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ConServative mommas... What would you do if your child comes to you and tells you they are gay?

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chloedee
by Bronze Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 7:28 PM
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I'm taking the fact that you said you'd beat your children too seriously? I'm not flippant about the idea of child abuse. Perhaps you are.

It's fine to be disappointed or surprised. The fact that your husband would threaten a beating, even as a "scare tactic" is appalling and indicative of the fact that, no, your home is not an accepting or unconditionally loving place for a teen that might be nervous to speak to you about something like this.

The fact that your children may find happiness is something other than what you do doesn't make them selfish. It makes them individuals with their own interests and passions.

Are you under the impression straight people don't have oral and anal sex? Hardly a matter of "the gay world".


Quoting halinichols:

I think you're taking it way too seriously. We don't abuse our children its just we would be very very disappointed with how much we teach them where they grew up spiritual and religion wise and them just shit on it so to speak. It is not a settling feeling for a parent to spend years teaching where and who they came from and what is expected of them for them to go and do whatever they please. I know it'll happen but with something as serious as that in our faith we don't agree with it. We would never disown but we would let them know they're in a sense being selfish because I know my kids and I know damn well they want the family life and to be able to have their own kids and give us grand kids. He wouldn't physically strike them over and over until they change their mind. He more so says it as a scare tactic which I understand. The gay world is not a pretty one. The acts women do to each other but more so what men do to each other sexually is just appalling. It is not what God wanted either. A penis goes into a vagina. Not a penis into a butt hole. Its disgusting and degrading to a human. To their body. Ick. we cant and don't want to imagine our children doing as such.




Quoting chloedee:

The attitude of "I'll beat the gay out of them" is absolutely one that could, and does, drive teens to feelings or worthlessness and suicide.





Suggesting that your husband would physically beat your child because they came to you, hoping to be loved and accepted, is sickening. What is "right and just" is certainly not beating someone for their sexuality. In fact, that's called a hate crime.





Seriously sickening and disgusting. So happy to not believe in a God that would think people who would "beat the gay out" of their kids deserve them or are on the right path.






Quoting halinichols:

No. The way we raise our children has bot had an affect on other teens who kill themselves. I know you're looking for something to blame but its not my husband and I. Our kids love us and we love them and wanting them to respect us and learn what we are teaching them is no harmful. You have no clue how my family works but at least we all work together and no one is failing or misguided. Everyone is loved in this family and that's part of s making them, is to teach them what is right and just. If you can't do that don't have kids. I had kids to procreate under the will of my God who says marriage is for one man and one woman. Therefore my kids will be raised knowing that and obeying the creator who ultimately made them or else its just a slap in the face to God.








Quoting chloedee:

You and "daddy" are the reason gay teenagers have an exponentially high rate of suicide attempts. 

Don't bash when you just said your husband would physically assault your child for coming to you about who they are? Ya, right. People like you don't deserve children. 





Quoting halinichols:

Daddy would beat it out of them. Because it is a choice that we don't believe in and every bad choice has a bad consequence. We are Christians and raise our family to procreate like God wants. To have that man and woman bond. Procreation can't come from same sex. This is just our views as a family. Respect them please and don't bash.











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redbutterfly666
by Bronze Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 7:35 PM
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sooooo...he wants to raise your kids with love? because from the sounds of it he wants your kids to grow up as hate mongers instead of loveing everyone

Quoting halinichols:

He wants for his children what God wants. That's why we teach our children what we do. But at the same time he'd beat any kid who showed up on our doorstep asking foe our daughter. We just want what's best for them and what's right. That's how we run our family and so far it works for us :)


Quoting OHgirlinCA:

 Daddy would beat it out of them? 


***shakes head***


Quoting halinichols:

Daddy would beat it out of them. Because it is a choice that we don't believe in and every bad choice has a bad consequence. We are Christians and raise our family to procreate like God wants. To have that man and woman bond. Procreation can't come from same sex. This is just our views as a family. Respect them please and don't bash.

