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Two Abortion Protesters Decided To Yell At This Guy's Wife. They Probably Shouldn't Have Done That.

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Aaron Gouveia and his wife were already having the worst day of their lives. Then came the abortion protesters.


“You’re killing your unborn baby!”

That’s what they yelled at me and my wife on the worst day of our lives. As we entered the women’s health center on an otherwise perfect summer morning in Brookline, two women we had never met decided to pile onto the nightmare we had been living for three weeks. These “Christians” verbally accosted us—judged us—as we steeled ourselves for the horror of making the unimaginable, but necessary, decision to end our pregnancy at 16 weeks.

After extensive testing at a renowned Boston hospital three weeks earlier, we were told our baby had Sirenomelia. Otherwise known as Mermaid Syndrome, it’s a rare (one in every 100,000 pregnancies) congenital deformity in which the legs are fused together. Worse than that, our baby had no bladder or kidneys. Our doctors told us there was zero chance for survival.

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I’m not a religious person and I’ve never believed in heaven or hell. But there is a hell on Earth. Hell is sitting next to the person you love most and listening to her wail hysterically because her heart just broke into a million pieces. Hell is watching her entire body convulse with sobs because she’s being tortured with grief. For as long as I live and no matter how many children we have, I will never forget that sound. And I vowed to do everything in my power to make sure she’d never make it again.

Across a crowded street, two people with “God Is Pro-Life!” signs and pictures of torn-up fetuses managed to drive the blade in even deeper. Again, I was left trying to console the inconsolable, feeling even more helpless this time, because I wasn’t allowed into surgery with her.

Running on pure adrenaline, and without even a hint of a plan, I grabbed my cell phone and crossed the street. I didn’t know what to say or how to say it, I just knew I wanted to make public the cowardice of these protesters.

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I learned a few important things from this encounter. First, these people aren’t used to being confronted. They prey on the weak and they pounce on the wounded. It’s easy to berate people and shame them when they’re too beaten down to fight back. But I chose to do just that, and you can see what happened.

They spout the same tired rhetoric passed out at rallies and subway stations. They don’t have one salient response to any of my questions.

The most telling thing about their cowardice is when the woman on the right gets upset that I’m recording the conversation (which is perfectly legal) and then threatens to call the police. The irony is rich. She wanted to call the police because I was peacefully expressing my opinion on a public sidewalk and exercising my First Amendment rights, which is exactly what she was doing. But I’m not on “God’s side,” am I.

She also claims the women at the clinic are suicide risks. Even if she believed that were true, does she really think yelling at them and shaming them in public is going to encourage these women not to kill themselves?

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After I took a walk and calmed down, it was time to pick up my wife and go home. When we pulled out of the clinic, the protesters were gone, and a police cruiser was parked nearby with the lights flashing. My wife, still groggy from the surgery, managed to crack a little smile, and asked, “What did you do?”

I have no idea if it was my interaction with the protesters that got them to leave. I doubt it was, but my wife was convinced that was the case. At first, I didn’t think of it as a big deal, and I actually felt a little foolish for getting so heated.

My wife, suddenly serious, pointed out a women entering the clinic. Within minutes, she said, that woman would be making a serious choice. Whether she kept her baby or not, it didn’t matter—what matters is that she can make the decision that’s right for her. And she can make it without people screaming at her.

My wife and I wanted our second child. We loved her. We even had a name for her, Alexandra.

You never know the circumstances surrounding this kind of decision. Consider this my plea: stop terrorizing women. Stop adding trauma to their trauma. If you’re able, stand up to these bullies in nonviolent ways. Speak out. And if you have a camera, use it.

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by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 6:08 PM
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StarryRain
by Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:43 PM
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Good for him!
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ashellbell
by shellbark on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:43 PM
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No she didn't. She terminated a non viable fetus before it developed in to a non viable human being. Mermaid syndrome is no joke and its not a pleasant thing to watch a child SUFFER from until it eventually kills them. Yeah, your cousin lived until he was 13, but how often do you think that actually happens after a diagnosis after that. 1 in a 100? A thousand? What was your cousins quality of life? What was his diagnosis? These things aren't so black and white, well, maybe they are in your world, but they aren't in the real world. If you found out that your child was to be born with something like this and you choose to let it suffer, that's on you, but don't berate this woman for choosing a humane way out.


Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.


