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Okay. You ladies are usually honest, and with the current situations going on and how females are treated... I thought I'd get your take. **eta

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If a man. Whether it be your father, husband, or SO says the following... How would you quantify the statement or take it? 

"The point being is that she is a typical stupid female trick."


(I am purposely leaving out the details leading up to the comment. I just want to know what that statement says to you, or what it would mean to you, if a man said this to you, about you, or you overheard it. I'll fill in the details later. )

Your honest response is more than appreciated. Thanks. ;-) 


EDIT* okay so it was my father. Yes my own dad. In front of about 20 people I don't know from Adam and some family around a camp fire. He was wasted. I hate him when he is drunk. To me there is still no excuse for saying something so incredibly terrible about your daughter which isn't true, and even if it was? Just awful. 

It was my Aunts b-day. He was trying to get people to tell stories about her. Someone heard me say Jäger which is my dogs name and they thought I like Jaegermeister. I said, no! I learned that lesson in college. It makes me gag. So the guy pressured me to share the story of why I don't drink Jaegermeister with everyone because  MY DAD is the one who wanted to tell stories. 

I explained that in college my dorm had rented out a club for a Halloween party. The bartender told me if I would dance up in the "cat cages" he would give me free drinks. I always danced in the cat cages because EVERYONE knows that is the safest place in a club. If a guy tries to climb up, you can put a heel in his face. On the floor they grab at you. To me that is just smart. Never mind the fact I was a dancer my whole life, and my dad clearly knows that. I was never a "loose" girl. Whatever that means. Why does he make me feel like I am 16 again? 

The bartender gave me a mind eraser, and the jäger bombs. I didn't last long. I had to be taken home and all I remembered was puking Jaegermeister that night. Thus why I don't drink it. 

My dads comment was exactly what I originally stated. In front of all of these people. Worse? I happened to be standing right in the middle because I was putting more wood in the fire, so I was center stage. You should have seen the look on their faces. It was mortifying. So hurtful. What an ass. 

My parents are divorced, but I immediately texted my mom and sister. My mom tried to say maybe he didn't mean it the way it sounded. I think that's bullshit. My sister also agreed it was meant exactly as I took it. 

How would you handle the situation? Clearly I did not handle it this weekend, but it must be addressed. He wonders why I usually opt out of family events? Point.in.case. 

What do you say to someone like that? 

by on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:07 PM
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jehosoba84
by Jenn on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:19 PM

 Completely understandable if the man who said this to you was someone you love. Like another poster said, none of the men in my life would ever say something like this to any woman. So if it were said to me, it wouldn't be as hurtful as it was for you.   I can't say that the comment wouldn't cut me a bit, but I know deep down that it's not true. You should know that too.

Quoting DestinyHLewis:

 

I didn't roll my eyes. I was too busy fighting back tears. But I didn't say a word either. Not sure if I should have, or if my non response was better. 

Quoting jehosoba84:

This man has a low opinion of women in general.

If someone said this to/about me, I'd roll my eyes and walk away. It's too absurd to dignify it with a retort.

 

 

 

DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:20 PM

That is how I took it too. 


Quoting GOBryan:

She is a common stupid slut. 



NWP
by guerrilla girl on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:20 PM
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I am not sure what it means but is sounds bad and I wouldn't want someone saying it to me or my daughters.

redbutterfly666
by Bronze Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:20 PM

they sound like jackasses and id probably punch them in the face lol no idk id probably tell them off and make them feel stupid ^.^

ETA:idk how id take it as though honestly

parentalrights1
by on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:20 PM
I'm gonna safely assume that the man in question with such a low opinion of loose women is actually loose himself


Quoting DestinyHLewis:


That is EXACTLY what I was looking for. I have never heard the word "trick" used to describe anything but a hooker either. 


Quoting jehosoba84:

 I edited that comment. The only time I've heard the term 'trick' is in a movie and it was referring to loose women.


Quoting DestinyHLewis:




Can you explain that a little further? Are you assuming he was talking about a loose woman? 


Quoting jehosoba84:


This man has a low opinion of loose women.






 





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Deshonsmommy
by on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:21 PM

I cannot give a full comment because I need more information, but if DH said that then she must be some kind of loose female.

DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:21 PM


No he isn't. Not even close. He can count the women on 3 fingers. 

Quoting parentalrights1:

I'm gonna safely assume that the man in question with such a low opinion of loose women is actually loose himself


Quoting DestinyHLewis:


That is EXACTLY what I was looking for. I have never heard the word "trick" used to describe anything but a hooker either. 


Quoting jehosoba84:

 I edited that comment. The only time I've heard the term 'trick' is in a movie and it was referring to loose women.


Quoting DestinyHLewis:




Can you explain that a little further? Are you assuming he was talking about a loose woman? 


Quoting jehosoba84:


This man has a low opinion of loose women.






 







GOBryan
by Silver Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:22 PM

Yes. Sounds like he was refering to a particular person.. I wouldn't go as far as saying that he doesn't respect women in general just from that statement alone. 

Quoting DestinyHLewis:

That is how I took it too. 


Quoting GOBryan:

She is a common stupid slut. 




grandmab125
by Gold Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:29 PM

 Well, it sounds pretty misogynistic to me.  But again, it doesn't make a lot of sense, since you didn't fill in the blanks.  It just reads as sort of an incomplete sentence.  But that's ok, I respect your desire for privacy.

Quoting DestinyHLewis:

 

I purposely didn't. I need to know what that statement would mean to you at face value. 

Quoting grandmab125:

 Maybe my pounding headache is dulling my senses right now.  But since you didn't include any context with that remark, I'm afraid I can't coment on it.....I don't get it.

 

 

 

grandma B

kaylasmom22
by on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:35 PM
Sorry I need to know the whole story before giving my opinion. How many times have women on here call each other stupid? so now if a man says it,its offensive???
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