 



SilverSterling
by MrsSilverusSnape on Mar. 28, 2013 at 7:42 PM

Since my 16yr has already come out to me and I did say I would tell this story in another post I will tell you how it went

16yr: Mom I have something I need to tell you and I don't think you will be to happy about it

Me: Not looking up from my laptop screen.. "child just spill it I am sure what ever it is I already know and your already grounded so whats a little more time"

16yr: I'm Bi 

Me: And Your now just telling me something I have known for years why?

16yr: You said... Your not mad? I have known for a while and didn't tell you?

Me: known since forever.. Could care less... Cant tell me what I already know and why of all the people in your Family would I get mad about it? Hello *points too all my LGBT posters, pictures, books*???!!!!

16yr: walks away mumbling about having a crazy mom


She actually thought I would be mad.. I didn't react to her news.. she was more pissed about my lack of reaction then my acceptance. I did already know.. I pay attention to my kids even if they don't think so.. I love my children without CONDITIONS.. I want them to be happy even if it means they do something I am not comfortable with.. They are my children and THEIR Happiness takes precedent over my own.. All I want is for them to be happy and Loved.. I don't know if its by someone of the same sex Or from more then one person (I am not against Triads or Polygamy)

SilverSterling
by MrsSilverusSnape on Mar. 28, 2013 at 7:45 PM
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the only selfishness i am seeing is Parents putting their comfort and happiness over their own children's.. Putting conditions on loving their children and failing to teach them to love themselves and find happiness.. Its sick.. These are the types of parents who end up burying their children because they kill themselves rather then fail their parents.

Quoting chloedee:

I'm taking the fact that you said you'd beat your children too seriously? I'm not flippant about the idea of child abuse. Perhaps you are.

It's fine to be disappointed or surprised. The fact that your husband would threaten a beating, even as a "scare tactic" is appalling and indicative of the fact that, no, your home is not an accepting or unconditionally loving place for a teen that might be nervous to speak to you about something like this.

The fact that your children may find happiness is something other than what you do doesn't make them selfish. It makes them individuals with their own interests and passions.

Are you under the impression straight people don't have oral and anal sex? Hardly a matter of "the gay world".


Quoting halinichols:

I think you're taking it way too seriously. We don't abuse our children its just we would be very very disappointed with how much we teach them where they grew up spiritual and religion wise and them just shit on it so to speak. It is not a settling feeling for a parent to spend years teaching where and who they came from and what is expected of them for them to go and do whatever they please. I know it'll happen but with something as serious as that in our faith we don't agree with it. We would never disown but we would let them know they're in a sense being selfish because I know my kids and I know damn well they want the family life and to be able to have their own kids and give us grand kids. He wouldn't physically strike them over and over until they change their mind. He more so says it as a scare tactic which I understand. The gay world is not a pretty one. The acts women do to each other but more so what men do to each other sexually is just appalling. It is not what God wanted either. A penis goes into a vagina. Not a penis into a butt hole. Its disgusting and degrading to a human. To their body. Ick. we cant and don't want to imagine our children doing as such.




Quoting chloedee:

The attitude of "I'll beat the gay out of them" is absolutely one that could, and does, drive teens to feelings or worthlessness and suicide.





Suggesting that your husband would physically beat your child because they came to you, hoping to be loved and accepted, is sickening. What is "right and just" is certainly not beating someone for their sexuality. In fact, that's called a hate crime.





Seriously sickening and disgusting. So happy to not believe in a God that would think people who would "beat the gay out" of their kids deserve them or are on the right path.






Quoting halinichols:

No. The way we raise our children has bot had an affect on other teens who kill themselves. I know you're looking for something to blame but its not my husband and I. Our kids love us and we love them and wanting them to respect us and learn what we are teaching them is no harmful. You have no clue how my family works but at least we all work together and no one is failing or misguided. Everyone is loved in this family and that's part of s making them, is to teach them what is right and just. If you can't do that don't have kids. I had kids to procreate under the will of my God who says marriage is for one man and one woman. Therefore my kids will be raised knowing that and obeying the creator who ultimately made them or else its just a slap in the face to God.