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soonergirl980
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:45 PM


I think what they do is pointless. People that are going in there generally have made up their minds and they are wasting a lot of energy on changing someones mind that is already made up. I don't see them as any more "wrong" or "evil" than the people that stand in front of military installations that hold up posters and scream "your daddy murders babies" to the people going on and off them. You don't see me blogging about their behavior and I certainly don't waste my time confronting them. Their opinons matter little to me and they are wasting their time. I move on with my life. I certainly don't blog about it. I'm pretty sure if my son walked up to one and said I would like you to show me proof that my daddy has murdered a baby those people would cower too.



Quoting HeathersForever:

Oh and I don't think the father was trying to garner any sympathy for his poor wife and himself, instead I think he was calling to light the disgusting nature of those who are Anti Choice and dare to make protests like these women were doing. I don't mind if someone is Anti Choice, I could careless, but when they stand outside an abortion clinic and yell insults at those without knowing the circumstances well that is just plain heartless. Some of those women may be there because they have a child who would have been a stillborn, or they may have been raped, or even a victim of incest. The last thing they need is the Jesus freak team standing across the street screaming insults. 

Nope I think exactly what this video did was show what COWARDS these women were since they didn't really want to talk to this man, and how they backed off when they realized they were being recorded...they love having their dumbassed opinion until they realize it is going to be recorded. Freedom of speech right? Why wouldn't they want to be part of his lovely little video? Because they were ASHAMED. As they should be.

Quoting soonergirl980:


My Aunt was told the same thing and yet my cousin lived 13 long precious years.The child was still alive when she went in there and it was not when she came out. We do not KNOW what would have happened because they decided to kill their kid.


Obviously they need someones sympathy because otherwise he would have gone about his life and not written this.

Quoting HeathersForever:

Are you fucking KIDDING ME? The fetus had ZERO chance at life. ZERO.

 ZERO, as in when the child was born it would pass. So it is best to let her be a living coffin for a stillborn.

They don't need YOUR sympathy, trust me. You sound like one of those lowest common demoninator types. Enjoy breathing that air you waste.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.







Jers.
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:46 PM
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A fetus with no chance of surviving.  If you are going to look down on someone from up there on your high horse, get your facts straight.  


Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.



soonergirl980
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:46 PM


I've never even met the woman so I've certainly never berated her. I just said the article does not invoke sympathy for her or him.

Quoting ashellbell:

No she didn't. She terminated a non viable fetus before it developed in to a non viable human being. Mermaid syndrome is no joke and its not a pleasant thing to watch a child SUFFER from until it eventually kills them. Yeah, your cousin lived until he was 13, but how often do you think that actually happens after a diagnosis after that. 1 in a 100? A thousand? What was your cousins quality of life? What was his diagnosis? These things aren't so black and white, well, maybe they are in your world, but they aren't in the real world. If you found out that your child was to be born with something like this and you choose to let it suffer, that's on you, but don't berate this woman for choosing a humane way out.


Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.




ashellbell
by shellbark on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:46 PM
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Again, it's not that simple. You get two choices. 1) you continue with the pregnancy in hopes of the RARE chance your child doesn't suffer and lives or 2) you terminate before it develops in to a child and can feel pain. Either way, you're probably gonna end up hating yourself.


Quoting soonergirl980:


Actually there are kids with Mermaid Symdrome that DO survivie birth it's rare but it does it happen, but you apparently don't actually care about that. You think just because a kid "might" die and will be disable that it doesn't have a right to a chance, but I'm the cruel one. Ok.


Quoting HeathersForever:

This was not a "maybe" situation, this was DEFINITE.

The child had mermaid syndrome. It's legs were fused together, it had no bladder or kidneys. They saw several Drs to confirm this.

I guess you couldn't be bothered reading all that information, probably above your 8th grade education.

Quoting soonergirl980:


My Aunt was told the same thing and yet my cousin lived 13 long precious years.The child was still alive when she went in there and it was not when she came out. We do not KNOW what would have happened because they decided to kill their kid.


Obviously they need someones sympathy because otherwise he would have gone about his life and not written this.


Quoting HeathersForever:

Are you fucking KIDDING ME? The fetus had ZERO chance at life. ZERO.

 ZERO, as in when the child was born it would pass. So it is best to let her be a living coffin for a stillborn.

They don't need YOUR sympathy, trust me. You sound like one of those lowest common demoninator types. Enjoy breathing that air you waste.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.










