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Marriage: What It Is, Why It Matters, and the Consequences of Redefining It

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Abstract
Marriage is based on the truth that men and women are complementary, the biological fact that reproduction depends on a man and a woman, and the reality that children need a mother and a father. Redefining marriage does not simply expand the existing understanding of marriage; it rejects these truths. Marriage is society’s least restrictive means of ensuring the well-being of children. By encouraging the norms of marriage—monogamy, sexual exclusivity, and permanence—the state strengthens civil society and reduces its own role. The future of this country depends on the future of marriage. The future of marriage depends on citizens understanding what it is and why it matters and demanding that government policies support, not undermine, true marriage.

At the heart of the current debates about same-sex marriage are three crucial questions: What is marriage, why does marriage matter for public policy, and what would be the consequences of redefining marriage to exclude sexual complementarity?

Marriage exists to bring a man and a woman together as husband and wife to be father and mother to any children their union produces. It is based on the anthropological truth that men and women are different and complementary, the biological fact that reproduction depends on a man and a woman, and the social reality that children need both a mother and a father. Marriage predates government. It is the fundamental building block of all human civilization. Marriage has public purposes that transcend its private purposes. This is why 41 states, with good reason, affirm that marriage is between a man and a woman.

Government recognizes marriage because it is an institution that benefits society in a way that no other relationship does. Marriage is society’s least restrictive means of ensuring the well-being of children. State recognition of marriage protects children by encouraging men and women to commit to each other and take responsibility for their children. While respecting everyone’s liberty, government rightly recognizes, protects, and promotes marriage as the ideal institution for childbearing and childrearing.

Promoting marriage does not ban any type of relationship: Adults are free to make choices about their relationships, and they do not need government sanction or license to do so. All Americans have the freedom to live as they choose, but no one has a right to redefine marriage for everyone else.

In recent decades, marriage has been weakened by a revisionist view that is more about adults’ desires than children’s needs. This reduces marriage to a system to approve emotional bonds or distribute legal privileges.

Redefining marriage to include same-sex relationships is the culmination of this revisionism, and it would leave emotional intensity as the only thing that sets marriage apart from other bonds. Redefining marriage would further distance marriage from the needs of children and would deny, as a matter of policy, the ideal that a child needs both a mom and a dad. Decades of social science, including the latest studies using large samples and robust research methods, show that children tend to do best when raised by a mother and a father. The confusion resulting from further delinking childbearing from marriage would force the state to intervene more often in family life and expand welfare programs. Redefining marriage would legislate a new principle that marriage is whatever emotional bond the government says it is.

Redefining marriage does not simply expand the existing understanding of marriage. It rejects the anthropological truth that marriage is based on the complementarity of man and woman, the biological fact that reproduction depends on a man and a woman, and the social reality that children need a mother and a father. Redefining marriage to abandon the norm of male–female sexual complementarity would also make other essential characteristics—such as monogamy, exclusivity, and permanency—optional. Marriage cannot do the work that society needs it to do if these norms are further weakened.

Redefining marriage is also a direct and demonstrable threat to religious freedom because it marginalizes those who affirm marriage as the union of a man and a woman. This is already evident in Massachusetts and Washington, D.C., among other locations.

Concern for the common good requires protecting and strengthening the marriage culture by promoting the truth about marriage.

What Is Marriage?

Marriage exists to bring a man and a woman together as husband and wife to be father and mother to any children their union produces.

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by on Mar. 15, 2013 at 8:16 AM
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foxfroggy
by Bronze Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 1:02 PM
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Utter horse hockey. I'm 64 and any marriage for me would be biologically most unlikely to result in new children. By your twisted reasoning, there is no reason for sterile heterosexual couples to marry! And despite your homophobic and otherwised biased claims, studies actual show that children do jusat fine in same sex couple led families as well as single parent families. Procreation is not the only reason for marriage and for that matter, gay couple can and do have babies with no more extraordinary help than many infertile couples use. 

Same sex marriage equality does not change the definition of marriage, only produces equality in whom we allow to have the many benefits of marriage. 

ashellbell
by shellbark on Mar. 17, 2013 at 1:20 PM
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They see the bigot that posted it and decide they agree without reading.


Quoting FromAtoZ:

Why do people pop in and make comments without reading what ever the OP is or the thread?  They pick and choose a few replies to respond to and when questioned, they back out because they haven't bothered to pay attention and read.


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baileymarie723
by Bronze Member on Mar. 17, 2013 at 2:37 PM

Not everyone has the same views as to what marriage is. Some view it like you, but others view it as 2 people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together. As for children they should have 2 loving parents whether it's a mom and dad, 2 moms, or 2 dads. At least they would have 2 parents that love them, which is better than a lot of children out there.

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DisabledVet
by Bronze Member on Mar. 18, 2013 at 2:07 AM
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God created homosexuals. Man created the concept of marriage.Sadly your arguments do not hold water. Redefining marriage to include same sex couples does not threaten religion as you're free to practice your religion in any manner you see fit. Churches will not be forced to preform marriages for homosexuals. At some point all the bigots will be forced to admit the world did not come to an end when the government made homosexual marriage legal thus giving citizens the rights they should have. Personally I fully willing to take my marriage certificate and trade it in for a certificate of partnership if all people are allowed the same privilege (legal recognizetion of their union through parnership certificats) and marriages can take place in Churches alone. But I suppose you'll have some objection to that option also. Can you explain to me why YOUR religous views should be forced down MY throat and impead MY RIGHTS? The minority should never be allowed to infringe on the rights of the majority.

Every person deserves to be legally bound to the person they love. I heard these same arguments about allowing people of different faiths to marry, allowing blacks and whites to marry and so on.

The definition that you quote is MAN MADE. What about people who can't have kids...should they not be allowed to marry?Marriage isn't about producing children. It's about love and commitment. The people who are destroying marriage are the heterosexuals. Look at all the people who say things like well, if it doesn't work out we can get divorced.

I believe God created homosexuality for one reason. Homosexuality shows up in the same %'s throughout the animal world (ie birds, fish, mammals, reptiles, etc) and God seems to love diversity. Just take a look around you. 

What if you're wrong and when you face God you'll have to explain why you were a bigot and you didn't spend your time tending your own garden? I feel very sorry for you and I'll pray that you're shown the light. There is already evidence that Jesus officiated over a homosexual marriage.

witchybabymomma
by Member on Mar. 18, 2013 at 3:04 PM

throwing up 

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