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excerpted from The Awakening: Praying for God's Revival in America

by Wenjue Hu

copyright 2013

for such a time as this.

  1. How to overcome sexual addictions

Sexual addiction is an addiction that fills people’s emotional need for companionship. Their loneliness is taken away, and they are comforted by sex, so they continue in this addiction. Homosexuality, prostitution, premarital sex, and extramarital affairs are all examples of this addiction. If you have a committed and healthy marriage, then this is one easy way to overcome sexual addiction. You will be able to receive all fulfillment and companionship from sex within marriage instead. However, some people continue in sexual addiction even after marriage. The reason may be lack of commitment or relational discord within marriage, or pornography, and homosexuality. Counseling may help, but there may be need for a lot of healing in the individual’s life. Pornography should be given up completely. Although the mind may play games for you to encourage you in continuing pornography, that it helps you to be sexually knowledgeable and better in bed, but in actuality it only makes you more mechanical and a pervert. If you need to see naked images for medical related reason such as learning about labor and delivery during pregnancy, you should distinguish it from pornography which is for pleasure. For instance, you do not need to see breast augmentation if you are a man or if you do not have breast illnesses. However, for medical reasons, usually you would only need to see it very rarely, while people who are addicted to pornography spend tons of time in this.

After you throw away all porn from your life, and give up any from the internet and TV, you need to pray over this and renounce your past, and replace this with hobbies. For homosexuality and other sexual promiscuity, you should give up all of those relationships completely. You should cut off any contact by email and phone, and possibly even move.

If you are married, you should avoid starting new relationships by becoming emotionally involved. Tell your problems to your wife or accountability partner or group instead. Journal and read books and make use of the spiritual disciplines that I outlined in How to Overcome and Prevent Depression. Whenever you experience the need for sexual promiscuity, you can take comfort in your marriage instead.

Today in America, incest also exists, and is not against the law in some states. Although we tend to think of this horrendous sin as a missions field problem, but this is another one of the sexual sins that exists in America. Incest is loathed by God, and in the Bible is the cause of evil nations (Gen. 19:36-38). Medically there are consequences of double copies of genetic mutations surfacing in the offspring. Even if medically the offsprings are normal, but psychologically there are great issues that they will face. For instance, the serial killer Ted Bundy does not have a known father on paper and is likely from incest.

If the homosexual marriage laws are passed by the US government on March 27 of 2013, what will prevent other sexual immoralities such as incest and polygamy to follow as well. One argument for the proponents of homosexual marriage laws is stability and health. There is a lowering of the rate of HIV for homosexuals in homosexual marriage versus those who are not. However the problem with this argument is that the homosexual marriage law increases the overall rate of homosexuality, because the public view of homosexuality becomes acceptable. If the overall rate of homosexuality increases in America, the HIV rate will increase as well because HIV is much more prevalent in the homosexual population. Another thought is that perhaps by allowing homosexuality, then other sexual immoralities may decrease. However, this is an invalid argument, and favoring one sin over another does not make it not sinful. We must not play foolish mind games. We must not allow the homosexual marriage law to pass because we do not want our nation to become a homosexual nation, like Sodom and Gomorrah (Gen. 18-19). We must not allow the homosexual marriage law to pass because we do not want our next generation to become homosexual. Homosexuality is clearly sinful according to the Bible even in the New Testament (Rom. 1:26-27; 1 Cor. 6:9-11).

For all of these reasons, we cannot allow the government to pass the homosexual marriage laws. One of the reasons incest is still at a low rate in the US compared to homosexuality is that homosexuality has become acceptable and more so allowed by the laws, while everybody pretty much still thinks incest is wrong. For these reasons incest is not a great problem in the US, but it could become worse if we continue to ignore it or pass laws that condone sexual immoralities and worse. Individually if there are tendencies for incest, then you should again take comfort in your marriage instead, and do not be in situations where incest could potentially occur. For instance, if possible each child should have their own room, and if relatives visit they should sleep in the guestroom. If space is a problem, then you can make arrangements for each person or couple to have their individual bed, and have a chaperoned environment. It is best for women and men to have separate quarters, but in the atmosphere of the rise in homosexuality, even if women and men are separated, all activities must be chaperoned.