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HeathersForever
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:46 PM
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I think as someone who had my own niece die because my sister was told my niece had almost no chance at life, I think it is NONE of your fucking business what a parent decides. My niece was born, they performed all the operations they hoped would save her life, she had one of those syndromes that effects only 1 in 100,000 and ya know what? She had lots, and lots of surgeries and spent her first few months of life in the hospital. Then she passed suddenly anyway at 19 months old. I'm glad for the time we had with her. But that was my sister's decision, and she was told there was some chance, although it was VERY small that her child would survive and if she did more than a couple years. My sister thought she defied the odds. She is haunted by the death of her daughter. Her life was stress and absolute pain for months, and then she still lost her child. That was her decision.


So once again I think it is none of anyone's fucking business except for the parent's if they want to take on those odds. Especially since mermaid syndrome has even worse odds than my niece did. They found NO kidneys in this baby. You do realize you cannot live without kidneys right? Some children born with mermaid syndrome still have kidneys, this child did not. Even if it did, once again that is the parent's choice, and how dare you judge. DISGUSTING.

Quoting soonergirl980:


Actually there are kids with Mermaid Symdrome that DO survivie birth it's rare but it does it happen, but you apparently don't actually care about that. You think just because a kid "might" die and will be disable that it doesn't have a right to a chance, but I'm the cruel one. Ok.

Quoting HeathersForever:

This was not a "maybe" situation, this was DEFINITE.

The child had mermaid syndrome. It's legs were fused together, it had no bladder or kidneys. They saw several Drs to confirm this.

I guess you couldn't be bothered reading all that information, probably above your 8th grade education.

Quoting soonergirl980:


My Aunt was told the same thing and yet my cousin lived 13 long precious years.The child was still alive when she went in there and it was not when she came out. We do not KNOW what would have happened because they decided to kill their kid.


Obviously they need someones sympathy because otherwise he would have gone about his life and not written this.

Quoting HeathersForever:

Are you fucking KIDDING ME? The fetus had ZERO chance at life. ZERO.

 ZERO, as in when the child was born it would pass. So it is best to let her be a living coffin for a stillborn.

They don't need YOUR sympathy, trust me. You sound like one of those lowest common demoninator types. Enjoy breathing that air you waste.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.








soonergirl980
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:47 PM

Again mermaid syndrome does not mean 0% of surviving kids DO survive it's rare but it DOES happen.


Quoting Jers.:

A fetus with no chance of surviving.  If you are going to look down on someone from up there on your high horse, get your facts straight.  


Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.





StarryRain
by Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:47 PM
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Some parents just aren't prepared for raising children with disabilities, and some parent aren't able to comprehend watching their baby die within days of birth. It's not cruel.

Quoting soonergirl980:


Actually there are kids with Mermaid Symdrome that DO survivie birth it's rare but it does it happen, but you apparently don't actually care about that. You think just because a kid "might" die and will be disable that it doesn't have a right to a chance, but I'm the cruel one. Ok.


Quoting HeathersForever:

This was not a "maybe" situation, this was DEFINITE.

The child had mermaid syndrome. It's legs were fused together, it had no bladder or kidneys. They saw several Drs to confirm this.

I guess you couldn't be bothered reading all that information, probably above your 8th grade education.

Quoting soonergirl980:


My Aunt was told the same thing and yet my cousin lived 13 long precious years.The child was still alive when she went in there and it was not when she came out. We do not KNOW what would have happened because they decided to kill their kid.


Obviously they need someones sympathy because otherwise he would have gone about his life and not written this.


Quoting HeathersForever:

Are you fucking KIDDING ME? The fetus had ZERO chance at life. ZERO.

 ZERO, as in when the child was born it would pass. So it is best to let her be a living coffin for a stillborn.

They don't need YOUR sympathy, trust me. You sound like one of those lowest common demoninator types. Enjoy breathing that air you waste.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.









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Jers.
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 7:48 PM
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Your cousin had mermaid syndrome AND no kidneys AND no bladder?  


Quoting soonergirl980:


My Aunt was told the same thing and yet my cousin lived 13 long precious years.The child was still alive when she went in there and it was not when she came out. We do not KNOW what would have happened because they decided to kill their kid.


Obviously they need someones sympathy because otherwise he would have gone about his life and not written this.

Quoting HeathersForever:

Are you fucking KIDDING ME? The fetus had ZERO chance at life. ZERO.

 ZERO, as in when the child was born it would pass. So it is best to let her be a living coffin for a stillborn.

They don't need YOUR sympathy, trust me. You sound like one of those lowest common demoninator types. Enjoy breathing that air you waste.

Quoting soonergirl980:

She killed her physically disabled child I don't have a lot don't have a lot of sympathy for her or him.






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