Quoting chloedee:

You and "daddy" are the reason gay teenagers have an exponentially high rate of suicide attempts. 

Don't bash when you just said your husband would physically assault your child for coming to you about who they are? Ya, right. People like you don't deserve children. 





Quoting halinichols:

Daddy would beat it out of them. Because it is a choice that we don't believe in and every bad choice has a bad consequence. We are Christians and raise our family to procreate like God wants. To have that man and woman bond. Procreation can't come from same sex. This is just our views as a family. Respect them please and don't bash.












halinichols
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 8:01 PM
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I don't care what you have to say about the way we raise our kids. I'm sure I wouldn't agree with things you do in your home either. I said my view and said respect me enough to not bash. And you dont have the slightest respect or knowledge to do that. I should have never responded to someone who doesn't listen to me.


Quoting chloedee:

I'm taking the fact that you said you'd beat your children too seriously? I'm not flippant about the idea of child abuse. Perhaps you are.



It's fine to be disappointed or surprised. The fact that your husband would threaten a beating, even as a "scare tactic" is appalling and indicative of the fact that, no, your home is not an accepting or unconditionally loving place for a teen that might be nervous to speak to you about something like this.



The fact that your children may find happiness is something other than what you do doesn't make them selfish. It makes them individuals with their own interests and passions.



Are you under the impression straight people don't have oral and anal sex? Hardly a matter of "the gay world".




Quoting halinichols:

I think you're taking it way too seriously. We don't abuse our children its just we would be very very disappointed with how much we teach them where they grew up spiritual and religion wise and them just shit on it so to speak. It is not a settling feeling for a parent to spend years teaching where and who they came from and what is expected of them for them to go and do whatever they please. I know it'll happen but with something as serious as that in our faith we don't agree with it. We would never disown but we would let them know they're in a sense being selfish because I know my kids and I know damn well they want the family life and to be able to have their own kids and give us grand kids. He wouldn't physically strike them over and over until they change their mind. He more so says it as a scare tactic which I understand. The gay world is not a pretty one. The acts women do to each other but more so what men do to each other sexually is just appalling. It is not what God wanted either. A penis goes into a vagina. Not a penis into a butt hole. Its disgusting and degrading to a human. To their body. Ick. we cant and don't want to imagine our children doing as such.






Quoting chloedee:

The attitude of "I'll beat the gay out of them" is absolutely one that could, and does, drive teens to feelings or worthlessness and suicide.







Suggesting that your husband would physically beat your child because they came to you, hoping to be loved and accepted, is sickening. What is "right and just" is certainly not beating someone for their sexuality. In fact, that's called a hate crime.







Seriously sickening and disgusting. So happy to not believe in a God that would think people who would "beat the gay out" of their kids deserve them or are on the right path.








Quoting halinichols:

No. The way we raise our children has bot had an affect on other teens who kill themselves. I know you're looking for something to blame but its not my husband and I. Our kids love us and we love them and wanting them to respect us and learn what we are teaching them is no harmful. You have no clue how my family works but at least we all work together and no one is failing or misguided. Everyone is loved in this family and that's part of s making them, is to teach them what is right and just. If you can't do that don't have kids. I had kids to procreate under the will of my God who says marriage is for one man and one woman. Therefore my kids will be raised knowing that and obeying the creator who ultimately made them or else its just a slap in the face to God.










Quoting chloedee:

You and "daddy" are the reason gay teenagers have an exponentially high rate of suicide attempts. 

Don't bash when you just said your husband would physically assault your child for coming to you about who they are? Ya, right. People like you don't deserve children. 






Quoting halinichols:

Daddy would beat it out of them. Because it is a choice that we don't believe in and every bad choice has a bad consequence. We are Christians and raise our family to procreate like God wants. To have that man and woman bond. Procreation can't come from same sex. This is just our views as a family. Respect them please and don't bash.













