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Okay. You ladies are usually honest, and with the current situations going on and how females are treated... I thought I'd get your take. **eta

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If a man. Whether it be your father, husband, or SO says the following... How would you quantify the statement or take it? 

"The point being is that she is a typical stupid female trick."


(I am purposely leaving out the details leading up to the comment. I just want to know what that statement says to you, or what it would mean to you, if a man said this to you, about you, or you overheard it. I'll fill in the details later. )

Your honest response is more than appreciated. Thanks. ;-) 


EDIT* okay so it was my father. Yes my own dad. In front of about 20 people I don't know from Adam and some family around a camp fire. He was wasted. I hate him when he is drunk. To me there is still no excuse for saying something so incredibly terrible about your daughter which isn't true, and even if it was? Just awful. 

It was my Aunts b-day. He was trying to get people to tell stories about her. Someone heard me say Jäger which is my dogs name and they thought I like Jaegermeister. I said, no! I learned that lesson in college. It makes me gag. So the guy pressured me to share the story of why I don't drink Jaegermeister with everyone because  MY DAD is the one who wanted to tell stories. 

I explained that in college my dorm had rented out a club for a Halloween party. The bartender told me if I would dance up in the "cat cages" he would give me free drinks. I always danced in the cat cages because EVERYONE knows that is the safest place in a club. If a guy tries to climb up, you can put a heel in his face. On the floor they grab at you. To me that is just smart. Never mind the fact I was a dancer my whole life, and my dad clearly knows that. I was never a "loose" girl. Whatever that means. Why does he make me feel like I am 16 again? 

The bartender gave me a mind eraser, and the jäger bombs. I didn't last long. I had to be taken home and all I remembered was puking Jaegermeister that night. Thus why I don't drink it. 

My dads comment was exactly what I originally stated. In front of all of these people. Worse? I happened to be standing right in the middle because I was putting more wood in the fire, so I was center stage. You should have seen the look on their faces. It was mortifying. So hurtful. What an ass. 

My parents are divorced, but I immediately texted my mom and sister. My mom tried to say maybe he didn't mean it the way it sounded. I think that's bullshit. My sister also agreed it was meant exactly as I took it. 

How would you handle the situation? Clearly I did not handle it this weekend, but it must be addressed. He wonders why I usually opt out of family events? Point.in.case. 

What do you say to someone like that? 

by on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:07 PM
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lizzielouaf
by Gold Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:37 PM
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I would assume the man hadn't been looked favorably upon by the "trick" in question and he was just a bitter little pill.
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Ms.KitKat
by Platinum Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:41 PM

 "The point being is that she is a typical stupid female trick."

I think context is  really necessary here as nothing makes any sense without the context in which a statement was made. Anything said or written could come across and be perceived as negative (or positive) depending on the context.

This statement could be highly degrading. This statement could also (playing devil's advocate) illustrate how a sterotype is being played out in real life and further illustrating how sterotypes get their origins.On the other hand, bvecause the word "stupid" was used, I'd side with degrading.

terpmama
by Silver Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:44 PM

Unless the contex included,  he said, "" then I decked him,  I would have issues with the person who said it... I would also have issues if a similar sentiment was stated about a man or anyone else.

pixie92
by Platinum Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 5:50 PM
I have to know the conversation cause it could be something truthful. Without knowing what the conversation is i cant form a good opinion.
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DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Mar. 25, 2013 at 6:03 PM


I put  the edit in the OP. 

Quoting kaylasmom22:

Sorry I need to know the whole story before giving my opinion. How many times have women on here call each other stupid? so now if a man says it,its offensive???



DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Mar. 25, 2013 at 6:04 PM


Edit in OP

Quoting terpmama:

Unless the contex included,  he said, "" then I decked him,  I would have issues with the person who said it... I would also have issues if a similar sentiment was stated about a man or anyone else.



DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Mar. 25, 2013 at 6:05 PM


Edit in OP

Quoting Ms.KitKat:

 "The point being is that she is a typical stupid female trick."

I think context is  really necessary here as nothing makes any sense without the context in which a statement was made. Anything said or written could come across and be perceived as negative (or positive) depending on the context.

This statement could be highly degrading. This statement could also (playing devil's advocate) illustrate how a sterotype is being played out in real life and further illustrating how sterotypes get their origins.On the other hand, bvecause the word "stupid" was used, I'd side with degrading.



DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Mar. 25, 2013 at 6:08 PM


Now read the edited OP. 

Quoting jupiter5:

hooker  pulled a fast one on  a stupid horny man.



ramita
by Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 6:08 PM
I would definitely be avoiding my dad if he said this about me, and if I was around him I would be chewing his ass out. Sounds like he thought it was a bad thing you danced in the cages and that you opted to drink for free when given the chance. As long as you weren't half naked or stripping while dancing I don't see the problem with the cages, but maybe your dad assumed you were...?
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DestinyHLewis
by Destiny on Mar. 25, 2013 at 6:09 PM


Edit in OP. 

Quoting gludwig2000:

 

"The point being is that she is a typical stupid female trick."

That statement tells me that they have absolutely no respect for the female in question. The word typical thrown in there tells me that they believe and feel that way of most females.



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