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 Tomorrow is March 6 and there is a movement to end the everyday derogatory use of the R word. Over 350k people have taken the pledge. Will you?

 Is this a movement you would support? Or is this a term  you plan to continue to use in any way you wish?

 For info on taking the pledge click here.

 I approve this message!


 

by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 4:58 PM
Replies (161-170):
KamWorthy
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:19 PM
Perfect example of using a word in a derogatory, inflammatory way. "some people are just stupid like that"..... Right here....perfect example of how not to raise your children.
Quoting Ms.KitKat:

 nah- some people are just stupid like that.

 

Quoting canadianmom1974:

In what utopia do you live where all parents do that? It would be nice, and how I am raising my kids, but I also live in the real world. The real world where not only do parents not teach their not to be hurtful, but actually encourage their kids through words and example to be hateful and hurtful.

Quoting KamWorthy:


Here's the thing, when you begin to suggest petitions, obtain signatures, symbolically ask others to make promises, all you are doing is allowing others to be lazy. You don't need all that. Simply raise your kids with education, ethics, etc..that's all you need. If parents would just do this, there would not be futile attempts such as pledges and such.,


Quoting canadianmom1974:

So clearly you missed every post where it was said that no one was trying to ban the word outright, just incorrect, hurtful usage of it.



Quoting KamWorthy:

You do what you feel you need to do, however, I will continue to educate others on how to use words in their proper context instead of banning them altogether because of ignorance.







Quoting canadianmom1974:

Lol, drama? Well, if that's what you read ...





At any rate, as someone who has been around people with special needs literally my entire life - from my uncle who was severely affected by Cerebral Palsy, to the many kids my family, and then I myself, babysat and did unofficial respite with, to my current job working in a high school program/class for kids with special needs - I do not use that word.





I did not sign the pledge as I already don't use it, but I do find it to be a good way to spread awareness to people who may not know how hurtful it can be to use it as slang or an insult.






Quoting KamWorthy:

Dramatic much? Look, I don't need to sign the pledge to state I will never use the word RETARTED in a derogatory way, because I never have, never will. Now, if you have, then by all means sign it momma, sign it and Godspeed to you with being able to control your tongue from here on out and never again insult someone with the R word. You can do it...I'm rooting for ya!














Quoting canadianmom1974:

You are being deliberately obtuse, and I find this to be the attitude of an objectionable person. The sort of person I am raising my kids not to be.







It is obvious from many of the replies that no one is talking about banning the word, we are talking about each saying that we will not use it in an incorrect, hurtful manner. Something I'm not sure you're capable of doing.








Quoting KamWorthy:

You mean RETARTED? What's wrong with the word RETARTED? I mean as long as you aren't using it out of context or as an insult...sorry, but the word RETARDED simply means delayed development. I'll not let the ignorance of others who choose to use it incorrectly and for insults, dictate me using in the manner which it was intended. "My sisters hearing was retarded due to a fever of 105 when she was 4 years old" get it?

 

HuggaBug1991
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:35 PM

 What is the R word anyway?

TruthSeeker.
by Milami on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:40 PM

  I completely disagree with everything you have to say concerning this issue.  You don't have to use the r word to describe or explain any of the things you have listed. You use it now in defiance and protest. I'm sure you are intelligent enough to come up with a many other colorful adjectives.  

  By standing up and saying we will not use this word in a derogatory manner we set and Raise the bar. It would be nice for some support in our efforts. You can, as always, continue to exercise your right to use this word however you choose, but know that continued and unnecessary use of this word is hurtful to many.  

Quoting coronado25:

I think a pledge and a march to ban the "r" word, with all its good intentions, is RETARDED.  It is RETARDED because this kind of public demonstration will only irritate those who have always been repulsed by the nasty bullying kids at school who used it to tease the mentally challenged or developmentally RETARDED kids in the special needs class. I am annoyed that this hoopla is surrounding the word, instead of the nasty attitude and negativity coming out of the mouths of those who choose to use the word to bully and insult those who cannot help that they are mentally RETARDED, this will delay or ultimately squash, yes RETARD, the show of  respect and/or alliance that the "r" word movement intends to gain. 

I'm going to start using the word gay again and not to mean homosexual right now.

My sailing skills have been RETARDED since I bought my new sailing dinghy, as I have yet to take it out yet.  But the wind is so light today, I think I might try to take it out and be gay regardless that I might look like a sailing RETARD doing so.