Further on, if you are using sexual promiscuity for personal gain, such as climbing up the ladder in the work place, or obtaining money, or feel like it makes you look good, then you need to seek God’s face and His humility in your life. So sorry if the society has become immoral, but can you remain moral nonetheless? Daniel was able to refuse to follow the king’s injunction, and continued to pray to God towards Jerusalem three times a day (Daniel 6).

Are you willing to live for Jesus similarly today? Living with Christian character, you will still have a competitive edge in the marketplace. For instance, Chick-fil-A is a popular US fast food restaurant chain. The owner is Christian who practices Christian values in his business, such as observing the Sabbath by having Sundays off. When you are set free completely over time, you will see that you will do much better at work with integrity, and look much better as a Godly family man that your relatives may come to Christ as a result. You should find legitimate ways to earn money instead, and be honored.

For people who are single, there is not the protective hedge of the healthy marriage to guard you in sexual morality. However, it should be all possible to remain pure as a single person. The family upbringing and values are helpful, as well as the church. I did this as a single person, and quenched any lustful thoughts from my mind, to the point that I averted sex and saw it as impure. If you are remaining single this is fine, and God will guard you from sexual promiscuity and homosexuality. For instance, some people have reported the late Christian writer and priest Henri Nouwen to be homosexual, however he never made any homosexual practices. Most importantly, you should be moral in your actions, and also you can make your thought life pure as well. If singlehood is not for you, and you burn with passion, then you should get married.

If you are single and dating, then this is also a great time of temptation today. The dating atmosphere in the US today is not good. Tons of effort and time are wasted in dating without result. Although internet matching is growing and providing some help, but overall the dating scene today is for fun and full of temptations. Immigrants really like it here in America when they do not have to endure the sufferings of arranged marriages, but then they aimlessly wander amidst a sea of sexual immorality instead. The book by Joshua Harris called I Kissed Dating Goodbye, as well as some others tell a different story from God’s perspective, that we need to stay pure before marriage. Instead of dating there should be courtship instead, and there should not be any physical intimacy. This includes no kissing. Today others in the Christian community preach a different message of different levels of physical intimacy allowed before marriage, particularly after engagement, including heavy patting. However, this is setting yourself up for trouble and increasing the likelihood of premarital sex.

Additionally it is pointless to date many people before deciding on the right one. You do not need to date somebody in the first place if they are not Christian and moral, or do not have the same dreams and visions, or other background and personality traits that you are looking for. Also in the end marriage is more about commitment so regardless of who you end up marrying you will need to commit to make the marriage work. Courtship is great to help you get to know the potential spouse, but the fewer persons you date, the purer you will remain. The Biblical pictures of courtship have usually been a short dating between two persons and marrying (Gen. 24; Ruth 2-4; Matt. 1:18-25). For Jacob although his dating period was much longer, but it was because of trickery by the father-in-law Laban (Gen. 29:20, 27). Some people today date many years before they marry, but this is not healthy and there are more chances of sexual immoralities to occur. You should really get to know the potential mate in group settings even before you date, and when you do court each other later you do not need to date for longer than a year. That will be more than enough time for you to get to know each other. If the person is not a good candidate for marriage to begin with, then you should not date that person. Some people spend years in dating because they are not mature enough for marriage yet. However in this case, they should not date and allow each other to grow in Christ instead. You can still be friends and help the other person to grow in Christ in a group setting or from a distance.

