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WTF Is Going On In North Carolina? Another New Worthless Bill

2013/04/07
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I can't make you love me

North Carolina’s proposed, “Healthy Marriage Act,” is amending their current divorce law by extending the hold from a one-year wait to a two-year wait, before a divorce can be final.

Yes. If you live in North Carolina, the Republican government wants all of you — your body, your religion, your voting rights, and your marital status.

They continue to pass horrendous anti-choice laws, one of them forcing a women wanting an abortion to view an ultrasound of the fetus and be lectured on it. They go one step further into, “Are You Kidding Me Land,’ by requesting the this be done four hours before the procedure.

Now, in the last few weeks:

In many divorces, the spouse initiating a divorce has contemplated leaving for an average of two years before taking action. You can’t force people to love each other. And how about a marriage where one spouse is blatantly cheating. Or worse, what about a women –or man – in an emotionally abusive marriage (assuming physical abuse would be cause for exemption.) This law makes it much easier for the abusive partner to control their spouse’s life, finances and happiness for one more year.

What is up with North Carolina?

Explanation: Republicans gained full, veto-proof, control of the North Carolina government after the 2012 elections. They can do whatever they want. And North Carolina citizens are forced to pay for these bozos to come up with bogus, and often unconstitutional, laws. Is there some kind a weekly bill-proposing quota? Do they get paid extra?

This two-year hold on a divorce states:

During the two-year waiting period, the husband and wife have each completed courses on (i) improving communication skills and (ii) conflict resolution. Courses required by this subdivision do not have to be completed together as a couple.

Given how well the NC Republicans are divorcing themselves from the Constitution, basic civil rights, and from sanity, perhaps they can take the same courses in communication skills and conflict resolution. But we’ll take the high road, and exempt them from waiting two years before leaving.

http://www.addictinginfo.org/2013/04/07/wtf-is-going-on-in-north-carolina-another-new-worthless-bill/

by on Apr. 7, 2013 at 2:41 PM
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talia-mom
by Gold Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 8:34 PM

I think a government should let contracts end like this.


But when you let the state grant you legal rights, you give them right to do t his.

x_Starr_x
by Bronze Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 8:37 PM
its not really inforced my friend left her husband and 2 mo later got a divorce they both resided in nc and this was a little over a yr ago.
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by on Apr. 7, 2013 at 8:40 PM
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AdrianneHill
by Platinum Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 8:44 PM
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I think South and North Carolina have the same exemptions from the present one year waiting period which are the same as getting a divorce with fault. I think they are the three A's: abuse, adultery, and abandonment (or is that one addiction?). The no fault divorce requires the waiting period.
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FromAtoZ
by AllieCat on Apr. 7, 2013 at 8:47 PM

So glad I do not live in this state.

A 6 month waiting period makes sense.  Maybe even a 1 year waiting period, although I am not a fan.

But two years.  Ridiculous.

..MoonShine..
by Redwood Witch on Apr. 7, 2013 at 8:51 PM
I think this frequentlyy.

Quoting jessilin0113:

Jesus.  "Small government" my ass.  

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tambrathegreat
by on Apr. 7, 2013 at 8:56 PM

They want small government, unless it's your private life. Then they are all up in it.

Quoting jessilin0113:

Jesus.  "Small government" my ass.  



FromAtoZ
by AllieCat on Apr. 7, 2013 at 9:06 PM


Quoting DestinyHLewis:


I do t care who they are mandated by. The classes I have in mind are more geared toward couples with children. It has zero to do with my faith or Registered Party. I think all couples should have to go through some kind of classes in order to have more information on how to deal with these situations. There are so many ugly divorces and breakups these days, and if kiddos are involved, they are the true victims. A lot of times the adults cannot see the forest before the trees in their anger. KWIM? 

Quoting LucyMom08:

 I don't think the classes are a bad idea, but 'government mandated' classes by the GOP is completely hypocritical...they scream about small government...how does this claim to be small government?

And I completely agree with the rest of your comment...

Quoting DestinyHLewis:

I don't think its a bad idea to require married people to take certain courses prior to divorce. However, 2 years is nuts. I have several friends that thankfully were able to get a very quick divorce for reasons of safety, financial stability, and sanity. I cannot imagine if those friends of mine were stuck in those situations because the gov't decided they needed to be. 

 



I can certainly see how a class, or two, MAY be beneficial to those seeking a divorce, especially with children involved.  But then we will run in to the who will pay and the 'I can't afford it' aspect.  

But even so, I can see it being beneficial if the parties involved are able to see past that forest.  

During my divorce, it was required that we attend a parenting seminar.  Or so it stated.  There was a way out if one looked hard enough.  There should be no way out, regardless of your job, your situation.  The seminar was very informative.  Brought to light, to the surface, aspects you tend to forget, or that get buried, during an ugly divorce.  I attended right away, within the time limit allowed, and glad I did.  It opened my eyes to many things and it was a damn good reality check for me.

But we can't make people take in any information they are not willing to be open to.

grandmab125
by Gold Member on Apr. 7, 2013 at 11:57 PM

 Well, you all can thank Obama's lack of leadership, taxing, spending, excessive laws, the stimulus pkg, and on and on for the increase in Republican govs.  NC hadn't had a republican gov in 20 years, till 2012.  In 2012, republicans won governships in 8 of 10 formerly democratically controlled swing states.  Republicans now own 30 states, 19 still have a dem, and one, Rhode Island is an Independent.  Remember how we got back control of the House.....Obamacare accomplished that one, mostly. 

HaleyCovington
by Member on Apr. 8, 2013 at 12:06 AM
There was already a one year separation law required there.... If you don't want to be with someone then I don't think the state should be able to legally bind you to them for an extra 2 years. I feel bad for the people that don't have stable spouses and have to go through 2 years of counseling before they can try and move on.

Quoting DestinyHLewis:

I don't think its a bad idea to require married people to take certain courses prior to divorce. However, 2 years is nuts. I have several friends that thankfully were able to get a very quick divorce for reasons of safety, financial stability, and sanity. I cannot imagine if those friends of mine were stuck in those situations because the gov't decided they needed to be. 

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