 

 

TruthSeeker.
by Milami on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:44 PM

 

Quoting HuggaBug1991:

 What is the R word anyway?

  It's written in this thread many times. Or you could click the link:)

HuggaBug1991
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:50 PM
1 mom liked this

 

Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 

Quoting HuggaBug1991:

 What is the R word anyway?

  It's written in this thread many times. Or you could click the link:)

 I figured it out as soon as I hit post...... I don't use it unless I'm talking to my siblings (we have a thing for saying that to each other, its kinda like a endearing statment) but other then that I don't say/call anyone that.

Ms.KitKat
by Platinum Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:53 PM

"Mama says stupid is as stupid does"

-Forest Gump

Quoting KamWorthy:

Perfect example of using a word in a derogatory, inflammatory way. "some people are just stupid like that"..... Right here....perfect example of how not to raise your children.
Quoting Ms.KitKat:

 nah- some people are just stupid like that.

 

Quoting canadianmom1974:

In what utopia do you live where all parents do that? It would be nice, and how I am raising my kids, but I also live in the real world. The real world where not only do parents not teach their not to be hurtful, but actually encourage their kids through words and example to be hateful and hurtful.

Quoting KamWorthy:


Here's the thing, when you begin to suggest petitions, obtain signatures, symbolically ask others to make promises, all you are doing is allowing others to be lazy. You don't need all that. Simply raise your kids with education, ethics, etc..that's all you need. If parents would just do this, there would not be futile attempts such as pledges and such.,


Quoting canadianmom1974:

So clearly you missed every post where it was said that no one was trying to ban the word outright, just incorrect, hurtful usage of it.



Quoting KamWorthy:

You do what you feel you need to do, however, I will continue to educate others on how to use words in their proper context instead of banning them altogether because of ignorance.







Quoting canadianmom1974:

Lol, drama? Well, if that's what you read ...





At any rate, as someone who has been around people with special needs literally my entire life - from my uncle who was severely affected by Cerebral Palsy, to the many kids my family, and then I myself, babysat and did unofficial respite with, to my current job working in a high school program/class for kids with special needs - I do not use that word.





I did not sign the pledge as I already don't use it, but I do find it to be a good way to spread awareness to people who may not know how hurtful it can be to use it as slang or an insult.






Quoting KamWorthy:

Dramatic much? Look, I don't need to sign the pledge to state I will never use the word RETARTED in a derogatory way, because I never have, never will. Now, if you have, then by all means sign it momma, sign it and Godspeed to you with being able to control your tongue from here on out and never again insult someone with the R word. You can do it...I'm rooting for ya!














Quoting canadianmom1974:

You are being deliberately obtuse, and I find this to be the attitude of an objectionable person. The sort of person I am raising my kids not to be.







It is obvious from many of the replies that no one is talking about banning the word, we are talking about each saying that we will not use it in an incorrect, hurtful manner. Something I'm not sure you're capable of doing.








Quoting KamWorthy:

You mean RETARTED? What's wrong with the word RETARTED? I mean as long as you aren't using it out of context or as an insult...sorry, but the word RETARDED simply means delayed development. I'll not let the ignorance of others who choose to use it incorrectly and for insults, dictate me using in the manner which it was intended. "My sisters hearing was retarded due to a fever of 105 when she was 4 years old" get it?

 

 

KamWorthy
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:15 PM
So are teaching your children that one may be slow or stunted is retatded? And that it's perfectly fine to say so?
Quoting Ms.KitKat:

"Mama says stupid is as stupid does"

-Forest Gump

Quoting KamWorthy:

Perfect example of using a word in a derogatory, inflammatory way. "some people are just stupid like that"..... Right here....perfect example of how not to raise your children.
Quoting Ms.KitKat:

 nah- some people are just stupid like that.

 

Quoting canadianmom1974:

In what utopia do you live where all parents do that? It would be nice, and how I am raising my kids, but I also live in the real world. The real world where not only do parents not teach their not to be hurtful, but actually encourage their kids through words and example to be hateful and hurtful.

Quoting KamWorthy:


Here's the thing, when you begin to suggest petitions, obtain signatures, symbolically ask others to make promises, all you are doing is allowing others to be lazy. You don't need all that. Simply raise your kids with education, ethics, etc..that's all you need. If parents would just do this, there would not be futile attempts such as pledges and such.,


Quoting canadianmom1974:

So clearly you missed every post where it was said that no one was trying to ban the word outright, just incorrect, hurtful usage of it.