These are all reasons that internet matchmaking should grow to better match candidates for marriages that God designed for us. The best ways of the past, that parents and older folks of the church serve in matchmaking should also revive as well. They do not need to force people to marry the person that they date. But if they can help the younger people to find the right partner without sinful relations then we will be greatly reduced of our sexual immorality woes, and subsequently divorce. If every church in America could have a matchmaking ministry that provides compatible mates for life with courtship averages of one or two persons before marriage, then our nation will be completely changed with the return of sexual morality and life-time marriage.

by on Mar. 31, 2013 at 3:04 PM
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elzingah36
by Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:21 AM

You nut!
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LindaClement
by Thatwoman on Apr. 3, 2013 at 1:52 AM
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Yeah, they're not exactly mealy-mouthed about adulterers. Man, they go ON AND ON about that.

When was the last adulterer stoning in Detroit?

Quoting kailu1835:

Homosexuality is neither perverted nor sexually immoral.  If the Bible meant homosexuality, it would have SAID homosexuality, not skirted around it.  Nice try, though.


Quote Ezekiel 16:49-50:


Behold, this was the iniquity of thy sister Sodom, pride, fulness of bread, and abundance of idleness was in her and in her daughters, neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy. And they were haughty, and committed abomination before me: therefore I took them away as I saw good.

This pretty much just lays it all right out.  He says THIS is the sin of Sodom.  And then neglects to mention ANY sexual sins.

Quoting jillgirl256:



Quoting kailu1835:

Soddom and Ghomorroah were not "homosexual nations."  They were not destroyed for any homosexuality.  All through the bible there are references to why they were destroyed, and it never once made the list.  I quit reading the rest because frankly it disgusts me.  Quit using your Bible to dictate everyone else's lives.  Your Bible doesn't even support your point of view.  There is no logical reason to deny ANY SINGLE PERSON in this country their basic civil rights, of which marriage is one, other than flat out bigotry.

In a similar way, Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversion.  They serve as an example of those who suffer the punishment of eternal fire.  Jude 1:7




kailu1835
by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 2:27 AM

Sounds like the Church of Christ cult my mom was in when I was first born.  I don't remember which one, and I realize there are more than one that are not affiliated with each other in any way shape or form... I figure I'd better state that right now before I get someone jumping on me.  Any way, they were completely obsessed with making sure everyone was sexually pure, whatever that is.  They wanted parents to watch their infants like a hawk to make sure they never touched their genitals.  If a couple were accused of having sex in any way other than missionary, they had to stand up in the middle of church and confess to sexual sin, with all the kids right there.  I'm so glad she got out of that very quickly.  Way too much unhealthy obsession with sex.

Quoting Raintree:

hahahaahaaaaaa....

My favorite bit? The part about how ALL ACTIVITIES MUST BE CHAPERONED! or- All the children must have their own rooms.

Where is that the norm in the world, other than right here, where she's (?) concentrating all of her worry.

Come to think of it- this sounds like something my deranged sister-in-law would write. 


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kailu1835
by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 2:30 AM

So what possible reason did Abraham have for marrying his sister?  What possible reason did his grandson have for marrying his cousin?  They weren't hurting for people outside their immediate families to marry.  And their marriages were sanctioned by God.

Quoting hopelearn:

concerning incest: when people were originally created, they were brothers and sisters of Adam and Eve's offspring, so the progenies of our ancesters are from these brothers and sisters. however, after the fall, the world changed, and with time, more and more genetic mutations occurred in people (you can think of the ozone layer, uv radiation, and other pollution factors that cause this to be so), so at the present incest produces offsprings who are genetically ill. this is seen in the Amish people, as well as for other cultures that commonly practice incest. I met some people who have cousins as parents from Africa, and genetically they have many illnesses.


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AuntieL333
by Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:07 AM
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Sorry but I knew I was a lesbian long before I ever had my first experience with another woman. I also happen to believe that I am just as God made me. You can't pray the gay away, I tried and I kept getting the same answer over and over and that answer was NO. Some seem to forget that NO is also an answer. I am who I was born ot be and I also refuse to deny who I am in order to make small minded people fell a little bit better.

norahsmommy
by Bronze Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:38 AM
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Equal rights are very important. I will fight for someone's right to get married AFTER I see equal rights for all human beings to be born in the first place. Life first then other rights. Because without life, you don't need those other rights ;)


Quoting tweety101149:

 




Quoting norahsmommy:

there are more important issues than this. If there weren't more important things to take care of first I might have time to form a political opinion.

