How much information should you share about yourself online?
We need intimate friendships. We need people we can trust. We share our fears and hopes with others who understand how we feel and and think.
But these days, intimate friendships are rare. We have lots of excuses for not having close friends--too little time, so many obligations, always on the move. We can hardly find time to spend with our family, much less to form and nurture deep and lasting friendships. But the real reason for lacking friends usually goes much deeper. Many of us are not sure what real friendship means. We worry about obligations it brings and what we might have to give up for friendship.
A true friend is willing to lay down his life for another. That doesn’t mean real friendship is only proven in moments of physical danger. Rather, that the commitment of friendship extends beyond times of joy, to times of sadness and despair. We are resolved to maintain the relationship even when things go wrong, when disagreements threaten separation, when sacrifices are required of us to keep the friendship healthy.
When we know the meaning of real friendship, we understand why it is so rare and valuable. It takes so much courage to show who we really are. Intimacy means vulnerability. It’s always possible that when we offer what is most precious to us, it will be rejected.