Quoting KamWorthy:

You do what you feel you need to do, however, I will continue to educate others on how to use words in their proper context instead of banning them altogether because of ignorance.







Quoting canadianmom1974:

Lol, drama? Well, if that's what you read ...





At any rate, as someone who has been around people with special needs literally my entire life - from my uncle who was severely affected by Cerebral Palsy, to the many kids my family, and then I myself, babysat and did unofficial respite with, to my current job working in a high school program/class for kids with special needs - I do not use that word.





I did not sign the pledge as I already don't use it, but I do find it to be a good way to spread awareness to people who may not know how hurtful it can be to use it as slang or an insult.






Quoting KamWorthy:

Dramatic much? Look, I don't need to sign the pledge to state I will never use the word RETARTED in a derogatory way, because I never have, never will. Now, if you have, then by all means sign it momma, sign it and Godspeed to you with being able to control your tongue from here on out and never again insult someone with the R word. You can do it...I'm rooting for ya!














Quoting canadianmom1974:

You are being deliberately obtuse, and I find this to be the attitude of an objectionable person. The sort of person I am raising my kids not to be.







It is obvious from many of the replies that no one is talking about banning the word, we are talking about each saying that we will not use it in an incorrect, hurtful manner. Something I'm not sure you're capable of doing.








Quoting KamWorthy:

You mean RETARTED? What's wrong with the word RETARTED? I mean as long as you aren't using it out of context or as an insult...sorry, but the word RETARDED simply means delayed development. I'll not let the ignorance of others who choose to use it incorrectly and for insults, dictate me using in the manner which it was intended. "My sisters hearing was retarded due to a fever of 105 when she was 4 years old" get it?

 

 

Ms.KitKat
by Platinum Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 8:01 PM

 Not at all. I despise the "r" word and none of my children use it.

I have a child on the autism spectrum and I am very proud of him and all he has accomplaished. But even he knows and understands Forest Gump. 

Quoting KamWorthy:

So are teaching your children that one may be slow or stunted is retatded? And that it's perfectly fine to say so?
Quoting Ms.KitKat:

"Mama says stupid is as stupid does"

-Forest Gump

Quoting KamWorthy:

Perfect example of using a word in a derogatory, inflammatory way. "some people are just stupid like that"..... Right here....perfect example of how not to raise your children.
Quoting Ms.KitKat:

 nah- some people are just stupid like that.

 

Quoting canadianmom1974:

In what utopia do you live where all parents do that? It would be nice, and how I am raising my kids, but I also live in the real world. The real world where not only do parents not teach their not to be hurtful, but actually encourage their kids through words and example to be hateful and hurtful.

Quoting KamWorthy:


Here's the thing, when you begin to suggest petitions, obtain signatures, symbolically ask others to make promises, all you are doing is allowing others to be lazy. You don't need all that. Simply raise your kids with education, ethics, etc..that's all you need. If parents would just do this, there would not be futile attempts such as pledges and such.,


Quoting canadianmom1974:

So clearly you missed every post where it was said that no one was trying to ban the word outright, just incorrect, hurtful usage of it.



Quoting KamWorthy:

You do what you feel you need to do, however, I will continue to educate others on how to use words in their proper context instead of banning them altogether because of ignorance.







Quoting canadianmom1974:

Lol, drama? Well, if that's what you read ...





At any rate, as someone who has been around people with special needs literally my entire life - from my uncle who was severely affected by Cerebral Palsy, to the many kids my family, and then I myself, babysat and did unofficial respite with, to my current job working in a high school program/class for kids with special needs - I do not use that word.





I did not sign the pledge as I already don't use it, but I do find it to be a good way to spread awareness to people who may not know how hurtful it can be to use it as slang or an insult.






Quoting KamWorthy:

Dramatic much? Look, I don't need to sign the pledge to state I will never use the word RETARTED in a derogatory way, because I never have, never will. Now, if you have, then by all means sign it momma, sign it and Godspeed to you with being able to control your tongue from here on out and never again insult someone with the R word. You can do it...I'm rooting for ya!














Quoting canadianmom1974:

You are being deliberately obtuse, and I find this to be the attitude of an objectionable person. The sort of person I am raising my kids not to be.