There are more important issues than EQUAL RIGHTS?  You would be singing a different tune if you were on the other side of the fence. 


 


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smileydawn
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 2:43 AM
Why so ignorant? Everyone deserves to love and be love. Man and woman, man and man, woman and woman. Pardon my french, but who the fuck are you? I cannot stand people like you! You're a hate monger. And what's worst is your kid\kids see your bigotry. And we can only hope that they realize that intolrance and hatred are not things you should harbor in your heart and become a better person then the example they're having set for them.
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tweety101149
by Platinum Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 7:17 PM

 From the day one is born all are created equal, there should be NO differences among any people.  No one should take priority over anyone.  Time to drop which race/nationality/religiion/gender/  sexual- orientation before or after anyone else.  They all deserve EQUAL voice.  Whether or not one has the right to be born over a mother's situation and her rights/medical is entirely anoter issue.

 P.S. This was delayed as I have continual issues with wi-fii and router. just got it working again today.  Thanks for understanding the delay ..

Quoting norahsmommy:

Equal rights are very important. I will fight for someone's right to get married AFTER I see equal rights for all human beings to be born in the first place. Life first then other rights. Because without life, you don't need those other rights ;)


Quoting tweety101149:

 


 


Quoting norahsmommy:

there are more important issues than this. If there weren't more important things to take care of first I might have time to form a political opinion.

There are more important issues than EQUAL RIGHTS?  You would be singing a different tune if you were on the other side of the fence. 


 


 

 

butterfly on headlynda  




norahsmommy
by Bronze Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 7:29 PM
A human beings right to life is a little more pressing than whether they can get married or not. Everyone should have the right to be born. After that they can grow up and get married. Equal rights for all, I do agree there ;).


Quoting tweety101149:

 From the day one is born all are created equal, there should be NO differences among any people.  No one should take priority over anyone.  Time to drop which race/nationality/religiion/gender/  sexual- orientation before or after anyone else.  They all deserve EQUAL voice.  Whether or not one has the right to be born over a mother's situation and her rights/medical is entirely anoter issue.


 P.S. This was delayed as I have continual issues with wi-fii and router. just got it working again today.  Thanks for understanding the delay ..


Quoting norahsmommy:

Equal rights are very important. I will fight for someone's right to get married AFTER I see equal rights for all human beings to be born in the first place. Life first then other rights. Because without life, you don't need those other rights ;)



Quoting tweety101149:


 



 



Quoting norahsmommy:

there are more important issues than this. If there weren't more important things to take care of first I might have time to form a political opinion.


There are more important issues than EQUAL RIGHTS?  You would be singing a different tune if you were on the other side of the fence. 



 



 


 


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tweety101149
by Platinum Member on Apr. 13, 2013 at 8:47 PM
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 Your are trying to hijack this topic..this debate is not about your concerns regarding gestation, this is about equal rights after gestation.   Got it?


Quoting norahsmommy:

A human beings right to life is a little more pressing than whether they can get married or not. Everyone should have the right to be born. After that they can grow up and get married. Equal rights for all, I do agree there ;).


Quoting tweety101149:

 From the day one is born all are created equal, there should be NO differences among any people.  No one should take priority over anyone.  Time to drop which race/nationality/religiion/gender/  sexual- orientation before or after anyone else.  They all deserve EQUAL voice.  Whether or not one has the right to be born over a mother's situation and her rights/medical is entirely anoter issue.


 P.S. This was delayed as I have continual issues with wi-fii and router. just got it working again today.  Thanks for understanding the delay ..

butterfly on headlynda  




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