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5 stages of emotion after a violent encounter where a life is taken.

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I put this in response to another poster who said she would shoot an entruder and feel no guilt.  I think it is worth pointing out so I am just copying it here.

I have to say, anyone who thinks they will not feel guilt and a whole slew of other emotions if they have to shoot someone, is sadly mistaken.

Stages of emotion after a violent encounter where you have had to take a life.

1.  Elation

2. revulsion


4. self doubt

5. acceptance


Dropping a hammer on someone is not a cake walk, no matter how easy you may think it would be, even if your life is in danger.  It is a very emotional, life changing, experience.

by on Mar. 11, 2013 at 8:24 PM
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by on Mar. 12, 2013 at 2:55 PM
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How does that apply to police officers? My husband carries oc, a baton, a taser, and a 9 mm pistol. In his law enforcement career, more than 2 decades, he has drawn his pistol perhaps a dozen times and fired it exactly once. One time in over twenty years. However, he has to get down and grapple with someone easily once a week. Every other officer I know says pretty much the same thing. Carrying a weapon and training how to use it does not automatically mean a person surrounds themselves with violent elements.

The one time he did have to shoot someone, he went through all of the stages op listed, minus the ptsd.

Quoting katy_kay08:

no. I think those that believe everyone is out to get them will find someone out to get them.  I also believe those that include a gun in their conflict resolution process are more likelyto skip more common, less violent conflict resolution steps and find themselves in positions where a gun is used.  

Quoting VintageWife:

You think that people that own guns can't have them just for protection? As if they're psycho in the head and are looking for something to kill everyday? 

Quoting katy_kay08:

 I asked because you made it sound as if you were speaking from experience.  I wondered how often you have found yourself the position to "drop a hammer" on someone. 

IMO, those that surround themselves with guns will surround themselves with violence.  I don't actually know why anyone invites that type of element but hey to each their own.  


Quoting Carpy:

To many to count.

Now why would you ask that?  This is a somewhat serious post in regards to how so many think it would be a piece of cake and life just goes on as always.

Also in response to how so many on the other side of the fence think gun rights advocates think every gun owner is just itching to kill.

Quoting katy_kay08:

how many people have you killed?


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by Jes on Mar. 12, 2013 at 2:58 PM
Even cops and military members trained to kill have feelings of guilt...
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by Gold Member on Mar. 12, 2013 at 2:58 PM

I would be able to take a life if it was them or my family, and I have no doubt that there would be mental/emotional problems afterwards. I just pray I never have to make that decision

by Jes on Mar. 12, 2013 at 2:58 PM
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Also... Someone saying they could kill another person and feel nothing is scary.
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