It is obvious from many of the replies that no one is talking about banning the word, we are talking about each saying that we will not use it in an incorrect, hurtful manner. Something I'm not sure you're capable of doing.








Quoting KamWorthy:

You mean RETARTED? What's wrong with the word RETARTED? I mean as long as you aren't using it out of context or as an insult...sorry, but the word RETARDED simply means delayed development. I'll not let the ignorance of others who choose to use it incorrectly and for insults, dictate me using in the manner which it was intended. "My sisters hearing was retarded due to a fever of 105 when she was 4 years old" get it?

 

 

 

KamWorthy
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 8:03 PM
Well, of course.
Quoting Ms.KitKat:

 Not at all. I despise the "r" word and none of my children use it.

I have a child on the autism spectrum and I am very proud of him and all he has accomplaished. But even he knows and understands Forest Gump. 

Quoting KamWorthy:

So are teaching your children that one may be slow or stunted is retatded? And that it's perfectly fine to say so?
Quoting Ms.KitKat:

"Mama says stupid is as stupid does"

-Forest Gump

Quoting KamWorthy:

Perfect example of using a word in a derogatory, inflammatory way. "some people are just stupid like that"..... Right here....perfect example of how not to raise your children.
Quoting Ms.KitKat:

 nah- some people are just stupid like that.

 

Quoting canadianmom1974:

In what utopia do you live where all parents do that? It would be nice, and how I am raising my kids, but I also live in the real world. The real world where not only do parents not teach their not to be hurtful, but actually encourage their kids through words and example to be hateful and hurtful.

Quoting KamWorthy:


Here's the thing, when you begin to suggest petitions, obtain signatures, symbolically ask others to make promises, all you are doing is allowing others to be lazy. You don't need all that. Simply raise your kids with education, ethics, etc..that's all you need. If parents would just do this, there would not be futile attempts such as pledges and such.,


Quoting canadianmom1974:

So clearly you missed every post where it was said that no one was trying to ban the word outright, just incorrect, hurtful usage of it.



Quoting KamWorthy:

You do what you feel you need to do, however, I will continue to educate others on how to use words in their proper context instead of banning them altogether because of ignorance.







Quoting canadianmom1974:

Lol, drama? Well, if that's what you read ...





At any rate, as someone who has been around people with special needs literally my entire life - from my uncle who was severely affected by Cerebral Palsy, to the many kids my family, and then I myself, babysat and did unofficial respite with, to my current job working in a high school program/class for kids with special needs - I do not use that word.





I did not sign the pledge as I already don't use it, but I do find it to be a good way to spread awareness to people who may not know how hurtful it can be to use it as slang or an insult.






Quoting KamWorthy:

Dramatic much? Look, I don't need to sign the pledge to state I will never use the word RETARTED in a derogatory way, because I never have, never will. Now, if you have, then by all means sign it momma, sign it and Godspeed to you with being able to control your tongue from here on out and never again insult someone with the R word. You can do it...I'm rooting for ya!














Quoting canadianmom1974:

You are being deliberately obtuse, and I find this to be the attitude of an objectionable person. The sort of person I am raising my kids not to be.







It is obvious from many of the replies that no one is talking about banning the word, we are talking about each saying that we will not use it in an incorrect, hurtful manner. Something I'm not sure you're capable of doing.








Quoting KamWorthy:

You mean RETARTED? What's wrong with the word RETARTED? I mean as long as you aren't using it out of context or as an insult...sorry, but the word RETARDED simply means delayed development. I'll not let the ignorance of others who choose to use it incorrectly and for insults, dictate me using in the manner which it was intended. "My sisters hearing was retarded due to a fever of 105 when she was 4 years old" get it?

 

 

 

MrsSamMerlotte
by Bronze Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 9:06 PM
Retarded means delayed.... how is that not the right way to use the word?


Quoting TruthSeeker.:

  You are mistaken. That is not how the word is suppose to be used or was intended. Either word.


Quoting MrsSamMerlotte:

That's exactly how the word is supposed to be used. That's like everyone deciding not to use the weird gay because some use it in a negative way. Why is it a bad thing when the word its used correctly?



Quoting Mommy_of_Riley:

And I'm glad my son won't ever have to be around people like you. We do not allow people that use derogatory hurtful hate speech around our family.




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