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S/O from the no tuxes for girls thread

Posted by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:19 PM
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Should proms simply go away because of the cost involved in them?

is it responsible of the school to sponsor a party that not everyone can afford?


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pansyprincess
by Silver Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:25 PM

I'm not sure.  I'm pretty sure that my school did not sponsor our prom.  If I remember correctly, we had to buy our tickets, and they were like $75 a ticket.  So I don't think that the school picked up any of the cost.  Now that I'm thinking about it, it was the junior class that "threw" the prom, and invited the senior class.  So I think the junior class did fundraising to help offset the price of the prom.

I wonder if they had any type of "charity" ticket for people who couldn't afford it.  I'd have no way of knowing, town was upper middle class and I can't imagine anyone whose parents wouldn't have paid for it for them.

talia-mom
by Gold Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:27 PM
But what if they require formal wear?


Quoting pansyprincess:

I'm not sure.  I'm pretty sure that my school did not sponsor our prom.  If I remember correctly, we had to buy our tickets, and they were like $75 a ticket.  So I don't think that the school picked up any of the cost.  Now that I'm thinking about it, it was the junior class that "threw" the prom, and invited the senior class.  So I think the junior class did fundraising to help offset the price of the prom.


I wonder if they had any type of "charity" ticket for people who couldn't afford it.  I'd have no way of knowing, town was upper middle class and I can't imagine anyone whose parents wouldn't have paid for it for them.


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pamelax3
by Gold Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:32 PM

Our prom is put on by the junior class and the parents of the junior class, the school does not put on the prom! There is a cost involved with going to prom, but it is by choice, it is not a mandatory event and no it should not be done away with, IMO the formality of it could be toned down some

maciymommieof3
by Silver Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:37 PM

it's always been that way...... 

where I live there is something called the "Cinderella Project" where girls can come into the mall and get gently used beautiful Prom dresses for free.


maciymommieof3
by Silver Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:38 PM


Quoting maciymommieof3:

it's always been that way...... 

where I live there is something called the "Cinderella Project" where girls can come into the mall and get gently used beautiful Prom dresses for free.


Cinderella Project providing prom dresses to underprivileged teens

12:09 AM, Feb 23, 2013   |   2  comments



St. Peters (KSDK) -- The snow hasn't even melted and yet we're talking about a springtime tradition - junior and senior prom - the night a girl gets to feel like Cinderella.  But the financial burden of the evening can be too much for some families.  It's the reason the Cinderella Project was born.

Cinderella's story, as we all know it, didn't start at Mid Rivers Mall in St. Peters. But Friday night we got tell a new version of this fairy tale.

"We're sorting and putting the ones we can sell to the girls on the rack and other ones that have stains and such, we're bagging up to donate," said Pam Raines, who is the coordinator of the Cinderella Project, which is sponsored by Community Council of St. Charles County.

You could call her the fairy godmother.


"For a lot of families, the first thing to go when they have financial difficulties is things like prom," she explained.

So, throughout the year, the group collects formal wear of all shapes and sizes in anticipation of the main event.  Friday night Pam, her daughter and a handful of other volunteers prepared the pop-up shop for what will begin Monday afternoon. That's when more than 200 high school junior and senior girls - referred by local agencies and organizations that serve underprivileged teens - will have the week to find a free dress for prom.


"I know how I would feel if I didn't have enough money to go to prom or homecoming," said Pam's daughter, Analise Benz, 13.  "I would feel really left out and bad, and just seeing all these girls get these dresses makes me feel really happy."


"Just seeing that look on the girls' faces when they find that special dress and that they know that they're gonna look beautiful for that night of prom, I think that's exciting," added Raines.

To learn more about the Cinderella Project, go tohttp://www.communitycouncilstc.org/CinderellaProject.aspx

furbabymum
by Gold Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:39 PM
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 Yup! I know of a lot of people that donate their prom dresses for that.

Quoting maciymommieof3:

it's always been that way...... 

where I live there is something called the "Cinderella Project" where girls can come into the mall and get gently used beautiful Prom dresses for free.


 

maciymommieof3
by Silver Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:40 PM

Thats part of the prom....at what time will these kids get the chance to dress up like this?

Quoting talia-mom:

But what if they require formal wear?


Quoting pansyprincess:

I'm not sure.  I'm pretty sure that my school did not sponsor our prom.  If I remember correctly, we had to buy our tickets, and they were like $75 a ticket.  So I don't think that the school picked up any of the cost.  Now that I'm thinking about it, it was the junior class that "threw" the prom, and invited the senior class.  So I think the junior class did fundraising to help offset the price of the prom.


I wonder if they had any type of "charity" ticket for people who couldn't afford it.  I'd have no way of knowing, town was upper middle class and I can't imagine anyone whose parents wouldn't have paid for it for them.



jhslove
by Bronze Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:42 PM
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I went to two proms in high school. For my junior prom, I wore a hand-me-down from my older sister. It was a beautiful dress that had only been worn once.

For my senior prom, I got my outfit at a vintage store. The whole thing cost under $50, and that's including shoes.

I think tickets were like $35 a person (this was in the late 90s). I'm not sure whether the school had any sort of fund for kids who needed help paying for prom tickets. I went to high school in a very well-to-do area, and a lot of the girls in my class wore prom dresses that cost upwards of $500 for the dress alone. My parents weren't about to blow that kind of cash on a dress that would only be worn a handful of times. They gave me the money for the ticket, but I was responsible for my own dress.

Lots of schools hold the prom in the gym to cut down on costs for everyone. In truth, it's probably more fair to do it as inexpensively as possible so that more people can afford to go, but I'm not sure how many schools do it that way.

One last note: The high school where I used to teach had a "prom dress drive" every year where people would donate dresses, and girls could come and try them on at lunch. If a girl found one that fit, she could take it for free and wear it to the prom.


Quoting talia-mom:

But what if they require formal wear?


Quoting pansyprincess:

I'm not sure.  I'm pretty sure that my school did not sponsor our prom.  If I remember correctly, we had to buy our tickets, and they were like $75 a ticket.  So I don't think that the school picked up any of the cost.  Now that I'm thinking about it, it was the junior class that "threw" the prom, and invited the senior class.  So I think the junior class did fundraising to help offset the price of the prom.


I wonder if they had any type of "charity" ticket for people who couldn't afford it.  I'd have no way of knowing, town was upper middle class and I can't imagine anyone whose parents wouldn't have paid for it for them.




momtoscott
by Platinum Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 4:02 PM

I hate the trend of making one day a big, perfect, and hella expensive blowout, be it a wedding or a prom date or a sweet sixteen party.   Plus I wasn't allowed to go to any dances in HS because dancing is SINFUL, so I have no personal experience to draw on.  Plus it was back when dinosaurs roamed the earth.   

However, my sense is that prom tickets and expenses mirror their communities.  A prom priced out of reach of the locals won't make back expenses, so it's ultimately a self-correcting mistake.  If rich people want to pay huge amounts of money for prom outfits, limos, hotel suites, etc., and boost the local economy with their boughten tuxes, let them. 

My son went to the fall dance at his high school and it cost him $20 plus a bouquet for his date.  I don't think there was a dress code.  Prom hasn't yet come up in our household.    

UpSheRises
by Platinum Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 4:05 PM
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I'd be okay with it.

Any parent is free to organize a party for the kids, it doesn't have to be the schools responsibility.

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