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Two Abortion Protesters Decided To Yell At This Guy's Wife. They Probably Shouldn't Have Done That.

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Aaron Gouveia and his wife were already having the worst day of their lives. Then came the abortion protesters.


“You’re killing your unborn baby!”

That’s what they yelled at me and my wife on the worst day of our lives. As we entered the women’s health center on an otherwise perfect summer morning in Brookline, two women we had never met decided to pile onto the nightmare we had been living for three weeks. These “Christians” verbally accosted us—judged us—as we steeled ourselves for the horror of making the unimaginable, but necessary, decision to end our pregnancy at 16 weeks.

After extensive testing at a renowned Boston hospital three weeks earlier, we were told our baby had Sirenomelia. Otherwise known as Mermaid Syndrome, it’s a rare (one in every 100,000 pregnancies) congenital deformity in which the legs are fused together. Worse than that, our baby had no bladder or kidneys. Our doctors told us there was zero chance for survival.

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I’m not a religious person and I’ve never believed in heaven or hell. But there is a hell on Earth. Hell is sitting next to the person you love most and listening to her wail hysterically because her heart just broke into a million pieces. Hell is watching her entire body convulse with sobs because she’s being tortured with grief. For as long as I live and no matter how many children we have, I will never forget that sound. And I vowed to do everything in my power to make sure she’d never make it again.

Across a crowded street, two people with “God Is Pro-Life!” signs and pictures of torn-up fetuses managed to drive the blade in even deeper. Again, I was left trying to console the inconsolable, feeling even more helpless this time, because I wasn’t allowed into surgery with her.

Running on pure adrenaline, and without even a hint of a plan, I grabbed my cell phone and crossed the street. I didn’t know what to say or how to say it, I just knew I wanted to make public the cowardice of these protesters.

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I learned a few important things from this encounter. First, these people aren’t used to being confronted. They prey on the weak and they pounce on the wounded. It’s easy to berate people and shame them when they’re too beaten down to fight back. But I chose to do just that, and you can see what happened.

They spout the same tired rhetoric passed out at rallies and subway stations. They don’t have one salient response to any of my questions.

The most telling thing about their cowardice is when the woman on the right gets upset that I’m recording the conversation (which is perfectly legal) and then threatens to call the police. The irony is rich. She wanted to call the police because I was peacefully expressing my opinion on a public sidewalk and exercising my First Amendment rights, which is exactly what she was doing. But I’m not on “God’s side,” am I.

She also claims the women at the clinic are suicide risks. Even if she believed that were true, does she really think yelling at them and shaming them in public is going to encourage these women not to kill themselves?

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After I took a walk and calmed down, it was time to pick up my wife and go home. When we pulled out of the clinic, the protesters were gone, and a police cruiser was parked nearby with the lights flashing. My wife, still groggy from the surgery, managed to crack a little smile, and asked, “What did you do?”

I have no idea if it was my interaction with the protesters that got them to leave. I doubt it was, but my wife was convinced that was the case. At first, I didn’t think of it as a big deal, and I actually felt a little foolish for getting so heated.

My wife, suddenly serious, pointed out a women entering the clinic. Within minutes, she said, that woman would be making a serious choice. Whether she kept her baby or not, it didn’t matter—what matters is that she can make the decision that’s right for her. And she can make it without people screaming at her.

My wife and I wanted our second child. We loved her. We even had a name for her, Alexandra.

You never know the circumstances surrounding this kind of decision. Consider this my plea: stop terrorizing women. Stop adding trauma to their trauma. If you’re able, stand up to these bullies in nonviolent ways. Speak out. And if you have a camera, use it.

Neon Washable Paint

by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:08 PM
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mehamil1
by Platinum Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:53 PM
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They think they are helping. But they aren't. Only the delusional don't realize that. 

IhaveHisjoy
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:54 PM

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Quoting Sekirei:

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Quoting IhaveHisjoy:

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Quoting Sekirei:
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NWP
by guerrilla girl on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:58 PM
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I don't believe that they think they are helping. I think they know damned well that they are vicious bullies to these women and that is the point of their being there.

Quoting mehamil1:

They think they are helping. But they aren't. Only the delusional don't realize that. 


Neon Washable Paint

Goodwoman614
by Satan on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:03 PM



Quoting mehamil1:

They think they are helping. But they aren't. Only the delusional don't realize that. 


They use their religion as an excuse to be evil. Just like that whore bitch with the leering, smug self-satisfied grin, who posted that poor woman's (the one who died) protected medical information, along with all her other personal identifiers.


NWP
by guerrilla girl on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:05 PM
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Truly evil and ignorant people full of their own hubris. I think they are in for a big surprise when they get to wherever they are going.

Quoting Goodwoman614:



Quoting mehamil1:

They think they are helping. But they aren't. Only the delusional don't realize that. 


