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Marriage: What It Is, Why It Matters, and the Consequences of Redefining It

Posted by on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:16 AM
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Abstract
Marriage is based on the truth that men and women are complementary, the biological fact that reproduction depends on a man and a woman, and the reality that children need a mother and a father. Redefining marriage does not simply expand the existing understanding of marriage; it rejects these truths. Marriage is society’s least restrictive means of ensuring the well-being of children. By encouraging the norms of marriage—monogamy, sexual exclusivity, and permanence—the state strengthens civil society and reduces its own role. The future of this country depends on the future of marriage. The future of marriage depends on citizens understanding what it is and why it matters and demanding that government policies support, not undermine, true marriage.

At the heart of the current debates about same-sex marriage are three crucial questions: What is marriage, why does marriage matter for public policy, and what would be the consequences of redefining marriage to exclude sexual complementarity?

Marriage exists to bring a man and a woman together as husband and wife to be father and mother to any children their union produces. It is based on the anthropological truth that men and women are different and complementary, the biological fact that reproduction depends on a man and a woman, and the social reality that children need both a mother and a father. Marriage predates government. It is the fundamental building block of all human civilization. Marriage has public purposes that transcend its private purposes. This is why 41 states, with good reason, affirm that marriage is between a man and a woman.

Government recognizes marriage because it is an institution that benefits society in a way that no other relationship does. Marriage is society’s least restrictive means of ensuring the well-being of children. State recognition of marriage protects children by encouraging men and women to commit to each other and take responsibility for their children. While respecting everyone’s liberty, government rightly recognizes, protects, and promotes marriage as the ideal institution for childbearing and childrearing.

Promoting marriage does not ban any type of relationship: Adults are free to make choices about their relationships, and they do not need government sanction or license to do so. All Americans have the freedom to live as they choose, but no one has a right to redefine marriage for everyone else.

In recent decades, marriage has been weakened by a revisionist view that is more about adults’ desires than children’s needs. This reduces marriage to a system to approve emotional bonds or distribute legal privileges.

Redefining marriage to include same-sex relationships is the culmination of this revisionism, and it would leave emotional intensity as the only thing that sets marriage apart from other bonds. Redefining marriage would further distance marriage from the needs of children and would deny, as a matter of policy, the ideal that a child needs both a mom and a dad. Decades of social science, including the latest studies using large samples and robust research methods, show that children tend to do best when raised by a mother and a father. The confusion resulting from further delinking childbearing from marriage would force the state to intervene more often in family life and expand welfare programs. Redefining marriage would legislate a new principle that marriage is whatever emotional bond the government says it is.

Redefining marriage does not simply expand the existing understanding of marriage. It rejects the anthropological truth that marriage is based on the complementarity of man and woman, the biological fact that reproduction depends on a man and a woman, and the social reality that children need a mother and a father. Redefining marriage to abandon the norm of male–female sexual complementarity would also make other essential characteristics—such as monogamy, exclusivity, and permanency—optional. Marriage cannot do the work that society needs it to do if these norms are further weakened.

Redefining marriage is also a direct and demonstrable threat to religious freedom because it marginalizes those who affirm marriage as the union of a man and a woman. This is already evident in Massachusetts and Washington, D.C., among other locations.

Concern for the common good requires protecting and strengthening the marriage culture by promoting the truth about marriage.

What Is Marriage?

Marriage exists to bring a man and a woman together as husband and wife to be father and mother to any children their union produces.

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LilyofPhilly
by Gold Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:26 AM
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By this reasoning- marriage is all about producing children-who are we to outlaw polygamy? It is the natural order that men can impregnate as many women as he chooses, and those unions need to be protected!
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Paperfishies
by Silver Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:28 AM
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I guess all those infertile women and sterile men and worthless and shit out of luck.
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coolmommy2x
by Gold Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:36 AM
I guess so. =(

Quoting Paperfishies:

I guess all those infertile women and sterile men and worthless and shit out of luck.
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candlegal
by Judy on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:41 AM

Because they all know they are infertile or sterile before they get married, right?

Quoting Paperfishies:

I guess all those infertile women and sterile men and worthless and shit out of luck.


brookiecookie87
by Platinum Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:44 AM
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How many wives did King David have in the bible? Abijah? Abraham? Esau? Gideon?

I can give you a hint. It's more than 1, and in some cases far more. The fact that people cannot marry many people, and you are not forced to marry a person who raped you means we have already redefined marriage.

And wasn't it illegal for black and white people to get married until recently?

And this:

Quoting romalove:

The first sentence in the OP is nonsense and untrue.

I reject the article on the basis that the premise is flawed and faulty.





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katy_kay08
by on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:46 AM
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thank you for so boldly posting what the rest of us have already known...there is no actual reason beyond "we can't handle it" and that some refuse to see heterosexuals have been the sole destructive force in "weaking" marriage.

  

katy_kay08
by on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:46 AM

Would that change your belief in their right to get married?  

Quoting candlegal:

Because they all know they are infertile or sterile before they get married, right?

Quoting Paperfishies:

I guess all those infertile women and sterile men and worthless and shit out of luck.



katy_kay08
by on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:48 AM
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Anthropological "truths" evolve as they are simply the study of human societies and has societies have changed so have the "truths".  

Donna6503
by Platinum Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:50 AM
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Say do you remember all those laws on the book that said, "a woman over 50, isn't allowed to get married."

Me neither


Quoting Paperfishies:

I guess all those infertile women and sterile men and worthless and shit out of luck.

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katy_kay08
by on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:51 AM
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Heterosexuals have already altered the "anthropological truth" beyond "man & woman mate" with the advancement of IFV treatments.  

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