know everyone. Our law firm has unisex bathrooms along with gender specific bathrooms. It skeeves me out when I see a guy walk into one of the unisex bathrooms with a newspaper. Bleck. Frankly I avoid public bathrooms at all costs so I'm probably not a good person to even be involved with this conversation/debate. But again, I most likely would never even know a transgender individual were in a public bathroom.

Quoting desertlvn:


Do you feel that way about a transgendered person?

I understand what your are saying completely. I just don't have a problem with a person who IS female using the female restroom.... even if she happens to have a penis.

I have also had to use the restroom SOOOO badly at a public event and the lines for the ladies room was way to long. I would have gladly used a unisex bathroom out of necessity probably 15 times in my life. 

Quoting lizzielouaf:

I will march for LGBT rights, I will donate my legal services, I'll picket...whatever you want but please don't ask me to pee next to a guy I don't know. I've been with my husband for nearly 20 years and we still keep our "bathroom ritual" a mystery. I AM a prude! There I said it. I don't care. Can't we keep something a mystery??



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