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chloedee
by Bronze Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 8:09 PM
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I have no problem bashing someone who loudly and proudly says they would beat and abuse an innocent child who came to them looking for love and support. I have plenty of respect and knowledge on how other human beings, especially children, should be treated, but you've made it apparent that you don't.


Quoting halinichols:

I don't care what you have to say about the way we raise our kids. I'm sure I wouldn't agree with things you do in your home either. I said my view and said respect me enough to not bash. And you dont have the slightest respect or knowledge to do that. I should have never responded to someone who doesn't listen to me.




Quoting chloedee:

I'm taking the fact that you said you'd beat your children too seriously? I'm not flippant about the idea of child abuse. Perhaps you are.





It's fine to be disappointed or surprised. The fact that your husband would threaten a beating, even as a "scare tactic" is appalling and indicative of the fact that, no, your home is not an accepting or unconditionally loving place for a teen that might be nervous to speak to you about something like this.





The fact that your children may find happiness is something other than what you do doesn't make them selfish. It makes them individuals with their own interests and passions.





Are you under the impression straight people don't have oral and anal sex? Hardly a matter of "the gay world".






Quoting halinichols:

I think you're taking it way too seriously. We don't abuse our children its just we would be very very disappointed with how much we teach them where they grew up spiritual and religion wise and them just shit on it so to speak. It is not a settling feeling for a parent to spend years teaching where and who they came from and what is expected of them for them to go and do whatever they please. I know it'll happen but with something as serious as that in our faith we don't agree with it. We would never disown but we would let them know they're in a sense being selfish because I know my kids and I know damn well they want the family life and to be able to have their own kids and give us grand kids. He wouldn't physically strike them over and over until they change their mind. He more so says it as a scare tactic which I understand. The gay world is not a pretty one. The acts women do to each other but more so what men do to each other sexually is just appalling. It is not what God wanted either. A penis goes into a vagina. Not a penis into a butt hole. Its disgusting and degrading to a human. To their body. Ick. we cant and don't want to imagine our children doing as such.








Quoting chloedee:

The attitude of "I'll beat the gay out of them" is absolutely one that could, and does, drive teens to feelings or worthlessness and suicide.









Suggesting that your husband would physically beat your child because they came to you, hoping to be loved and accepted, is sickening. What is "right and just" is certainly not beating someone for their sexuality. In fact, that's called a hate crime.









Seriously sickening and disgusting. So happy to not believe in a God that would think people who would "beat the gay out" of their kids deserve them or are on the right path.










Quoting halinichols:

No. The way we raise our children has bot had an affect on other teens who kill themselves. I know you're looking for something to blame but its not my husband and I. Our kids love us and we love them and wanting them to respect us and learn what we are teaching them is no harmful. You have no clue how my family works but at least we all work together and no one is failing or misguided. Everyone is loved in this family and that's part of s making them, is to teach them what is right and just. If you can't do that don't have kids. I had kids to procreate under the will of my God who says marriage is for one man and one woman. Therefore my kids will be raised knowing that and obeying the creator who ultimately made them or else its just a slap in the face to God.












Quoting chloedee:

You and "daddy" are the reason gay teenagers have an exponentially high rate of suicide attempts. 

Don't bash when you just said your husband would physically assault your child for coming to you about who they are? Ya, right. People like you don't deserve children. 







Quoting halinichols:

Daddy would beat it out of them. Because it is a choice that we don't believe in and every bad choice has a bad consequence. We are Christians and raise our family to procreate like God wants. To have that man and woman bond. Procreation can't come from same sex. This is just our views as a family. Respect them please and don't bash.















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girlsclubmom
by Bronze Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 8:35 PM

I am conservatve and honestly being gay is not something I want for my kids and I pray they are not. However, if they are I will always love and support them no matter what.

PinkButterfly66
by Silver Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 8:37 PM

Not at all conservative or religious.  I wouldn't care.  I would love her and whoever she brought home as long as she loved my daughter.

halinichols
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 9:50 PM
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You're dumb lol. I spank. Hate me even more. My kids are alive and well. I think you should be worrying about the kids in this world being abused by their parents. We love and enjoy the way we parent and wouldnt change a thing. Thanks and goodbye!


