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Two Abortion Protesters Decided To Yell At This Guy's Wife. They Probably Shouldn't Have Done That.

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Aaron Gouveia and his wife were already having the worst day of their lives. Then came the abortion protesters.


“You’re killing your unborn baby!”

That’s what they yelled at me and my wife on the worst day of our lives. As we entered the women’s health center on an otherwise perfect summer morning in Brookline, two women we had never met decided to pile onto the nightmare we had been living for three weeks. These “Christians” verbally accosted us—judged us—as we steeled ourselves for the horror of making the unimaginable, but necessary, decision to end our pregnancy at 16 weeks.

After extensive testing at a renowned Boston hospital three weeks earlier, we were told our baby had Sirenomelia. Otherwise known as Mermaid Syndrome, it’s a rare (one in every 100,000 pregnancies) congenital deformity in which the legs are fused together. Worse than that, our baby had no bladder or kidneys. Our doctors told us there was zero chance for survival.

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I’m not a religious person and I’ve never believed in heaven or hell. But there is a hell on Earth. Hell is sitting next to the person you love most and listening to her wail hysterically because her heart just broke into a million pieces. Hell is watching her entire body convulse with sobs because she’s being tortured with grief. For as long as I live and no matter how many children we have, I will never forget that sound. And I vowed to do everything in my power to make sure she’d never make it again.

Across a crowded street, two people with “God Is Pro-Life!” signs and pictures of torn-up fetuses managed to drive the blade in even deeper. Again, I was left trying to console the inconsolable, feeling even more helpless this time, because I wasn’t allowed into surgery with her.

Running on pure adrenaline, and without even a hint of a plan, I grabbed my cell phone and crossed the street. I didn’t know what to say or how to say it, I just knew I wanted to make public the cowardice of these protesters.

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I learned a few important things from this encounter. First, these people aren’t used to being confronted. They prey on the weak and they pounce on the wounded. It’s easy to berate people and shame them when they’re too beaten down to fight back. But I chose to do just that, and you can see what happened.

They spout the same tired rhetoric passed out at rallies and subway stations. They don’t have one salient response to any of my questions.

The most telling thing about their cowardice is when the woman on the right gets upset that I’m recording the conversation (which is perfectly legal) and then threatens to call the police. The irony is rich. She wanted to call the police because I was peacefully expressing my opinion on a public sidewalk and exercising my First Amendment rights, which is exactly what she was doing. But I’m not on “God’s side,” am I.

She also claims the women at the clinic are suicide risks. Even if she believed that were true, does she really think yelling at them and shaming them in public is going to encourage these women not to kill themselves?

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After I took a walk and calmed down, it was time to pick up my wife and go home. When we pulled out of the clinic, the protesters were gone, and a police cruiser was parked nearby with the lights flashing. My wife, still groggy from the surgery, managed to crack a little smile, and asked, “What did you do?”

I have no idea if it was my interaction with the protesters that got them to leave. I doubt it was, but my wife was convinced that was the case. At first, I didn’t think of it as a big deal, and I actually felt a little foolish for getting so heated.

My wife, suddenly serious, pointed out a women entering the clinic. Within minutes, she said, that woman would be making a serious choice. Whether she kept her baby or not, it didn’t matter—what matters is that she can make the decision that’s right for her. And she can make it without people screaming at her.

My wife and I wanted our second child. We loved her. We even had a name for her, Alexandra.

You never know the circumstances surrounding this kind of decision. Consider this my plea: stop terrorizing women. Stop adding trauma to their trauma. If you’re able, stand up to these bullies in nonviolent ways. Speak out. And if you have a camera, use it.

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by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:08 PM
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DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Mar. 7, 2013 at 8:35 AM
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Girl... You have got to get that caps lock fixed! Lol I can't read your posts without reading it with yelling in my head. Lol 

Quoting buslady1079:

PEOPLE SHOULD REALLY WORRY ABOUT THERE OWN FAMILYS  INSTEAD OF BUTTING IN TO OITHERS LIVES  IF YOU HAVE THAT MUCH TIME TO GO STAND IN A LINE  DONATE YOUR  TIME TO DO SOME GOOD  CHARITY WORK IS ALWAYS NEEDED  LET PEOPLE MAKE THERE OWN CHOICES IN LIFE UNLESS IT EFFECTS YOU !



NWP
by guerrilla girl on Mar. 7, 2013 at 8:38 AM
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LOL it is funny how you can "hear" some people through the internet. There is one particular poster active in a similar group to this that I hear angels singing every single time I read her posts. Hahahaa.

