I think it has a lot to do with growing the baby...having a physical link to that being.
A man is disconnected.
Because women hold all the cards in that situation. It's the woman's body, so she can choose to abort, keep the baby whether or not she is emotionally or financially prepared, or give the baby to a family that can take better care of him/her. Once the child is created by both people, the man isn't given as many options.
Kinda like...when a mom does mom things, that's what she's supposed to do, but when a dad spends time being a dad...OMGs he's AMAZING!!! Why is this something fathers should be praised for and not something just expected of them?
I think that the anti-privacy (anti-choice/pro-life) movement has made martyrs of these women. Sure, some are. Some ar just following their faith. I don't think placing a baby for adoption is better or worse than abortion. I do think it is better than abuse.
Hate Is NOT a Family Value.
Quoting mommyrebecca:Mother is doing best for herself and child. She does not say "here's my baby raise him cause i gotta go play video games or screw more guys or hang with friends so bye " she is giving her child a better chance at life and herself more growing up time. A father who walks out and doesn't support his child, should have just masterbated or made sure pregnancy wouldn't happen.. And some almost all birth moms seek out their children and try explain though hardly does anyone understand why adoption was good for a child.
---- i got kicked out of my mother's had no place to go. I've survived on the street before but I had a 3mo old w/ me. He is now 2yrs old with another family and their last name. Happier than ever. I didn't get a place til he was 1yr old. I gave him a life. A better life. Food in his belly, a mommy with a good life, roof over his head. I see him now and it does hurt a lot but he is very happy. His dad as well ditched out even when we had been kicked out and needed his help, he gave us his back side.
So you are saying mothers who do best are as low as jerk fathers who wouldn't protect from a pregnancy??
Quoting LiliMama18:Because a baby can bring an adoption agency $30k a pop, so the agencies spew this rhetoric and spend lots o' money to propagate said rhetoric.
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