They use their religion as an excuse to be evil. Just like that whore bitch with the leering, smug self-satisfied grin, who posted that poor woman's (the one who died) protected medical information, along with all her other personal identifiers.



Neon Washable Paint

HeathersForever
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:15 PM
9 moms liked this

Are you fucking KIDDING ME? The fetus had ZERO chance at life. ZERO.

 ZERO, as in when the child was born it would pass. So it is best to let her be a living coffin for a stillborn.

They don't need YOUR sympathy, trust me. You sound like one of those lowest common demoninator types. Enjoy breathing that air you waste.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.


soonergirl980
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:23 PM


My Aunt was told the same thing and yet my cousin lived 13 long precious years.The child was still alive when she went in there and it was not when she came out. We do not KNOW what would have happened because they decided to kill their kid.


Obviously they need someones sympathy because otherwise he would have gone about his life and not written this.

Quoting HeathersForever:

Are you fucking KIDDING ME? The fetus had ZERO chance at life. ZERO.

 ZERO, as in when the child was born it would pass. So it is best to let her be a living coffin for a stillborn.

They don't need YOUR sympathy, trust me. You sound like one of those lowest common demoninator types. Enjoy breathing that air you waste.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.




HeathersForever
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:27 PM
4 moms liked this

This was not a "maybe" situation, this was DEFINITE.

The child had mermaid syndrome. It's legs were fused together, it had no bladder or kidneys. They saw several Drs to confirm this.

I guess you couldn't be bothered reading all that information, probably above your 8th grade education.

Quoting soonergirl980:


My Aunt was told the same thing and yet my cousin lived 13 long precious years.The child was still alive when she went in there and it was not when she came out. We do not KNOW what would have happened because they decided to kill their kid.


Obviously they need someones sympathy because otherwise he would have gone about his life and not written this.

Quoting HeathersForever:

Are you fucking KIDDING ME? The fetus had ZERO chance at life. ZERO.

 ZERO, as in when the child was born it would pass. So it is best to let her be a living coffin for a stillborn.

They don't need YOUR sympathy, trust me. You sound like one of those lowest common demoninator types. Enjoy breathing that air you waste.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.





HeathersForever
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:34 PM
5 moms liked this

Oh and I don't think the father was trying to garner any sympathy for his poor wife and himself, instead I think he was calling to light the disgusting nature of those who are Anti Choice and dare to make protests like these women were doing. I don't mind if someone is Anti Choice, I could careless, but when they stand outside an abortion clinic and yell insults at those without knowing the circumstances well that is just plain heartless. Some of those women may be there because they have a child who would have been a stillborn, or they may have been raped, or even a victim of incest. The last thing they need is the Jesus freak team standing across the street screaming insults. 

Nope I think exactly what this video did was show what COWARDS these women were since they didn't really want to talk to this man, and how they backed off when they realized they were being recorded...they love having their dumbassed opinion until they realize it is going to be recorded. Freedom of speech right? Why wouldn't they want to be part of his lovely little video? Because they were ASHAMED. As they should be.

Quoting soonergirl980:


My Aunt was told the same thing and yet my cousin lived 13 long precious years.The child was still alive when she went in there and it was not when she came out. We do not KNOW what would have happened because they decided to kill their kid.


Obviously they need someones sympathy because otherwise he would have gone about his life and not written this.

Quoting HeathersForever:

Are you fucking KIDDING ME? The fetus had ZERO chance at life. ZERO.

 ZERO, as in when the child was born it would pass. So it is best to let her be a living coffin for a stillborn.

They don't need YOUR sympathy, trust me. You sound like one of those lowest common demoninator types. Enjoy breathing that air you waste.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.





soonergirl980
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:36 PM


Actually there are kids with Mermaid Symdrome that DO survivie birth it's rare but it does it happen, but you apparently don't actually care about that. You think just because a kid "might" die and will be disable that it doesn't have a right to a chance, but I'm the cruel one. Ok.

Quoting HeathersForever:

This was not a "maybe" situation, this was DEFINITE.

The child had mermaid syndrome. It's legs were fused together, it had no bladder or kidneys. They saw several Drs to confirm this.

I guess you couldn't be bothered reading all that information, probably above your 8th grade education.

Quoting soonergirl980:


My Aunt was told the same thing and yet my cousin lived 13 long precious years.The child was still alive when she went in there and it was not when she came out. We do not KNOW what would have happened because they decided to kill their kid.


Obviously they need someones sympathy because otherwise he would have gone about his life and not written this.

Quoting HeathersForever:

Are you fucking KIDDING ME? The fetus had ZERO chance at life. ZERO.

 ZERO, as in when the child was born it would pass. So it is best to let her be a living coffin for a stillborn.

They don't need YOUR sympathy, trust me. You sound like one of those lowest common demoninator types. Enjoy breathing that air you waste.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.







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