Quoting chloedee:

I have no problem bashing someone who loudly and proudly says they would beat and abuse an innocent child who came to them looking for love and support. I have plenty of respect and knowledge on how other human beings, especially children, should be treated, but you've made it apparent that you don't.




Quoting halinichols:

I don't care what you have to say about the way we raise our kids. I'm sure I wouldn't agree with things you do in your home either. I said my view and said respect me enough to not bash. And you dont have the slightest respect or knowledge to do that. I should have never responded to someone who doesn't listen to me.






Quoting chloedee:

I'm taking the fact that you said you'd beat your children too seriously? I'm not flippant about the idea of child abuse. Perhaps you are.







It's fine to be disappointed or surprised. The fact that your husband would threaten a beating, even as a "scare tactic" is appalling and indicative of the fact that, no, your home is not an accepting or unconditionally loving place for a teen that might be nervous to speak to you about something like this.







The fact that your children may find happiness is something other than what you do doesn't make them selfish. It makes them individuals with their own interests and passions.







Are you under the impression straight people don't have oral and anal sex? Hardly a matter of "the gay world".








Quoting halinichols:

I think you're taking it way too seriously. We don't abuse our children its just we would be very very disappointed with how much we teach them where they grew up spiritual and religion wise and them just shit on it so to speak. It is not a settling feeling for a parent to spend years teaching where and who they came from and what is expected of them for them to go and do whatever they please. I know it'll happen but with something as serious as that in our faith we don't agree with it. We would never disown but we would let them know they're in a sense being selfish because I know my kids and I know damn well they want the family life and to be able to have their own kids and give us grand kids. He wouldn't physically strike them over and over until they change their mind. He more so says it as a scare tactic which I understand. The gay world is not a pretty one. The acts women do to each other but more so what men do to each other sexually is just appalling. It is not what God wanted either. A penis goes into a vagina. Not a penis into a butt hole. Its disgusting and degrading to a human. To their body. Ick. we cant and don't want to imagine our children doing as such.










Quoting chloedee:

The attitude of "I'll beat the gay out of them" is absolutely one that could, and does, drive teens to feelings or worthlessness and suicide.











Suggesting that your husband would physically beat your child because they came to you, hoping to be loved and accepted, is sickening. What is "right and just" is certainly not beating someone for their sexuality. In fact, that's called a hate crime.











Seriously sickening and disgusting. So happy to not believe in a God that would think people who would "beat the gay out" of their kids deserve them or are on the right path.












Quoting halinichols:

No. The way we raise our children has bot had an affect on other teens who kill themselves. I know you're looking for something to blame but its not my husband and I. Our kids love us and we love them and wanting them to respect us and learn what we are teaching them is no harmful. You have no clue how my family works but at least we all work together and no one is failing or misguided. Everyone is loved in this family and that's part of s making them, is to teach them what is right and just. If you can't do that don't have kids. I had kids to procreate under the will of my God who says marriage is for one man and one woman. Therefore my kids will be raised knowing that and obeying the creator who ultimately made them or else its just a slap in the face to God.














Quoting chloedee:

You and "daddy" are the reason gay teenagers have an exponentially high rate of suicide attempts. 

Don't bash when you just said your husband would physically assault your child for coming to you about who they are? Ya, right. People like you don't deserve children. 








Quoting halinichols:

Daddy would beat it out of them. Because it is a choice that we don't believe in and every bad choice has a bad consequence. We are Christians and raise our family to procreate like God wants. To have that man and woman bond. Procreation can't come from same sex. This is just our views as a family. Respect them please and don't bash.

















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bless4more
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 10:30 PM

If my child told me they were gay I would at first be surprised because of how we raised them and secondly I would have to turn my back to them and lwt them know that they are dead to our family and good luck with your depraved lifestyle.  No where in the Bible does it condone homosexuals it however does condemn it as a henious act.  If you expect me to approve of how you think please do not disapprove of how I believe

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