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CNN Exclusive: One conservative's dramatic reversal on gay marriage

Posted by on Mar. 15, 2013 at 10:01 PM
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 Maybe this is supposed to be a feel good story, but it really irks me.

Ohio Sen. Rob Portman gave his only on-camera interview about the change in his position on same-sex marriage to CNN's Dana Bash on Thursday. He also discussed it with a few print reporters from Ohio and wrote an editorial explaining the change that appeared Friday in The Columbus Dispatch.

Washington (CNN) -- You probably recognize Sen. Rob Portman from his tireless campaigning for Mitt Romney in 2012. He was even on the short list to be Romney's running mate.

He's been a leading Republican voice on economic issues for four decades.

Now, the prominent Ohio conservative will be known for something else: reversing his hardline position against gay marriage.

He invited CNN to his Senate office to reveal the news.

"I'm announcing today a change of heart on an issue that a lot of people feel strongly about that has to do with gay couples' opportunity to marry," Portman told CNN.

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It has to do with another revelation, one deeply personal. His 21-year-old son, Will, is gay.

"I've come to the conclusion that for me, personally, I think this is something that we should allow people to do, to get married, and to have the joy and stability of marriage that I've had for over 26 years. That I want all of my children to have, including our son, who is gay," said Portman.

Will Portman told his father and mother he is gay two years ago, when he was a freshman at Yale University.

"My son came to Jane, my wife, and I, told us that he was gay, and that it was not a choice, and that it's just part of who he is, and that's who he'd been that way for as long as he could remember," said Portman.

What was the Republican senator's reaction?

"Love. Support," responded Portman.

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And complete surprise. He told CNN that he never suspected that his son was gay.

Portman says his son, now a junior in college, helped him work through his decision to announce his change in position on gay marriage and blessed the idea of publicly announcing Will Portman's sexuality.

"I think he's happy and, you know, proud that we've come to this point, but he let it be my decision just as you know, it's going to be his decision as to the role he plays going forward in this whole issue," said Portman.

Until now, this was a secret to most people in politics, but not everyone.

Last year, when Romney was vetting Portman to be his running mate, the Ohio Republican informed both Romney and his top campaign advisers that he has a gay son.

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"I told Mitt Romney everything," said Portman with a laugh. "That process is, intrusive would be one way to put it. But, no, yeah, I told him everything."

Portman, who was ultimately passed over as the GOP vice-presidential candidate in favor of Rep. Paul Ryan, said the fact that his son is gay was not the deal breaker for Romney. How does he know?

"Well, because they told me," said Portman.

Portman told CNN he sought counsel from a Republican who did serve as vice president: Dick Cheney, the highest-ranking Republican with an openly gay child, his daughter Mary.

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"I spoke to him personally; I actually met with him," said Portman.

He said Cheney's advice was simple: "'Follow your heart.'"

"He was a good person to talk to because he also was surprised by the news, in that case, you know, his wonderful daughter, who he loves very much. And it forced him to re-think the issue too, and over time, he changed his view on it," said Portman.

"I followed his advice. You know, I followed my heart," he said.

Though he is a staunch conservative, Portman was never outspoken against gay marriage. But he consistently voted against it.

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While in Congress, he supported a constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage, voted for the Defense of Marriage Act and voted for a bill prohibiting gay couples in Washington from adopting.

In 2011, 100 University of Michigan law school graduates walked out of Portman's commencement address to protest his position on gay rights after circulating a petition trying to get him removed as the event's speaker.

"The decision to host a graduation speaker who is openly hostile to LGBT rights is deeply unfair to the LGBT students who will be in the audience this year celebrating their graduation," read the petition.

Portman admitted that when the protest occurred, he already knew his own son was gay.

"It was a little odd. Look, and to be honest with you, it didn't affect that decision-making much, because it was, I didn't think it was appropriate," Portman said. "But look, they had their freedom of speech rights to be able to do what they wanted to do."

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"But you know, what happened to me is really personal. I mean, I hadn't thought a lot about this issue. Again, my focus has been on other issues over my public policy career," said Portman.

Asked about why he is announcing this change of heart, since his son revealed it to him two years ago, Portman cited two reasons. He just recently became comfortable with his decision to shift his position on gay marriage, and also he said he knew the Supreme Court is considering a pair of gay marriage cases, and reporters would likely ask him for his position.

"I thought it was the right time to let folks know where I stand so there's no confusion, so I would be clear about it," said Portman.

What would Portman say to gay constituents who may be glad he's changing his position on gay marriage, but also wondering why it took having a gay son to come around to supporting their rights?

