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After years of separation, 32-year-old man to be adopted

Posted by on Mar. 15, 2013 at 6:15 PM
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CNN) -- A boyhood wish is finally about to come true. But Maurice Griffin had to wait until he was a man for it to happen.

At age 32, the California man is about to be adopted.

"It has to happen," Griffin said. "I didn't fight for all those years for no reason."

Adopting the burly, muscular, mohawk-sporting man is Lisa Godbold, his one-time foster mother.

"I just feel like this makes it official," Godbold said. "And we don't have to keep explaining it now."

Good time

The story dates to the early 1980s, when Godbold and her husband saw Griffin at an orphanage near their Sacramento home.

The smiling child seemed to fit perfectly with their family: Godbold is white. Her late previous husband was black, and the couple had two children who were, like Griffin, biracial.

The couple took Griffin in as a foster child. He quickly bonded with their sons, Gideon and Spencer.

"We were best friends," Griffin said. "We'd run around, we did mischievous things and fun things. It was a good time."

He lived with the family as a foster child for four years, until he was 13. Then, just two months shy of being adopted by them, it all fell apart.

"I wanted to be treated like a real son," Griffin told CNN affiliate KSWB. "Their sons got spanked and I didn't."

So he told a social worker that was what was going to happen.

"I told her they were going to be spanking me. She told her superiors and her superiors told her I had to be taken out," he told KSWB.

Family ripped apart

One day, foster care officials took Griffin away, saying he could not live with Godbold's family anymore.

"You can't spank foster children. Maurice very much wanted that," Godbold said. "We wanted him to feel like the rest of our kids. And there was a difference of opinion with some of the (child welfare) supervisors."

Godbold said she fought to keep Griffin and was told she could lose her biological children, too.

CNN contacted the state agency responsible for the case, but its officials would not comment because it's still considered a juvenile matter.

So Godbold had to let go. And as time moved on, Griffin says, he lost touch with what he felt was his only family.

"It was just an emptiness," he said. "I couldn't talk to anybody about it because nobody was there. I couldn't call somebody; there was just a void in me."

Griffin told KSWB that he acted out every chance he got in hopes the state would reunite him with the people he considered to be family.

He bounced from one foster home to another, never finding what he lost.

"I didn't let anybody get close to me again," Griffin said, holding back tears. "I hurt a lot of people. It was a rough road."

Searching for each other

Despite several obstacles, Griffin and Godbold never stopped searching for one another.

Godbold's husband died in 1998. She remarried and changed her last name, and moved.

But six years ago, Godbold found Griffin on social media. They communicated online and then one day she called him.

"She said, 'hey baby,' and I said I got to call you back," Griffin said, trying to explain how overwhelmed he was by the reunion.

And now the two are heading to a San Diego courtroom Friday, to put their family back together.

A juvenile court.

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Donna6503
by Platinum Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 6:22 PM
1 mom liked this
I love reading these type of stories; thanks for sharing
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Fullmoon_Goddes
by Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 6:25 PM
I am very happy for them. Nice post!
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desertlvn
by Silver Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 7:02 PM

I'm confused. If they were going to lose him over spanking, why didn't they just stop spanking ALL their kids? He'd feel like part of the family and could stay with them.

quickbooksworm
by Silver Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 7:14 PM

I was wondering the same thing.  But it's possible the social worker heard that they had planned on spanking him and yanked him without explaination.


Quoting desertlvn:

I'm confused. If they were going to lose him over spanking, why didn't they just stop spanking ALL their kids? He'd feel like part of the family and could stay with them.



katy_kay08
by on Mar. 15, 2013 at 7:18 PM

It doesn't sound like that was even an option for them.  

Quoting desertlvn:

I'm confused. If they were going to lose him over spanking, why didn't they just stop spanking ALL their kids? He'd feel like part of the family and could stay with them.


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