Quoting DestinyHLewis:


Girl... You have got to get that caps lock fixed! Lol I can't read your posts without reading it with yelling in my head. Lol 

Quoting buslady1079:

PEOPLE SHOULD REALLY WORRY ABOUT THERE OWN FAMILYS  INSTEAD OF BUTTING IN TO OITHERS LIVES  IF YOU HAVE THAT MUCH TIME TO GO STAND IN A LINE  DONATE YOUR  TIME TO DO SOME GOOD  CHARITY WORK IS ALWAYS NEEDED  LET PEOPLE MAKE THERE OWN CHOICES IN LIFE UNLESS IT EFFECTS YOU !




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ashellbell
by shellbark on Mar. 7, 2013 at 9:06 AM
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Omg. I'm so sorry. Big hugs to you. I couldn't imagine.


Quoting joyfree:

I'm so sorry to hear your story... I was pregnant 12 years ago with a little boy diagnosed with Trisomy-18 Syndrome... Even now, it hurts to talk about him. After waiting for the third test result, 1) being the Level III Ultrasound, 2) the "Fish" Test, and finally 3) the amniocentesis, we had the final confirmation that the problems our son had were "incompatible with life"... Imagine being told that, after your first child nearly died due to heart arrythmia in utero and was still afflicted with a lower IQ and an autism spectrum disorder that it took 18 years for you to have the courage to try again with your new husband... My first marriage failed, and my ex has written exactly three letters to our daughter in the last 20 years. He remarried and had two perfect kids, and NEVER ONCE sent OUR daughter as much as a birthday card in the past...

Anyway, we decided to induce labor so that Patrick would be born, and we were able to say our good-byes with him. Actually SEEING him helped me to see how fragile and afflicted he actually was... It was so HARD to go through that experience, SO PAINFUL, and depressing... It took me a while to get back to myself...

The GOOD news was that we tried one more time and were blessed by God with a perfect little boy who is now 10. He loves his older sister, who still lives with us, and she loves him very much, even though they bicker like they are the same age.

So, MY opinion is that we sometimes must make very difficult and painful choices, and it's hard enough without having to walk past ignorant and opinionate people who do not have the slightest CLUE about what your situation is. For this, I am pro-choice. I would not wish the pain we went through on my worst enemy.

im sorry


Quoting happy41ce:

You don't know what you would do unless it were YOU in that situation. I am almost 16 weeks and my baby was diagnosed with Anencephaly. Google it. My baby is going to die. My son doesn't have the top of his skull or any brain activity. The amniotic fluid is eating at what bit of brain is there. This condition is fatal and most babies are born stillborn. I was going to abort but decided to carry so we can bury our baby and say goodbye. I have people saying I am selfish for carrying and people saying I should go to hell bc I thought about aborting. Bottom line- unless something like this happens to you, you do not know what you will do :/ I totally relate to this family.





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SuperChicken
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 9:20 AM
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Typical protesting pro lifers.   Full of hate and don't care who they hurt.

twinners.mama
by Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 9:26 AM
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Ugh I had to come back and read the rest because I couldn't stop sobbing when he was describing his wife's reaction to finding out about their baby....

The protesters are bullies..I've always thought that. I can't even imagine going through something like this.
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TerriAnne2606
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 9:57 AM
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And that's your right to decide that.  This woman made HER decision to end the pregnancy.  That's what this is about.  HER rights.  I don't deny you your rights, why would you even think to deny her the same right you enjoy?  

Quoting RobinChristine:

Personally I would have given birth.  If the docs were right she would have died but it would not have been because I signed the papers allowing her to do so.



Euphoric
by Bazinga! on Mar. 7, 2013 at 10:05 AM
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 Good for dad

NWP
by guerrilla girl on Mar. 7, 2013 at 10:07 AM
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We get so focused on the impact of abortion on women that I found this to be a refreshing perspective of how imporant it is to men as well.

Quoting Euphoric:

 Good for dad


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pansyprincess
by Silver Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 10:18 AM
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 Without a bladder and kidney's as well?  Source please.  It says there have been survivors.  But it is usually the ones with less serious additional complications.

And honestly?  I don't know how you live with yourself and your lack of compassion.  I hope you teach your children better than you behave.


Quoting soonergirl980:

Again mermaid syndrome does not mean 0% of surviving kids DO survive it's rare but it DOES happen.

 

Quoting Jers.:

A fetus with no chance of surviving.  If you are going to look down on someone from up there on your high horse, get your facts straight.  

 

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.

 

 

 

 


 

Momniscient
by Ruby Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 11:19 AM
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I'm so glad to see some compassion and empathy in this post.

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