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Ok, so the woman at my new job that is helping me learn some specifics about the office holds some "opinionated" views and she doesn't mind sharing. I don't think she realizes that I am her new boss. Has anyone else ever run into a situation like this before? Either from the employee's perspective or the supervisor's?
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by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 8:04 PM
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LauraKW
by "Dude!" on Mar. 9, 2013 at 8:59 PM

 Both.

Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 Work opinions or personal opinions?

 

LauraKW
by "Dude!" on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:02 PM
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 I think part of the reason I was hired was to get her in line.  I thought it was just for my awesomeness :).

Quoting LindaClement:

Hmmm...

Sounds like she's being set up for a termination...

Quoting LauraKW:

 She thinks our positions are lateral.  The last person in my new position did what was in her job description and nothing more, as does this other person.  She has already mentioned that I will only have to do X in this position and the rest of my time will be free.  That isn't going to cut it any longer.

Quoting LindaClement:

Why doesn't she know?

 


 

TruthSeeker.
by Milami on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:02 PM

  I'm going to have to agree. Awkward.

Quoting LauraKW:

 Both.

Quoting TruthSeeker.:

 Work opinions or personal opinions?

 

 

turtle68
by Mahinaarangi on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:03 PM

 Ok...slightly different scenario IMO.  Some people think they do hold a level of power as an actual supervisor or team leader.

I remember being paid a grand total of 10 dollars more a week to be team leader....try telling that to the old ladies who had been employed for the last 20 years LOL.  Sometimes you have to take your position with a grain of salt and work with what actually is easiest for the best outcome.  I found it easier to let the old ladies see themselves as my superiors...it didnt change the job outcome :-)

Quoting LauraKW:

 She thinks our positions are lateral.  The last person in my new position did what was in her job description and nothing more, as does this other person.  She has already mentioned that I will only have to do X in this position and the rest of my time will be free.  That isn't going to cut it any longer.

Quoting LindaClement:

Why doesn't she know?

 

 

wickedfiress
by Kellie on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:03 PM
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Do you think a simple "This isn't the appropriate setting for this discussion." *smile* would work? Probably not huh? :( 

I have been fortunate enough to have only had to work with one person who didn't get the hint rather quickly when I changed the subject. All it took was one "Tasha, you know I'm an atheist, right?" to get her to stop speaking to me completely about anything other than necessary work information... and even then, she would often just leave me a short note! LOL 

lizzielouaf
by Gold Member on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:08 PM
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LOL

My person also went into the gorey details of IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)....Thank God I was able to tap into my ADHD during that conversation!


Quoting LauraKW:

 Yup, sounds way too familiar.  Did you know she is 53 and still has her period?  I mean seriously, that is just a small sidebar from one of the many facts about her life she feels compelled to share.

Quoting lizzielouaf:

I've had something similar happen. I kept trying to divert the conversation but the other woman kept bringing it right back to some very inappropriate political comments. I finally just extended my hand, introduced myself and my title. Thing was, she still didn't see anything wrong with the comments she was making so I finally had to get HR involved. It was an out of body experience tbh. 

Quoting LauraKW:

Ok, so the woman at my new job that is helping me learn some specifics about the office holds some "opinionated" views and she doesn't mind sharing. I don't think she realizes that I am her new boss. Has anyone else ever run into a situation like this before? Either from the employee's perspective or the supervisor's?



 



lga1965
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:10 PM

 LOL, she told you that? I still had my period when I was 55 but I didn't tell anyone at work. LOL. Or brag about it! Who is proud of that? WTH?

This woman sounds like a real piece of work. I wish you luck. But , yes, maybe she does need to hear some truths .....from you>?> Somebody? She can't go around sharing her prejudices and misinformation with other employees. That has to be stressful!

Quoting LauraKW:

 Yup, sounds way too familiar.  Did you know she is 53 and still has her period?  I mean seriously, that is just a small sidebar from one of the many facts about her life she feels compelled to share.

Quoting lizzielouaf:

I've had something similar happen. I kept trying to divert the conversation but the other woman kept bringing it right back to some very inappropriate political comments. I finally just extended my hand, introduced myself and my title. Thing was, she still didn't see anything wrong with the comments she was making so I finally had to get HR involved. It was an out of body experience tbh. 

Quoting LauraKW:

Ok, so the woman at my new job that is helping me learn some specifics about the office holds some "opinionated" views and she doesn't mind sharing. I don't think she realizes that I am her new boss. Has anyone else ever run into a situation like this before? Either from the employee's perspective or the supervisor's?

 

 

 

 

LauraKW
by "Dude!" on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:11 PM

 First I have to get what I need out of her.  That sounds so wrong.

Quoting NewMom11222011:

If you are her boss, you need to pull her into your office (if you have one) or into HR (if there is one) and set her straight asap.

 

NewMom11222011
by Bronze Member on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:14 PM

No, I understand what you're saying, but is she in a public position where she puts your organization's reputation in jeopardy?

Quoting LauraKW:

 First I have to get what I need out of her.  That sounds so wrong.

Quoting NewMom11222011:

If you are her boss, you need to pull her into your office (if you have one) or into HR (if there is one) and set her straight asap.

 


Mama2Spencerninja

LindaClement
by Thatwoman on Mar. 9, 2013 at 9:14 PM
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My favourite way of dealing with people like this is to give them a blowtorch version of attention: to stare at them with real intensity while they talk, without flinching or moving at all until they peter out of words in their discomfort and then say something very Miss Marple, like 'I see.' Continue staring at them for at least 10 seconds longer, or until they look away and find something to do other than talk...

Usually only takes a few runs through before they stop talking at all.

Quoting lga1965:

 LOL, she told you that? I still had my period when I was 55 but I didn't tell anyone at work. LOL. Or brag about it! Who is proud of that? WTH?

This woman sounds like a real piece of work. I wish you luck. But , yes, maybe she does need to hear some truths .....from you>?> Somebody? She can't go around sharing her prejudices and misinformation with other employees. That has to be stressful!

Quoting LauraKW:

 Yup, sounds way too familiar.  Did you know she is 53 and still has her period?  I mean seriously, that is just a small sidebar from one of the many facts about her life she feels compelled to share.

Quoting lizzielouaf:

I've had something similar happen. I kept trying to divert the conversation but the other woman kept bringing it right back to some very inappropriate political comments. I finally just extended my hand, introduced myself and my title. Thing was, she still didn't see anything wrong with the comments she was making so I finally had to get HR involved. It was an out of body experience tbh. 

Quoting LauraKW:

Ok, so the woman at my new job that is helping me learn some specifics about the office holds some "opinionated" views and she doesn't mind sharing. I don't think she realizes that I am her new boss. Has anyone else ever run into a situation like this before? Either from the employee's perspective or the supervisor's?



 

 


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