"Well, I would say that, you know, I've had a change of heart based on a personal experience. That's certainly true," he responded with a shoulder shrug.

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But he also repeated a reality. His policy focus has been almost exclusively on economic issues.

"Now it's different, you know. I hadn't expected to be in this position. But I do think, you know, having spent a lot of time thinking about it and working through this issue personally that, you know, this is where I am, for reasons that are consistent with my political philosophy, including family values, including being a conservative who believes the family is a building block of society, so I'm comfortable there now."

To be sure, Portman was anything but comfortable discussing something as private and personal as his son's sexuality, even noting how foreign it felt for someone with his Midwestern upbringing and sensibilities to talk publicly about such issues.

At times, the press-savvy politician even seemed to tremble a bit. But it was also clear he was willing to endure the discussion in order to publicly tell his son that he is proud.

"He wanted to tell us that there's something about him that we didn't know," Portman said, reflecting on the day two years ago his son Will first told his parents he was gay.

Portman quickly added that it "of course hasn't changed our view of him at all."

http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/15/politics/portman-gay-marriage/index.html

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AdrianneHill
by Platinum Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 10:34 PM
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I understand why you're irked. I'm irked because they never really say why he changed his mind and why it is the only logical and intellectually honest position for a conservative person who ostensibly wants less government intrusion into citizens' lives to have.
If the conservatives take their own views seriously and thoughtfully, they would see that the government has no right in making these distinctions of morality. That is the job of religion and the country was founded upon not mixing the two.
When it comes to those rabidly opposed, they confuse me honestly. I really don't understand the doom and gloom they shout about. The consequences from legalizing same sex marriage are more dire than a nuclear attack from what I can tell but I don't know where those consequences are coming from. Will it be the kids furious from having two mommies as opposed to the latchkey kid of a single mom? While heterosexual marriage is in a sorry state with widespread divorce and infidelity, the way to fix those problems is not by creating a boogeyman of ssm which, once vanquished through constitutional amendment, will restore the good old fashioned fear of God and country that today's straight marriages are missing. Well the defeat of ssm reduce the divorce rate or the number of kids in foster care? Then don't claim it's all for the children as that would be disingenuous.
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Veni.Vidi.Vici.
by on Mar. 15, 2013 at 11:03 PM

I feel like his actions and reactions are very real, according to this story.

Woodbabe
by Woodie on Mar. 15, 2013 at 11:06 PM
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So he didn't want to give the gays any rights till suddenly it was his own son being denied those rights...

LindaClement
by Thatwoman on Mar. 15, 2013 at 11:10 PM
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The personal IS political.

LoveMyBoyK
by Ruby Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 11:10 PM
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Damned if they do, damned if they don't. SMDFH
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AdrianneHill
by Platinum Member on Mar. 15, 2013 at 11:36 PM
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I should add they I'm glad he changed his mind and he had empathy for his son. I just wish he didn't need to be personal for people to understand that civil rights affect us all.
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Friday
by HRH of MJ on Mar. 15, 2013 at 11:44 PM
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Good for him. His old views suck but at least he was able to learn, grow and have some compassion for his kid. Too many anti-gay parents disown their kids or try to force them to pray the gay away.

 


Thank God......it's Friday!!!

ethans_momma06
by on Mar. 16, 2013 at 12:01 AM

I always wish that these change of hearts (for any subject) came from reaching out and engaging in active discussion with other. From seriously contemplating the ramifications of your opinion, actions, views.

But no. No one does that (seemingly. I'm generalizing) until BAM! Life b!tch slaps them in the face with the opposite perspective.

Oh. And then of course... well yeah. Your mind changes. Best case scenario. I'm happy though, that this man has gone out of his way, of not only changing his opinion, but to let his son know he is proud of him. That he publically supports him. That right there, is good parenting.

TruthSeeker.
by Milami on Mar. 16, 2013 at 12:06 AM

 

Quoting Woodbabe:

So he didn't want to give the gays any rights till suddenly it was his own son being denied those rights...

  You know, I think sometimes it takes something happening to you personally for you to "get it". KWIM?

  Before having special needs children I never "got it". Now I do and I am a strong advocate for special needs kids, especially Autistic children.  Because I personally deal with it, I have a greater understanding.  Sometimes it's hard for people to wrap their minds around issues that simply do not affect them.

TruthSeeker.
by Milami on Mar. 16, 2013 at 12:08 AM

 

Quoting Friday:

Good for him. His old views suck but at least he was able to learn, grow and have some compassion for his kid. Too many anti-gay parents disown their kids or try to force them to pray the gay away.

  I couldn't agree more.

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