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Two Abortion Protesters Decided To Yell At This Guy's Wife. They Probably Shouldn't Have Done That.

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Aaron Gouveia and his wife were already having the worst day of their lives. Then came the abortion protesters.


“You’re killing your unborn baby!”

That’s what they yelled at me and my wife on the worst day of our lives. As we entered the women’s health center on an otherwise perfect summer morning in Brookline, two women we had never met decided to pile onto the nightmare we had been living for three weeks. These “Christians” verbally accosted us—judged us—as we steeled ourselves for the horror of making the unimaginable, but necessary, decision to end our pregnancy at 16 weeks.

After extensive testing at a renowned Boston hospital three weeks earlier, we were told our baby had Sirenomelia. Otherwise known as Mermaid Syndrome, it’s a rare (one in every 100,000 pregnancies) congenital deformity in which the legs are fused together. Worse than that, our baby had no bladder or kidneys. Our doctors told us there was zero chance for survival.

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I’m not a religious person and I’ve never believed in heaven or hell. But there is a hell on Earth. Hell is sitting next to the person you love most and listening to her wail hysterically because her heart just broke into a million pieces. Hell is watching her entire body convulse with sobs because she’s being tortured with grief. For as long as I live and no matter how many children we have, I will never forget that sound. And I vowed to do everything in my power to make sure she’d never make it again.

Across a crowded street, two people with “God Is Pro-Life!” signs and pictures of torn-up fetuses managed to drive the blade in even deeper. Again, I was left trying to console the inconsolable, feeling even more helpless this time, because I wasn’t allowed into surgery with her.

Running on pure adrenaline, and without even a hint of a plan, I grabbed my cell phone and crossed the street. I didn’t know what to say or how to say it, I just knew I wanted to make public the cowardice of these protesters.

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I learned a few important things from this encounter. First, these people aren’t used to being confronted. They prey on the weak and they pounce on the wounded. It’s easy to berate people and shame them when they’re too beaten down to fight back. But I chose to do just that, and you can see what happened.

They spout the same tired rhetoric passed out at rallies and subway stations. They don’t have one salient response to any of my questions.

The most telling thing about their cowardice is when the woman on the right gets upset that I’m recording the conversation (which is perfectly legal) and then threatens to call the police. The irony is rich. She wanted to call the police because I was peacefully expressing my opinion on a public sidewalk and exercising my First Amendment rights, which is exactly what she was doing. But I’m not on “God’s side,” am I.

She also claims the women at the clinic are suicide risks. Even if she believed that were true, does she really think yelling at them and shaming them in public is going to encourage these women not to kill themselves?

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After I took a walk and calmed down, it was time to pick up my wife and go home. When we pulled out of the clinic, the protesters were gone, and a police cruiser was parked nearby with the lights flashing. My wife, still groggy from the surgery, managed to crack a little smile, and asked, “What did you do?”

I have no idea if it was my interaction with the protesters that got them to leave. I doubt it was, but my wife was convinced that was the case. At first, I didn’t think of it as a big deal, and I actually felt a little foolish for getting so heated.

My wife, suddenly serious, pointed out a women entering the clinic. Within minutes, she said, that woman would be making a serious choice. Whether she kept her baby or not, it didn’t matter—what matters is that she can make the decision that’s right for her. And she can make it without people screaming at her.

My wife and I wanted our second child. We loved her. We even had a name for her, Alexandra.

You never know the circumstances surrounding this kind of decision. Consider this my plea: stop terrorizing women. Stop adding trauma to their trauma. If you’re able, stand up to these bullies in nonviolent ways. Speak out. And if you have a camera, use it.

Neon Washable Paint

by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:08 PM
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coronado25
by Silver Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:51 AM
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Women are full of eggs. Why do "pro-life" people not see the termination of a pregnancy for one reason or another as a freeing up, as well, as it were, of  the uterus to get pregnant again? Most everyone I have met who has had an abortion also has children...children they may have never gone on to have had they had continued the pregnancy they terminated.

Also, bone to pick with the whole doctor's creed...used to be, you gave birth and if the child was not thriving on account of its physical anomalies, the child's family could let nature take its course.

However, now, once the child is born, no matter how severe the malformation, the hospital staff is legally beholden to do everything in their power to keep the child alive; with no concern for the financial welfare of the family, the amount of lengthy suffering the child will be in, or the ability of the child's family to nurture a child with heavy medical and surgical needs if it were to survive. 

This is criminal.

motha2daDuchess
by Bruja on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:11 AM
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unless you have had to think about this kind of decision, STFU about what you "would" do...you posters that are spouting ignorance about the choice they made garners no sympathy....have you EVER had a medical specialist look at you with tears in THEIR eyes and ask you if you think terminating your pregnancy was a possibility? No, then I don't give a FLYING FUCK what you think they "should" have done

AMBG825
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 6:23 AM

 Sometimes, the most humane thing we can do for another person is to let them go.

 

It actually sickens me that people care more about their dogs and cats than they do their own children.

momtoscott
by Platinum Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 6:28 AM
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 He sounds like a great guy.  I wish more people would push back like he did. 

TCgirlatheart
by TC on Mar. 7, 2013 at 7:52 AM
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You clearly have no idea what you are talking about.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.

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dawnie1
by #1 Raider fan on Mar. 7, 2013 at 7:59 AM

I can't even think about that moms pain.

LilyofPhilly
by Gold Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 8:20 AM
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The nervous system isn't even developed enough for a 16 week old fetus to feel pain. The neural connections don't even exist till 20 some weeks.

Quoting hismommy2010:

 I'm sorry. I missed the part where being aborted is pleasant for the uborn baby... I wasn't informed that it was pain free and a party.


Quoting ashellbell:

You'd be ok with your child dying a horrible death just so it could hear your voice and you think they're selfish?



Quoting hismommy2010:


 We all have our thoughts, feelings and opinions - just like we all have butt holes! (lol).



 



My thought is, what about before we had testings to see if anything was 'wrong' with the baby? We delivered them and went from there.



Sure, it would be heart breaking and devastating to know that this is going on with your un-born baby. But IMO these people were putting them selfs before their child. They were more concerned with how they felt with all of this.



The baby more then likely wouldn't live long after birth, ok - i get that. but I would much rather continue on with the pregnancy, let the baby hear my voice, feel my warmth and know that she IS loved. And I would much rather give birth to her, and hold her, let her look into my eyes, and hear my voice for what ever amount of time she had. I would rather my baby KNOW me and my love, even if it was only for 5 minutes.



I would want to just give up.



 

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LIMom1105
by Bronze Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 8:29 AM
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And she won't even have the option to do this in Arkansas when that bill goes through. This makes me sick. There is a very ugly side to the right to life movement, and here it is on display. I cannot respect anyone who disparages this decision. You really don't know what you would do until you walk in the same shoes.

NWP
by guerrilla girl on Mar. 7, 2013 at 8:34 AM
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There is a more insidious reason to limit abortion to the first 12 weeks, as it is early than most amino's are done...therefore the deadline would pass before many genetic abnormalities could be discovered.

Quoting LIMom1105:

And she won't even have the option to do this in Arkansas when that bill goes through. This makes me sick. There is a very ugly side to the right to life movement, and here it is on display. I cannot respect anyone who disparages this decision. You really don't know what you would do until you walk in the same shoes.


Neon Washable Paint

LilyofPhilly
by Gold Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 8:35 AM
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The idiots that are saying this woman murdered her disabled child and they would have carried to term should look up pictures of the dead fetuses who were afflicted by this syndrome, the ones whose mothers were forced to carry them before abortion was legal.
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